B bull, I have some sympathy in what you wrote in your opening post. My hubby has very a fery similar view to yours. He is a bit different though as it was him that persuaded/nagged me into this and was happy i got started and into it, but then hasnt embraced the cuck side of this fully.
If youre ok with your wife going with BBC, you need to get involved somehow to get your pleasure and fun out of it.
I have tried, although not with great success, to be a stern mistress to my hubby and feminize him into more of a cuck, simply so he can get involved more and join in. I do feel a bit guilty sometimes, going out a couple of times a week and not seeing or being with hubby, and him just staying in watching TV or whatever. So ive tried making him do things while im out, leaving my mobile phone on while im with someone etc to excite him, keephim involved.
This should be fun for all involved, with everyone getting their pleasure out of it thats best for them. XX