100% correct it has to be fun for everyone or it isn’t happening!! 
Stag Vixen (non-cuckold)
- Thread starter Kara Sweet
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(Husband here)
And what a Vixen she is!! YOU are one lucky man!We agree with you 1,000%! The sexual stimulation and pleasure I get when I watch a black man fuck my wife is beyond description, as you well know. Seeing her respond to him and thoroughly enjoy what he is doing to her only increases that. A few seconds after he is done I like to be pushing into that soft, wet place that he just left. We could never explain this to someone who has not experienced it, so we seldom try, but it is gratifying to talk with a couple who understand this kind of fun. We're glad we saw your posting.
We are not really in to the "cuck" thing at all either. We are great together, have a great sex life, he shares me and lets me play alone and we have threesomes as well. He lets other guys take me to lifestyle clubs and events when he's out of town. He does cleanup but that's not any kind of "cuck" thing. He picks my dates often, helps me choose outfits and puts my HotWife anklet on me before dates. That's as far as it goes.
Dee
Dee
We agree that few of the couples in a Stag Vixen relationship post on this site, but are discovering that there are MANY who like and participate in this kind of thing. It's just that the cuckold group is a bit more vocal.
Same here. I can't imagine my husband submitting to anybody, to be honest. There's no humiliation, at least not explicit outward humiliation. (I know sometimes that can be a complexity of fantasy, but we have never played it out.) No bulls get to me unless my husband agrees. That's just the way it goes... he is forever and always my protector, and that keeps it erotic. I love that he loves to watch, and he's welcome to join in too -- always.
This is all great to hear! We are new to site and were kind hesitant thinking it was pretty much bbc/humiliation/cuck specific haha
What a delightful arrangement! It's much like what we have, where either of us has veto power over any man who wants to join us. For any reason either can just prevent him from joining or continuing to meet with us. This is all about US, and the lucky men are just an addition to, not a replacement for. That has worked for us since day one.
No, it isn't the only aspect of the lifestyle! As you can see from the multitude of posts, there are a lot of us who don't humiliate, nor do we like to see, our husband's humiliated.
There is a vocal portion of people with various motives, coupled by strong desires to be humiliated. I am not casting dispersions about that desire at all. What ever works is good for them. But the folks in here believe that there may be another approach, and love to see folks like you with similar attitudes.
As you explore this lifestyle, remember, despite what others may tell you, there are no rules. If you and your hubby get turned on during an encounter with a black guy while you wear party hats, that's great! Whatever works for you. So don't let others change you into their perception of ideal. What works for them, may not work for you.
A wise approach would be to regard all advice as simply a 'suggestion' - cut your own wake (as my husband loves to say!)
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Donna
that sounds ideal. i'd love for my wife to play alone, go to clubs, etc.
I don't even knowwhere the black clubs in Austin are.
I think you speak for a lot of us couples.
Thank you very much!
Stag/Vixen here
Great looking couple! If you ever want to chat, drop me a note!
That is very good and sensible advice and perfectly illustrates our philosophy where this is concerned. These things are private and involve only the three (four??) people participating, so it's not necessary to get anyone's approval or to justify anything. We believe that if a couple is able follow their instincts and use common sense, then they'll be less likely to have problems. All things considered, this IS a wonderful way to express and enjoy your sexuality.
that us if he said no, no it no if i say no it no to, I never meet with anyone with out him there, if he set me up with a guy and i;m not into his i say no he will never ask me why we just leave , we have been in the lifestyle for over 15 years ,and that the way it been all a long, I that that why it work so well with us
(Husband here) Excellent presentation! We’ve never understood the cuckold outlook on this, but then, we don’t have to understand it. As long as the adherents are happy with it, who are we to complain? Not every black man that we’ve met has been a gentleman, but every one we’ve invited to join us in bed was certainly just that. In our case, she is more interested in somewhat regular meetings with the same man, rather than a different one each time, so these dates have a pronounced social aspect for us as well. Before and after, we talk and interact in the same way that we do with our other friends, the dress code being an obvious exception.
The great majority of them (Well, we haven’t been with THAT many!) have taken great pride in their ability to sexually please a woman and my wife has always ended an evening tired, but with a big smile. Some on here will be shocked at this, but every one has been married. We believe that a married man has as much to lose as we do, so he will be more careful and not as likely to brag or just let something slip.
The Queen's English has be De-throned. LOLIt`s disillusioning how terms are being used, misused or reinvented.
(referring to "hotwife", "cuckold", "bull", "queen of spades", ...)
I’m sooooo happy to see this thread. To all the wives giving their husbands the respect they deserve:
THANK YOU
If a man is going to allow his wive to have sex with great sexual men, they should be adored by their wife.
THANK YOU
If a man is going to allow his wive to have sex with great sexual men, they should be adored by their wife.
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