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Request For Discussion: Term "pussy-free"
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A distant memory for this cuckyboy.
Same for me. Rather just watch and wank to BBC/white
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Honestly tho...imo. Youre still getting it way to much. Maybe 2 or 3 times a year is more inline with true cuckoldry.
Thank y'all for your participation in the discussion.
Okay, so "PIV-free" would also be a good term for that style? TY
What do you mean "way too much?" Way too much for whom? You? Why does your opinion count when it comes to how other people are doing things? What matters is that he and his wife have a situation that works for them. If they're happy, they're doing it exactly right.
I'm sexfree in that I haven't had sex of any sort for coming up to 16 yrs - what BBC Men prolly don't understand is that for some of us it's as if all the tension has been lifted away. After all , why persist in trying to do something you're rubbish at ? Make way for someone better skilled than you
This statement assumes it's every cuck's goal to be a cocksucker, and every cuckoldress' goal to make her husband do that. So that "important step" to you might not be as important to others. It doesn't mean they're wrong.
I hope you've found happiness and peace in that. Everyone's different and I'm always interested to hear how others do things. I don't personally feel less tension because my wife's become a total size queen and fucks bigger men. It makes me feel more pressure to seduce her and get her off in other ways. It challenges me to become better at turning her on, etc. Rather than an invitation to give up on giving her sexual pleasure, cuckoldry makes me try harder, and she enjoys my pursuit, in part because we both get off on tease & denial.
We are in an FLR, so my wife is firmly in charge. She doesn't like to feel beholden to other people's ideas of what cuckoldry looks like, she likes making her own rules, and enjoys having the power to change those rules at her whim. We've discussed the possibility of her cutting me off entirely (mostly during fantasy talk), because she has a boyfriend with a much bigger cock than mine, who always claims her pussy during sex, and gets off on making her say it's his. I do get far less penetrative sex than I used to, and it's continued to gradually decreased over the years, but she actually enjoys penetrative sex with me, it just happens to be for very different reasons from the reasons she loves fucking other men, and it looks very different from what sex might look like for a lot of people. For example:
- She might come home from a playdate, unlock me, and give me like 5 or 10 thrusts in her used pussy, making me count them out loud while she tells me what they did and how much bigger his cock felt, how many times it made her cum, etc., and then lock me back up without release.
- She might edge me or make me edge for her, every day or two for an extended period of time, until I'm on a hair trigger. Then she might mount me and sit very still, telling me to try not to cum, while teasing me about how pathetic it is that I'm about to cum already. She might stop there, or she might move just enough to coax out an essentially ruined orgasm that she can then make me clean up.
- She might take me to the play area at a lifestyle event or sex club, and have me fuck her there in front of others, saying things like, "is it in yet? I can't feel anything, babe," then lock me back up and have me help her find a guy who can fill her up and fuck her properly.
- She might let me fuck her between rounds with a bull, asking me if watching him fuck her helps me see why she cucks me, or telling me she needs more of his big cock after having my little penis inside her.
- She might just feel romantic. Maybe she's had plenty of BBC recently, or maybe she just cares more about some intimacy with me than having a bunch of orgasms that night. Sometimes she'll just want the closeness of making love to me, even if it doesn't go as deep or last very long. This is rare (maybe once or twice a year) and our regular femdom dynamic usually returns pretty much immediately afterwards, but I do get to fuck my wife once in a while with no catch.
I definitely realize it, and don't think I'm the only one! There are those men who prejudge themselves as failures sexually, but there are also those who shirk or don't want the 'responsibility' of satisfying her sexually. And they both differ from the guys who see her and a lover as their 'deserved' entertainment.
I wonder if the ladies see any of this?
Not at all. Goals vary with each couple. In our case my wife wanted me to have an outlet and she sensed that I could transition to sex with men, primarily her friend’s cucks. So she encouraged me and we’re both content.
Love this, thanks
There is a ton of insight here. One can be engaged as a partner and even as a lover, even if he's not large. It's one thing to say, "I love this woman more than anything, and don't want her to have to 'settle' for a man my size," and let her be with other men, in addition to everything else you do to make her feel good. You can be responsive and sensual with your touch, you can make her feel beautiful and cared for and sexy, and you can learn to get her off using more than your penis. Deciding your woman deserves everything she desires does not necessarily mean deciding you are worthless and giving up.
My wife does indeed prefer fucking larger men than I am. She's also a switch, and likes men with whom she can explore being submissive. I am submissive to her and happen to enjoy humiliation play, and she understands (and shares) my kinks, so she often tells me she needs men who are hung and I'm too small for her. But we have a very active and engaging sex life together. Despite the fact that I'm locked most of the time, and am not typically the one to give her the good pounding she might sometimes crave, we have some level of intimacy and sexy play more nights than not. I am not a worthless lover, and I've never worried that I have no value to her. I know she values me as her cuck and we have a healthy sex life. It's just different from the sex life vanilla people imagine for themselves.
To me, there is a huge difference between giving your wife freedom because you want her to have it all, vs. throwing in the towel and deciding not to even try being a good lover to your partner. You can dedicate yourself to her happiness and satisfaction, or convince yourself you can't and obsolve yourself of any commitment or responsibility to please her. Those are two different kinds of men.
Then there is this third kind you mention: Men who have decided what they want (and think they deserve) is their own private porn/kink dispenser. The man will basically become a pimp, convincing his wife to be promiscuous because it's what HE wants to see, without really listening to or caring about what his wife wants or needs.
I've seen it end relationships, and it's super sad to me, first and foremost because it sucks seeing for people going through turbulent and uncertain times, having to figure out custody and all the legal bullshit that comes with divorce, etc. But it's also sad because I know there will be people who say things like, "see? Cuckoldry is the path to marital ruin. Eventually you're going to lose your wife to other men." They'll see couples who split up over this issue as just another casualty of careless behavior and blame the dynamic, even though the real reason the marriage is ending is because he treated her like his personal porn dispenser.
Not all the time. It can be veiled or deceptive, or they may not immediately recognize it in the heat of an intense moment. But, many ladies are very hip to it. My wife is one of many who can see that pattern a mile away. She can smell insecurity and immediately notices the little hints that a man is going to be unpredictable, greedy, desperate or manipulative. Many of her cuckoldress friends are just as astute. We know lots of cuckold couples, and the ones who last are the ones where the man genuinely puts his wife's needs and desires before his own, and enjoys the rewards with her. The ones who don't last are the ones where the man becomes insecure, selfish and/or possessive, and disguises these traits as submission.
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That's basically where we are. I don't really believe I deserve it any more and women can tell, lack of confidence is a killer. So I think 'permanently pussyfree' could be on the agenda. Bit daunted by that really.
Question for those real couples who are actually pursuing the "pussy-free" dynamic in their relationship, is it actually possible?
I realize everyone is different and relationships differ, but I'm interested to hear from anyone who has actually made it work, even if it was only temporary. We are interested in trying this, but just cannot see how to make a healthy relationship work with this dynamic
I realize everyone is different and relationships differ, but I'm interested to hear from anyone who has actually made it work, even if it was only temporary. We are interested in trying this, but just cannot see how to make a healthy relationship work with this dynamic
Yes it works for us. It’s been well over 5 years since I have cummed in her pussy. I was never any good at sex so she is not giving up much with not have my sex with me. We have discussed cuckolding and she knows I would support but has not pursued. I masterbate a little but now prefer anal orgasms. This did change me as I now enjoy humiliation much more. Being pussyfree keeps me submissive and willing to please. Really wish she would cage me. I can see how some resentment could occur so communication is important.
i don't answer as a part of a couple who practices this "dynamic". i never have. But just a few thoughts...
Not everybody is the same, so consider the following:
* an asexual husband,
* a very low-libido husband,
* an impotent husband,
* an otherwise sexually dysfunctioned husband
* an aged, sexually declined husband
* a gay husband
* a sexually unskilled husband
* a kinky husband
If you are toying with the thought of entering a PIV-free lifestyle as sexually healthy high-libido man and Woman for the pure reason of kink and a turn-on for both of you then understand that there are so many different ways of having sex and penile-vaginal penetration is but one of those. my opinion is that a couple in this "category" would need to have sex and orgasms with each other in order to keep their bond strong which is perfectly possible - just by other types of sex than intercourse.
i do not see a problem there. If that's what you want then go for it. You can at least try, and adapt if it doesn't feel well. - But perhaps you'll become addicted.
Virgins are pussyfree or they are just virgins?
Now that's a great marriage
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