Husband is a cuckold, but I just found out he's cheating

[goodlistener]

Sorry he's cheating on you. I would consider dumping him and moving on.

 

[jackiecuck]

My husband is into cuckolding, but for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. Yet, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. Early in our relationship I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving, or maybe just having an affair. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.
Thoughts?

put him in chastity. that will stop his fucking

 

[HelenOfTrois]

1) you have negative feelings because he does it with other women.

2) negative feelings your boyfriend may have because you do it with other men, enjoy it and on top of that have given up the most intimate connection of two people, exclusivity (even if he initiated it himself), doesn't seem to be very important to you

3) Your response confirms that (2) is correct and that you are already exhibiting jaded defiant behavior

Question: what is the emotional problem you feel?

1) you have negative feelings because he does it with other women.

2) negative feelings your boyfriend may have because you do it with other men, enjoy it and on top of that have given up the most intimate connection of two people, exclusivity (even if he initiated it himself), doesn't seem to be very important to you

3) Your response confirms that (2) is correct and that you are already exhibiting jaded defiant behavior

Question: what is the emotional problem you feel?

How is this comment even valid? What negative feelings he may have about me cuckolding? He PULLED me into it. He literally begged and begged me to have sex with another guy in front of him. Every single time we did it was basically driven by him asking me to do it and me agreeing because I could see how much he wanted it.

There are some weird characters on this forum who don't seem to understand cuckolding as a MALE kink and actually believe it's just a bunch of women cheating on their partner because we can't get enough dick. That's not the case and it's so incredibly uneducated to respond with these "you asked for it, slut" type of responses. I don't really care about your opinion, but it just seems like a virus you should ******* rather than spreading it on the internet.

 

[Darkjumper]

Who are you? I have no idea what you're talking about nor what "fetlife" is (or half the words you say) but I've reported you. And for the record, I am a trial lawyer, and after a certain point in this thread you definitely have put out some cyber-stalking vibes. After creating this profile this morning.

I agree, even I can't comprehend what that person or bot is trying to convey. Seems like a baby just spewing words or maybe they are doing speech to text in a different language and it wasn't translated accurately. Either way, just ignore.

 

[zthtezhtdrtgte]

How is this comment even valid? What negative feelings he may have about me cuckolding? He PULLED me into it. He literally begged and begged me to have sex with another guy in front of him. Every single time we did it was basically driven by him asking me to do it and me agreeing because I could see how much he wanted it.

There are some weird characters on this forum who don't seem to understand cuckolding as a MALE kink and actually believe it's just a bunch of women cheating on their partner because we can't get enough dick. That's not the case and it's so incredibly uneducated to respond with these "you asked for it, slut" type of responses. I don't really care about your opinion, but it just seems like a virus you should ******* rather than spreading it on the internet.

I see it that way too, it's clearly visible in all those videos how much women hate it and absolutely do not enjoy playing this game. You don't seem very reflective and empathetic if you simply lump together someone's very uncommon sexual desires and the frequency he is asking for it and leave out all the rest like emotional aspects etc. and then make profound decisions based on that just because someone keeps asking for it. You should have asked yourself what's really going on with this man and what you would actually think of a man who constantly sleeps with other women in front of you.

 

[escytao]

Try femdom and chastity belts

 

[CCNKY77]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

Is it possible that he is trying to convince himself that he is not gay?

 

[cuckoldtgn]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

The reality is that cuckolds want to be cuckolds not just to see the wife have sex. It is muchnmore about the teasing, being kinky to him, having him full excitement about what you may or may not do. If you only do have sex for him, without embracing the kinky and teasing stuff….no matter how much you fuck other men in front oh him, he will loose interest and search that excitement with the ex-girlfriends. Again, it is not about the fuckimg it is about the teasing and the excitement, then he will be totally hooked to YOU.

 

[Chinesechicken]

Get rid of him and you can move in with my gf and I

 

[BananaDick]

How is this comment even valid? What negative feelings he may have about me cuckolding? He PULLED me into it. He literally begged and begged me to have sex with another guy in front of him. Every single time we did it was basically driven by him asking me to do it and me agreeing because I could see how much he wanted it.

There are some weird characters on this forum who don't seem to understand cuckolding as a MALE kink and actually believe it's just a bunch of women cheating on their partner because we can't get enough dick. That's not the case and it's so incredibly uneducated to respond with these "you asked for it, slut" type of responses. I don't really care about your opinion, but it just seems like a virus you should ******* rather than spreading it on the internet.

First of all, sorry that you are in this situation. second of all, this is an open forum on the internet. More often than not, you get negative comments and character shaming. The reason for that is becasue, internet provides anonymity and quite honestly, most of them are very immature and can't understand how human emotions and relationships work. It's not to say that you don't get any positive comments or support. I have seen a couple of positive comments and supposrtive comments on your post. Just ignore the negative comments and do what you got to do.

Coming to the problem at hand, I don't think you cheating on him because he cheated on you is the best route to take here. 2 wrongs does not make a right. I do not know your situation completely but I do not think your relationship with this guy is worth fighting for but that's just my opinion. I would suggest you to take a hard look at things and be honest with yourself. You say you are a good looking woman. It shouldn't be hard for you to find a nice guy soon. So, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and just move on.

On a side note - hat tip to @Darkjumper and few others who seem sensible in this pool of immature and just plain dumb people.

 

[robbiewillsuck]

you need to be more dom and help him be more of a submissive sissy faggot bimale cuckold for you.

 

[CuckToBeInWV]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

I see a few things. You mentioned what you two were doing wasn't really your thing, but you did it for him. Kudos to you for that, but deep down, I suspect he may have felt you were not 100% into it. That's not your fault.

Your husband is so driven by his desires, he is willing to risk his marriage over it. Not good. I don't know that I have any wise advice, but you now know that he is completely serious about wanting what he wants, and you may need to consider cutting him loose, as he's not respecting you.

 

[Ebonythunder]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

He has lost interest in you. It’s probably best that you end the relationship.

 

[NYNJcuckcouple]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

What brought you to this sight to tell this story? If it was more of his kink why are you even here . Just curious .

 

[CuckToBeInWV]

What brought you to this sight to tell this story? If it was more of his kink why are you even here . Just curious .

Take it for what it's worth, she's been here a while, and shared a lot of pics and stories. I won't make any judgments or generalizations, but she's not new to the site.

 

[Limpcuck31]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

He needs to learn what it means to be a proper Cuck.

 

[pythonstar]

My husband is very into cuckolding, *editing for context since so many people seem to be slut shaming: I'm not a BBC-loving whore. I started doing this because my husband begged me to, and I always did it WITH him. I do not have black bulls, boyfriends, or anyone who I fuck behind his back. I don't cheat. I don't text men unless he's there asking me to do it. It is 1000% HIS KINK and something I always did for his enjoyment and pleasure. Me, personally, I'd rather have a partner who wants to keep exploring each other rather than having sex with strangers, but to each their own. **

But, for the past year he has lost interest in me sexually. It's crazy because my body is better than it has ever been. I'm the same loyal wife. Everything I do sexually has always been WITH him. But now, my husband has become engrossed in porn (both gay porn and straight porn) and now I have realized he's texted with several exes -- one of whom he even suggested they could still "fuck around" if she wants to. He's not randomly talking to strangers -- he's actually trying to rekindle old sexual relationships. Obv when I found that out, I have no idea how long this has gone on or if he's actually been cheating the entire time.

A long time ago I caught him sending texts like that to another woman and I thought he had stopped. (His excuse was that he was never going to act on it and was just flirting to get attention.) Now I feel very stupid and overlooked, because it appears he is interested in trying to rekindle things with all these woman of the past, meanwhile ignoring me entirely. (It's worth saying that I'm hotter than any of these other women... it's not like any of them are knockouts. Many of his exes I have met in person and they were underwhelming... I could understand if it was some knockout he couldn't get over, but that's not it. Instead, it just seems like he's an unavailable coward who wants sexual attention from everyone who has left and wants to give none to the person he's with. Maybe narcissism? Or maybe he just has so much insecurity that he's hopeless.
We aren't legally married. I am considering leaving. Part of me has the urge to have an affair. Not just a hookup or cuck sex but actually a full fledged affair. Not sure why I'm leaning in that direction.

I was only into cuckolding when I felt my husband was really into me. It's not exciting if you're doing it with someone who is bored of you and always looking in the other direction for attention.

First of all, I'm sorry to hear what you just told. This sounds quite toxic from his side. But I can somewhat relate to it, without having actually acted upon it. I think he's chasing some twisted fantasies and memories. And maybe also the instinct of conquering. He already has got you, so that's not much of a challenge. Getting to convince his exes that he's still someone of sexual value is. And porn can very much fuel this behaviour.

Have you talked to him about this? Does he realise how much he is hurting you?

I don't think you going for revenge fucks is going to help. Do you still love him?

 

[Kinky69fun60]

I’m sorry you are having to go through that. I could be wrong with my assumption, but perhaps the cuck lifestyle he wished or hoped for was purely based on porn fantasy he viewed and when reality sat in, he was too deep into it or is perhaps looking elsewhere to get his fix.

I commend you for trying to make his fantasy come true. It’s okay that it is not your thing but it’s not okay for him to go behind your back to get it elsewhere after begging you to do this. As a couple establishing boundaries is important, nobody wants to be resented for their desires. Maybe he feels trapped and thinks he needs to be a cuck around you but desperately wants to be out of it and is trying to start fresh with somebody else (ex’s or not).

You need to have a serious conversation with him and he needs to be given an ultimatum that either fixes what’s broken between you two or splitting up. However, this is only for you two decide and not people in this forum. I wish you the best regardless of the outcome, I feel for you as that is a difficult decision to make.

 

[CuckToBeInWV]

I can't believe he cheated! A guy who pimps out his wife in order to satiate his bizarre fetish seems like a man of honour you can wholeheartedly trust to be faithful

She mentioned that she would do it for him. I suspect he may want someone who is as obsessed about his kink as he is.

 

[mynameisme]

Just be more dominant and demand he stop talking to ex's and demand he wear a chastity cage.