Husband is a cuckold, but I just found out he's cheating

[Georgethrugood]

For anyone saying that you can’t have your cake and eat it too, her husband was the one who wanted her to cuck him not her. He was the one who opened the relationship to this dynamic. It’s perfectly reasonable for her to want him to stay monogamous to her aswell.

I’m sorry this happened to you and if you’re not happy in the relationship, just leave.

Me personally I’d be fine be monogamous to my wife while she has extra cock on the side there are men like me out there too

 

[CD4BBCbredGF]

ALL cuckolds know they are supposed to be loyal to their wife. Literally know that from day one she is your one and only and she is free to enjoy anyone she wants without needing your permission. You knew that. He completely kept you in the dark without showing you any respect by saying nothing. It would be a total shock if he told you he was thinking about another woman, but you two could at least tried to work together on the "what now" and possible ways to deal with it as a couple.
I never touched another woman in over 20 years and I'm proud of that. Not sure how many have touched her, but I am proud she kept her promise I will always know who she is with since I am right there watching him please her.

 

[Holo2]

In the Netherlands we say "van twee walletjes eten" (play on two sides) That's what he is doing. Dump him.

 

[worshipu9]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

This is terrible and I feel for you. A cuck should never cheat. A click should be 100% focused on his woman whilst making sure a Real Man gives her the pleasure he is unable to.
Perhaps you should have cock caged him from the word go, but hindsight is a great thing.
A hotwife like you needs to be worshipped totally by her cuckold.
What is your situation now?

 

[davis13]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

I agree with because one thing is an open relationship/cuckold and another is cheating: the first is for pleasure for both parts but the second is only an disrespectful act...i mean, it is very exciting for me to see my woman fucking as many bbcs as she wants but if she does it on my back that i am not aware at all is very disappointing and for me it could lead to the end of the relationship: i know that it is strange but it is something that has to do not with sex but with trust because i can't stay with a person who told me i love you while actually it is not true in other words she loves another with whom she has a secret relationship...

 

[BBCfriend4u]

Either you take charge of the relationship or you have nothing left.
He may want you to be more dominant or he likes the idea of how many dicks his exes have had in them.

 

[ht805cpl]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

Wow having re read your story, I feel so bad for you. What a loving lady to do this for her man to please him even though not your desire and to find out he is cheating. Terrible. we are a swinging couple and my man enjoy sharing me with other men and I enjoy it as well, but it is a mutual thing. If you are a lady who truly only wants a one on one relationship it seems strange you did this for him but we do funny things for love, I think you should move on without him. No need to cheat you are not married, just move on and leave him behind. He sounds like a looser anyway if he got what he wanted and it isn’t enough. who or why anyone would go after an ex spouse is crazy. I’m not a hot wife, but I enjoy multiply sex partners and that is how our relationship works, with other men woman or couples. If this life style is not for you my thoughts are you should find a good man whom loves you and wants to be in a committed honest relationship with you. Good luck and sorry for all those bashing you. Perhaps this is not the site for you as well. Do what is best for you!