Your comment is well taken. In our experience, most Black men, including those that say they are 'Dom,' are not really that Dom at all. First, most Black men are nice guys and are really concerned that they treat females in a nice manner. Next, most men are aware that a lot of women that want Dom men set a lot of conditions, limitations, on just how Dom they really want the man to be, which really confuses a man. Findling a Dom man that is nice, but has an 'edge' to him can be difficult. Just defining DOM is difficult! Does that mean he takes charge in the bedroom? Or he humiliates you in public? Or he beats the crap out of you? Or he humiliates your b/f or cuck hub? Or he puts you to work on the street even if you and/or your hub say 'no' or beg him not to.......? Your statement about if you have to guide the man it defeats the purpose for you is well taken. Your comment about liking the thread, How to Treat a White Girl is helpful. Add the threads that turn you on to your profile description with the comment that you want Black Men to look them over before contacting you. You are super hot and I think most men will find you a super turn-on and many white women are, in reality, jealous of you and your honesty. Not many people are honest enough to write what you just did....