Husband is a cuckold, but I just found out he's cheating

[HelenOfTrois]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

 

[cuckbyeverygf]

so sorryy teach that cuck

 

[dbcockslut]

My husband is into cuckolding, but for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. Yet, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. Early in our relationship I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving, or maybe just having an affair. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.
Thoughts?

You sound surprised? So you are cucking him and getting lots of cock and I'm assuming he wasn't get any or very little pussy. Maybe he wants to be a man and have pussy, especially with what he is texting. It sounds like he wants a 2 way street if you are going to cuck him.

Sounds like you need to decide if it's him exclusively and make things right or move on and have your BBC. No matter what anyone says, you really can't have your cake and eat it too if your spouse is a real man. I've seen too many marriages break up becuase of some form of being an open marriage.

 

[HelenOfTrois]

You sound surprised? So you are cucking him and getting lots of cock and I'm assuming he wasn't get any or very little pussy. Maybe he wants to be a man and have pussy, especially with what he is texting. It sounds like he wants a 2 way street if you are going to cuck him.

Sounds like you need to decide if it's him exclusively and make things right or move on and have your BBC. No matter what anyone says, you really can't have your cake and eat it too if your spouse is a real man. I've seen too many marriages break up becuase of some form of being an open marriage.

No, that wasn't the case. I started the cuck lifestyle for him because he really wanted to. I only did it with him (no single dates with any men.)
Your comment is so accusatory and woman-hating. How is he a "real man"?

Not all cuckold couples are the same. Maybe you are off getting tons of cock behind your husband's back, but that wasn't the case here.

 

[Darkjumper]

My husband is into cuckolding, but for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. Yet, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. Early in our relationship I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving, or maybe just having an affair. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.
Thoughts?

So, you only want to cuck him if he interested in only you. Hmm, why is it OK for you to have other men but he can't have other women? So what's the real issue here, that he has interest in other women or that he lost interest in you?

 

[HelenOfTrois]

Clearly it was masochist of me to post something on a forum full of strangers who get off on acting toxic and accusatory.
No, I'm not cucking behind his back and never did. I participated in cuckolding with him because he enjoyed watching me have sex with others. We never had a "swinging" relationship where we did anything other than me agreeing to perform in front of him with another male so he could watch, video, etc.

Anyway, thank you for being such assholes about it. The world is a great place. Peace.

 

[demalejpo]

Perhaps instead of a cuckold relationship you should switch to swinging. That way nobody is cheating.

 

[Flexx007]

Hey if you ask me I don’t see the problem I mean I get the fact that your upset and you have a reason to be because he lied and contacted his ex but let’s be honest if it wasn’t his Ex and it’s was a random women wether she’s a Knock out the park cute or she is ugly would you still be upset? If yes then then y’all need to have a talk and maybe open the relationship instead of getting recruited into the cuckolding lifestyle

 

[Flexx007]

This is kinda funny Ngl it seems like y’all Cuck each other Lmfaoooo!!!!!!!!!!

 

[jdflacpl]

maybe you cheating is what he wants

 

[MichelleCakes]

regardless, this is not marriage material. it's just pain and toxicity. any semblance of a good life with this guy is tainted. it sounds like you're done too; I would be. So, why not just leave and do your own thing? Why are you allowing a very insecure and rude man to govern your life? You want to fuck, fuck. It'd probably drive him crazier to not see it coming and you disappearing from his life. My two cents

 

[Wifepurv]

so why not just start cucking him for real ??? I mean, why would you not, at this point ?

if you are to the point that you are going to take another's cock, why not include him in it, especially if he has already discussed this with you. Nothing to lose really. when he finds out about you cheating it might get real bad. sonwhy not give him a taste of it.

 

[zelvebbc]

My husband is into cuckolding, but for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. Yet, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. Early in our relationship I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving, or maybe just having an affair. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.
Thoughts?

Become swinger

 

[amysweetgurl69]

Clearly it was masochist of me to post something on a forum full of strangers who get off on acting toxic and accusatory.
No, I'm not cucking behind his back and never did. I participated in cuckolding with him because he enjoyed watching me have sex with others. We never had a "swinging" relationship where we did anything other than me agreeing to perform in front of him with another male so he could watch, video, etc.

Anyway, thank you for being such assholes about it. The world is a great place. Peace.

I’m sorry for the rudeness of some of these people. I’m also sorry to hear about him cheating on you. He seems to have enjoyed the fantasy but now i wonder if he’s using it as an excuse for something he was already doin again I’m sorry

 

[Darkjumper]

Clearly it was masochist of me to post something on a forum full of strangers who get off on acting toxic and accusatory.
No, I'm not cucking behind his back and never did. I participated in cuckolding with him because he enjoyed watching me have sex with others. We never had a "swinging" relationship where we did anything other than me agreeing to perform in front of him with another male so he could watch, video, etc.

Anyway, thank you for being such assholes about it. The world is a great place. Peace.

One thing about posting on an open forum, you have to be prepared for a lot of flack mixed with support. My response while not what you want, was all in the form of questions. Nonetheless, at the end of the day, it's totally up to YOU how you wish to handle this. Have an open and heart to heart conversation with your hubby, let him know how you feel and then go from there. No matter what we say in response will amount to a hill of beans, because you will do what you feel is best. You have to sleep with your decision. I honestly wish you peace and a solution.

 

[Darkjumper]

OK not sure why s l e e p is a censored word

 

[zthtezhtdrtgte]

My husband is into cuckolding, but for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. Yet, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. Early in our relationship I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving, or maybe just having an affair. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.
Thoughts?

1) you have negative feelings because he does it with other women.

2) negative feelings your boyfriend may have because you do it with other men, enjoy it and on top of that have given up the most intimate connection of two people, exclusivity (even if he initiated it himself), doesn't seem to be very important to you

3) Your response confirms that (2) is correct and that you are already exhibiting jaded defiant behavior

Question: what is the emotional problem you feel?

 

[VAsap]

You have a few options. If the relationship was worth it in the past, then it is still worth it. That’s my opinion from the outside looking in and you know best the situation. Overall, you could have a tough conversation to see what will make you both happy and if at the end you go your separate ways, then at least you know factually. Also I wouldn’t recommend basing your decision on vanity or superficial things on the surface. Figure out why he is conversing with exes and you can figure things out from there.

 

[Kuno]

Technically, it's not cheating until translating into action. The psychological aspect is in play. Without knowing more, it's doubtful that most of these women are legitimately even available to do something. Definitely should plan to move on though.

 

[goodhubby]

You must get a bi guy let him fuck the ******* out of this guy