Serious & loving cuckold relationship desired

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Britwhitecuck, Aug 21, 2012.

  1. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    I am by nature a very loving and caring guy but at the same time a cuckold who loves white women who like big black men - how do I and other interracial cuckolds reconcile caring for and loving a partner but also get such a thrill out of seeing her with and knowing she likes big black men? Can the sexual fetish be reconciled with a loving long-term relationship?

    I know that when I state I'm looking for a white girl who likes big black men it appears as if I'm objectifying the girl and she is no more than an object, but that isn't meant to be the case. It is only the starting point from which I hope will spring a fully-fledged and loving relationship. I'm sure other cuckolds feel the same but have similar problems in conveying their feelings and desires.

    I'm aware that most females can't grasp the cuckold concept and fetish as I think it's largely a male-male phenomenon involving alpha and beta males and male-male competition. This is probably more pronounced with black males & white males as the black men are usually bigger and stronger and perhaps it taps into some primal sexual phenomenon where smaller males get sexually excited by being submissive to dominant males. The sexual arousal at being submissive then allows the dominant males to mate with the females without having to compete with the beta males and this increases group harmony. Just a theory.

    Anyway regardless of its origins quite a few of us white guys have deep desires to find and care for a white girl who likes big black men. I, and other white cuckolds feel that we can have a loving sexual relationship too but we genuinely feel that we want our partners to experience a kind of sexual satisfaction that we can't give them. This is a sexual satisfaction that can best be sated by mating with a big black man, and that experience cannot be had with a cuckold male no matter how loving and affectionate he may be.

    I think a female's femininity is only enhanced by her wanting to fuck an alpha black man and this makes her more attractive to a cuckold. The fact that I want my partner to experience sex with big blacks doesn't detract from the fact that I care for her deeply, I just want her to experience a pleasure that I can't give. Yes, it also turns me on too knowing my partner likes black men, and this is why us cucks specify we want a BBC loving female at the outset of a relationship - and this undoubtedly makes us look odd in the eyes of most.

    I love interracial sex between white women and big black men and want to share this with a partner. I know so many white cucks feel the same but it's not easy to admit in this society. Love is supposed to be displayed by a monogamous relationship where both partners are 'true' to each other regardless of sexual or other disappointments. Why should sexual pleasure only be something your partner gives you? I want my partner to be happy regardless of who is giving her pleasure and I hope that this is reciprocated, although having a cuckold mentality I don't desire any other partner.

    Cuckolding may tap into a very primal male-male competitive streak but it can lead to a fulfilling relationship in the modern world, I have no doubt about this. So ladies please give us more consideration when looking for a partner. We can offer a stable long-term relationship with the added thrill of black men being an ongoing part of your life.
    Wayne
     
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  2. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    Very nice, Wayne.

    Another way to consider it, is like a beehive with the Wife as the Queen, her lovers as the drones and the cuckold as all the other bees combined.

    The Queen (Wife) maintains the order in the hive as well as providing the eggs to continue the hives existence.
    The drones (lovers) exist solely to mate with the Queen.
    The worker bees, although females in a real beehive, take care of all of the Queen's and drones' needs, the foragers provide nourishment for the hive and the guardians protect the hive. The cuckold husband essentially assumes all of these roles.

    What woman wouldn't care to be Queen, to be able to enjoy many lovers and still have a loving devoted husband to care for all of her needs and desires?

    Best of luck to you in finding your Queen! :)
     
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  3. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    I like that analogy willsrvu! And the Queen must be white and the drones big and black!
     
  4. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    Happy you like the analogy, but personally, I prefer to be "color blind".
    Queens come in all of the beautiful colors, shades and hues that exist as do drones and cuckolds. The only thing that matters is having a happy, harmonious hive and a well satisfied Queen.
     
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  5. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    Good point willsrvu, but I must admit to prejudice here! I think the combination of a white Queen, her white cuck and some big black drones will enhance the likelihood of satisfaction, harmony and plenty of offspring.
     
  6. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    Not a problem, although it may not necessarily be prejudice more so than preference, as long as you are OK with the other possibilities. If people didn't have preferences, this site wouldn't exist. :)
     
  7. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    I agree willsrvu. And my preferences are strong! Got a black & white perspective on all things sexual!
     
  8. hotjen

    hotjen Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    get in touch
     
  9. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    For some of us white guys being a cuck is our essence, hardly even a choice. And I think we could be good partners to black loving white women and offer a complementary experience to the dominant black bull.
     
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  10. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    Would love to meet any UK white women who like black males or white girls who'd like a black baby.
     
  11. serventruss

    serventruss Member

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    I do understand your preference for it being black men that sex our white women, however I feel 'willsrvu' makes the point that as a cuck you are not going to be able to dictate who the woman has sex with. Your preference is just that, YOUR preference, and probably won't be considered very heavily.
     
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  12. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    Cuckolds come in all different colors as well, it's just that the "mainstream" seems to be white as most other races and their cultures are not as open to airing the "humiliation" of being cuckolded as readily as many white males are.

    Yes, a loving cuckold can be a great asset to a woman who enjoys sex with other partners and many of those benefits are enjoyed by the woman's lovers as well.
     
  13. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    This is absolutely true. If you are a loving mate who is accepting being cuckolded, your focus should be on your lady's pleasure and only that.
    What and who make her happy is her choice. If that happens at any given time to coincide with your fantasy fulfillment, that's great but you can't be devoted to her pleasure if you are dictating to her how she should achieve it.

    This isn't to say that you couldn't try to increase the possibility of being with a woman who prefers the same type of men that you fantasize your mate being with.
    However, this will extremely limit your possibilities of finding a compatible mate that will exercise her option to cuckold you at all, let alone with a specific type of man, and even if you found the ideal woman who is excited about being able to cuckold you with the exact sort of man that you envision today, there is nothing to say that she won't find a totally different type of man attractive sometime in the future.

    What would you do then? Leave her? That wouldn't be something a loving, devoted cuckold would do is it?

    Too many men have the fantasy without understanding the reality and this is why they rarely find a compatible partner and they will never be truly satisfied.
    HINT: being a cuckold is exactly the same as being a loving, devoted husband who places his Wife on a pedestal and puts her joy, happiness and pleasure above his own. Should her sexual satisfaction require more than he himself can give, he provides for her by accepting her need to be pleasured and enables her in every way possible to achieve the total satisfaction she craves even though it means she has to experience it with other sexual partners.

    If you are truly cut out for being a cuckold, you need to find a woman to adore and devote yourself to, and, IF she has the desire or need to cuckold you, it MAY happen. If it doesn't, you should be happy at being incredibly fortunate to have found a wonderful woman to share your life with.
    Your odds of finding a more compatible mate will be better if you are totally open and honest about sexual matters during your courtship. Too many people get together and hide their "dark desires" because they are afraid of scaring the other off.
    Guess what, if it scares them great, find someone else and save both of you from wasting life in an unhappy marriage.

    If you are in this only to satisfy your fantasies and not to relish the joys of having a loving, totally happy and satisfied Wife .... good luck.
     
  14. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    I appreciate some of what you say willsrvu and much of what you say can apply to mistakes I've made in the past and still currently do. However, I now know that for me to be sexually fulfilled and be able to share the accompanying intimacies and friendship I must be a partner to a white/Asian female who likes black men - that is a must. Hence from the outset I'm looking for a woman who likes black men but may also want a white cuck. Of course that narrows the field down but for me it is a necessary starting point, and from then on all the other dating rules apply - chemistry, shared values, lifestyle choices etc, etc.
     
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  15. willsrvu

    willsrvu Administrator Real Person Gold Member

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    You are going about it exactly as you should.
    You have identified specific things that you know you can't or would find difficult to do without and you accept the limitations that places on your ability to find an acceptable partner. I'm certain, as these things are important to you, that you will be open about them and discuss them with any potential partner to insure that there is compatibility regarding them.

    Beyond those items you are wise enough to know that you still need to address all the other issues that go into a real relationship and are not approaching this simply as a fantasy fulfillment.

    I wish you the best possible fortune in finding a compatible mate. :)
     
  16. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    I really appreciate your thoughts, feedback and good wishes willsrvu.
     
  17. Britwhitecuck

    Britwhitecuck Active Member

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    There are some white males who are only cucks because of big black men, and I'm one of them! But it's a release to not have to attempt or pretend to be a dominant male, instead I can be the loving and caring beta male while my partner fucks more dominant alpha black men.