It is damned hard to give it up once you've had it.........the sex is SO intense and different from white guys that its like a ******* habit, you want more and more and MORE!! I almost destroyed my marriage over it and had to quit. I was out of control and LOVING every second of it. I keep fantasizing about getting back in to it again but I'm not sure I can control it....right now I'm happy with my affair with my Boss/Lover (white, older) but something he asked me to do recently has potentially opened the door for involving others......my mind wanders, and hubby encouraging me is not making it any easier NOT to wander!! LOL J (the wife)