Solo dates: how soon?

[Rikochan]

Solo dating questions for hotwives!

How soon after getting into the hotwife LS did you start meeting bulls for sex without husband being present at all?

How many times do you host a guy with your husband present before you feel safe alone with that guy?

How long did it take before you did your first all-nighter at the bulls place or a hotel with no husband?

How long did it take before you first spent a weekend alone with your bull?

What percent of your dates are without husband now?

Do you prefer solo dates or to have husband there?

 

[ottawacuckcpl]

Hi there,

Cuckold husband here, but I can share some of our experiences as a cuckold couple.

Short version is we started out always playing together, and now it's a 50/50 mix of her going out on her own and me being present in the room, though she won't do any overnights. And it only takes her one date with a Bull to know if she would see him alone or not. She has told me its mostly about chemistry, the stronger the chemistry is the more likely she'll want to be with him alone.

Long version...

My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for about four years now, though hampered by the pandemic, we have generally averaged seeing a Bull (either new or regular) once every few months.

For the first three years, my wife and I always played together. I was always there or in the same vicinity, if not exactly there. For example, sometimes I would be sent to the guest bedroom and she and her Bull would take over the Master bedroom.

This last year, we began to explore her meeting up with Bulls completely alone. First it started with dirty talk between her and I, and then more longer conversations exploring the details of how it could work, until one day we decided to try it with one of her regular Bulls.

I booked a hotel, took her to the hotel, checked in, and escorted her to the room. Watched her put on some sexy lingerie, before she told me she got a text from him that he was parking and I should be going.

I didn't hear from them until he sent me a text hours later that night. It was a picture of her, on her back on the bed, his cum dripping out of her. He didn't say much, just that he was "done with her" and that I should "come get your women".

That night went really well, for both of us. I really enjoyed the humiliation of not being allowed to be there, and she liked being able to focus her attention on her Bull and worrying less about me.

Since that night, we've averaged about a 50 / 50 split of play dates where she either meets her Bull alone, or where I'm in the room or nearby.

She has never mentioned anything about having a preference (at least not to me), and has said she enjoys aspects of both.

Hope that's helpful in some way.

 

[Jdingo619]

Solo dating questions for hotwives!

How soon after getting into the hotwife LS did you start meeting bulls for sex without husband being present at all?

How many times do you host a guy with your husband present before you feel safe alone with that guy?

How long did it take before you did your first all-nighter at the bulls place or a hotel with no husband?

How long did it take before you first spent a weekend alone with your bull?

What percent of your dates are without husband now?

Do you prefer solo dates or to have husband there?

As a real lifestyle BBC Bull I know a man's hotwife is his most precious and prized possession and it's a huge honor to be able to enjoy her pleasurable company in his presence. I know that I need to be a gentleman, be respectful to them and respect their boundaries, make her feel desired, perform well with that BBC, and help fulfill their fantasies all while showing myself to be trustworthy!

When they are comfortable enough and I have earned their trust checking off all of the boxes then they will offer me time alone with the hotwife. I have never had to ask for private time it has always been offered and given because I earned it by being everything that they expected and more!

Only you as a couple know when it's time for the hotwife to spend private time with the Bull. A Bull that asks for private time before it's been offered hasn't earned it and is only thinking about himself.

 

[LargoCouple727]

It depends of the connection for all involved. I started spending the night with a bbc after a few weeks. Once I found a bbc that I really connected with and wanted to have a long term relationship with my hubby and I had a long talk. It was an opportunity for hubby to establish rules and for him to know He owned my heart but this bbc was going to own my body. Communication is a requirement for the primary and secondary relationships to survive,

 

[Rikochan]

It depends of the connection for all involved. I started spending the night with a bbc after a few weeks. Once I found a bbc that I really connected with and wanted to have a long term relationship with my hubby and I had a long talk. It was an opportunity for hubby to establish rules and for him to know He owned my heart but this bbc was going to own my body. Communication is a requirement for the primary and secondary relationships to survive,

That makes a lot of sense! Thanks for sharing that!

 

[Rikochan]

As a real lifestyle BBC Bull I know a man's hotwife is his most precious and prized possession and it's a huge honor to be able to enjoy her pleasurable company in his presence. I know that I need to be a gentleman, be respectful to them and respect their boundaries, make her feel desired, perform well with that BBC, and help fulfill their fantasies all while showing myself to be trustworthy!

When they are comfortable enough and I have earned their trust checking off all of the boxes then they will offer me time alone with the hotwife. I have never had to ask for private time it has always been offered and given because I earned it by being everything that they expected and more!

Only you as a couple know when it's time for the hotwife to spend private time with the Bull. A Bull that asks for private time before it's been offered hasn't earned it and is only thinking about himself.

Very cool to get an answer from the bull’s POV! Thanks for such a thoughtful reply. How many dates has it typically taken before they make the offer?

 

[Rikochan]

Hi there,

Cuckold husband here, but I can share some of our experiences as a cuckold couple.

Short version is we started out always playing together, and now it's a 50/50 mix of her going out on her own and me being present in the room, though she won't do any overnights. And it only takes her one date with a Bull to know if she would see him alone or not. She has told me its mostly about chemistry, the stronger the chemistry is the more likely she'll want to be with him alone.

Long version...

My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for about four years now, though hampered by the pandemic, we have generally averaged seeing a Bull (either new or regular) once every few months.

For the first three years, my wife and I always played together. I was always there or in the same vicinity, if not exactly there. For example, sometimes I would be sent to the guest bedroom and she and her Bull would take over the Master bedroom.

This last year, we began to explore her meeting up with Bulls completely alone. First it started with dirty talk between her and I, and then more longer conversations exploring the details of how it could work, until one day we decided to try it with one of her regular Bulls.

I booked a hotel, took her to the hotel, checked in, and escorted her to the room. Watched her put on some sexy lingerie, before she told me she got a text from him that he was parking and I should be going.

I didn't hear from them until he sent me a text hours later that night. It was a picture of her, on her back on the bed, his cum dripping out of her. He didn't say much, just that he was "done with her" and that I should "come get your women".

That night went really well, for both of us. I really enjoyed the humiliation of not being allowed to be there, and she liked being able to focus her attention on her Bull and worrying less about me.

Since that night, we've averaged about a 50 / 50 split of play dates where she either meets her Bull alone, or where I'm in the room or nearby.

She has never mentioned anything about having a preference (at least not to me), and has said she enjoys aspects of both.

Hope that's helpful in some way.

Very helpful! It makes me feel reassured that I’m not totally an outlier for wanting to spend time alone with a bull after just one or two dates!

 

[rock]

It took my wife about a year before she went on dates without me. However she had had several sleepovers at our house before she started dating. After she started dating sometimes those dates turned into weekends. She even went on a couple of week long vacations with different black guys.

 

[Rikochan]

It took my wife about a year before she went on dates without me. However she had had several sleepovers at our house before she started dating. After she started dating sometimes those dates turned into weekends. She even went on a couple of week long vacations with different black guys.

Thanks for this! I’m definitely thinking about sleepovers, for sure!

 

[Jdingo619]

Very cool to get an answer from the bull’s POV! Thanks for such a thoughtful reply. How many dates has it typically taken before they make the offer?

It usually takes about 3 to 4 dates and treating wifey to some serious ******* in front of hubby for him to know that I'm all about showing his wife a wonderful time no matter what.

If hubby See's that you like each other and you always get satisfied and the Bull is cool and is good to you then he will allow you to have the alone time!

 

[Wildcplnslc]

As a real lifestyle BBC Bull I know a man's hotwife is his most precious and prized possession and it's a huge honor to be able to enjoy her pleasurable company in his presence. I know that I need to be a gentleman, be respectful to them and respect their boundaries, make her feel desired, perform well with that BBC, and help fulfill their fantasies all while showing myself to be trustworthy!

When they are comfortable enough and I have earned their trust checking off all of the boxes then they will offer me time alone with the hotwife. I have never had to ask for private time it has always been offered and given because I earned it by being everything that they expected and more!

Only you as a couple know when it's time for the hotwife to spend private time with the Bull. A Bull that asks for private time before it's been offered hasn't earned it and is only thinking about himself.

This guy gets it.

 

[Ezekiel]

It took my wife about a year before she went on dates without me. However she had had several sleepovers at our house before she started dating. After she started dating sometimes those dates turned into weekends. She even went on a couple of week long vacations with different black guys.

That is almost identical to the way we started and when she started solo dating. She loved spending weekends with her guys in San Antonio which is about 3 hours from us. And her first trip was to San Francisco with a guy she was dating who had a week long training session there. He introduced her as his GF to people at the training session. She loved that play and the public exposure since we were ultra discreet here and no one knew. She still loves traveling with her guys. I get so horny knowing what she is doing and waiting for her calls.

 

[Rikochan]

It usually takes about 3 to 4 dates and treating wifey to some serious ******* in front of hubby for him to know that I'm all about showing his wife a wonderful time no matter what.

If hubby See's that you like each other and you always get satisfied and the Bull is cool and is good to you then he will allow you to have the alone time!

Yeah, a lot of it is hubs’ level of trust with the guy, right?

 

[Rikochan]

That is almost identical to the way we started and when she started solo dating. She loved spending weekends with her guys in San Antonio which is about 3 hours from us. And her first trip was to San Francisco with a guy she was dating who had a week long training session there. He introduced her as his GF to people at the training session. She loved that play and the public exposure since we were ultra discreet here and no one knew. She still loves traveling with her guys. I get so horny knowing what she is doing and waiting for her calls.

A hotwife training session? That sounds intense!

 

[Jdingo619]

Yeah, a lot of it is hubs’ level of trust with the guy, right?

Yes! As long as the Bull can be trusted to keep you safe and well satisfied beyond expectations then at some point he should be trusted with alone time from time to time because it can only get better!

 

[dickhurtz472]

As a real lifestyle BBC Bull I know a man's hotwife is his most precious and prized possession and it's a huge honor to be able to enjoy her pleasurable company in his presence. I know that I need to be a gentleman, be respectful to them and respect their boundaries, make her feel desired, perform well with that BBC, and help fulfill their fantasies all while showing myself to be trustworthy!

When they are comfortable enough and I have earned their trust checking off all of the boxes then they will offer me time alone with the hotwife. I have never had to ask for private time it has always been offered and given because I earned it by being everything that they expected and more!

Only you as a couple know when it's time for the hotwife to spend private time with the Bull. A Bull that asks for private time before it's been offered hasn't earned it and is only thinking about himself.

 

[Mrhowcani]

As a real lifestyle BBC Bull I know a man's hotwife is his most precious and prized possession and it's a huge honor to be able to enjoy her pleasurable company in his presence. I know that I need to be a gentleman, be respectful to them and respect their boundaries, make her feel desired, perform well with that BBC, and help fulfill their fantasies all while showing myself to be trustworthy!

When they are comfortable enough and I have earned their trust checking off all of the boxes then they will offer me time alone with the hotwife. I have never had to ask for private time it has always been offered and given because I earned it by being everything that they expected and more!

Only you as a couple know when it's time for the hotwife to spend private time with the Bull. A Bull that asks for private time before it's been offered hasn't earned it and is only thinking about himself.

Well said coming from a 26 yr Vet Bull your reputation as a trustworthy Bull goes a long way.

 

[KBOZ69]

First time should be hotel with hubby present .
Second time at your own home .
Then let her fly .

 

[JenNWayne]

It depends of the connection for all involved. I started spending the night with a bbc after a few weeks. Once I found a bbc that I really connected with and wanted to have a long term relationship with my hubby and I had a long talk. It was an opportunity for hubby to establish rules and for him to know He owned my heart but this bbc was going to own my body. Communication is a requirement for the primary and secondary relationships to survive,

Yup, depends on the wife-lover bond!

 

[OlderCouple88]

That is almost identical to the way we started and when she started solo dating. She loved spending weekends with her guys in San Antonio which is about 3 hours from us. And her first trip was to San Francisco with a guy she was dating who had a week long training session there. He introduced her as his GF to people at the training session. She loved that play and the public exposure since we were ultra discreet here and no one knew. She still loves traveling with her guys. I get so horny knowing what she is doing and waiting for her calls.

Yes when we were active in the lifestyle, and my wife discovered BBC around 48 years old, We had a couple of guys come to our house, but what changed it , was we got invited to a BBC gang bang party in London, There were 4 other white couples there,as well.
My Wife by now loved a big black/coloured cock,and was now used to double and triple penetration.
She had quite a few guys that night, and was very exciting for me watching, ( I must say the cum patch on the sheet underneath Her was about 18 ins in dia.
It Was after this when having sex, with Her just Her and Me, She said that She enjoyed having a really big coloured guy.
She found a guy around 18/19 years younger than Her, He,was truly massively hung.
She absolutely adored Him fucking Her, They had a nearly 10 year relationship.
During which She done and tried everything He suggested, ( With a bit of suggestion from Me ), and Him.
I think She was a bit infatuated with Him.
It is a good job He had a young family, whom He,clearly loved.
He always said, there is nothing quite like a dirty minded Woman, who loved pleasing a man.
All this is long since passed now, and just memories .