Surprising discussion, in the sense that I understand the whole stuff, but seems not to be so 2021 compatible (those years of offended people lol)
Anyway, i have a totally different point of view.
Context: a couple, I am the husband and I write here. For 15 years in my previous couple We have been swingers. And not only swingers, we were dating solo as well. Man, i would never be able to remember half of the chicks I « met », what a crazy and intense period ! Several chicks a week at a period. And we also did several threesomes with either man or woman. I also have to add that our couple was working so good ! I mean sex just as 2 was awesome, and that is from my point of view mandatory before entering those games.
Saying that, please consider that I love everything about women, from seduction to intense sex, going through restaurants, poems, dancing, kissing, etc. So clearly, women are everything to me.
Then for some reasons, new couple. Wow, incredible match. Passion. Everything is about her. While I see and I am please to admire another beautiful woman, I am not in hunting anymore, as no more one can turn me on as my wife is doing. That has been a shock in my life, a true passion which totally surprised me.
And of course we are on games playing, mostly threesomes and small gang bang. Well, what is happening in those context ? I am an alpha, a dominant. Ha ha
Yes I know, some (most ? I don’t think so) husbands love those stuff about feeling at a lower level compared to a bull, to be humiliated. and so many things that are aliens to me but ok, everyone build his own life. Everyone is the alien of another lol So, what I am is a dominant, an alpha, and I
offer bulls to my queen (bulls for us are athletic men good in bed with a big cock, they may be black Asian white or even green we don’t care; but clearly black is prefered the same way some look for blond girls lol). They may be bigger than me, with an incredible bbc, I
remain the one who invite them, and the one who offer them to my wife. I am the wolves pack leader: I ensure the security, I check that my queen is satisfied, I correct wrong attitudes, actually I create the context which let her becoming the little slut she wants to be at that particular moment, knowing that at any moment pushing a red button I can manage an issue. That is perhaps a major difference compare to what I read, where some alpha bull claim that even the husband presence is an issue. Clearly we are not compatible, and that is fine, they are tons of couples and tons of bulls for such a different point of view
I don’t consider those bulls as beta or whatever. I actually consider them as human first, but who are my authorized guests. To please her. It is ok in action to let the beasts being beasts, to have several dominants typically, but that is like role playing.
So now, the bi/gay thing. I laugh when I read that, sorry
what happens sometimes is that yes, I suck with my wife, we share and kiss around the dick. Do I feel gay ?? Seriously ???
do I feel bi ? Well, bi may be different as I love that. But wait a second. Would I put a hand softly on that man ? No way. Would I kiss him ? Aerk I absolutely cannot. Would I date him ? Even in a parallel world it could not happen. So the point is that, in my mind, his cock becomes a toy in the game. There is a man attached to it, ok, but no, in that particular moment, it is just a toy, and I like to play with it shared with my wife. Would I use it alone ? Aerk no !!! Something I do with her. Would I put that elsewhere ? Rhaaaa help no !!!
And that certitude of « toy » (call it the way you want) is something I feel deeply. I suppose that it makes sense considering my own feeling of dominant, as I earn the right to take what I want, if I try to use similar metaphors as I read in different places. Perhaps, I don’t know. But saying that, I can hardly cope with previous points of view (which I respect anyway
), as no one could call me gay. So wrong and so funny actually. Eventually bi soft, but even that I don’t fully cope with it, but let’s compromise. The world and the human especially is certainly much more complex than this attempt of ordering
edit: on the contrary I fully agree on the fact that games wishes and limits have to be expressed from the beginning. We do
Enjoy Life and play with the people who match you, we are few billions there is some choice
