jared7577768
Male
Well said, and I agree. It’s that mutually beneficial compromise that is so elusive. But it most likely can’t happen until I’m completely up front with her about everything I’m feeling.
Getting less aroused by conventional sex with wife
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jared7577768
Male
But I’m pretty sure the conversation would ultimately be a dead end. I’d confess how much the idea of her having sex with another man turns me on…she’d say she has no interest in that. I’d say that it would be amazing to just be able to use big dildos on her…she’d say they would hurt, and she doesn’t like having fake things inside of her anyway so “working up” to larger sizes isn’t going to happen. I’d say that if we watched porn it might get her turned on to the idea of a bigger cock feeling good and being an erotic thing…she’d say that she doesn’t like to watch porn, but we can have it on in the background if I want. The whole thing is kind of a non starter.
Nice but what does the doctor say?
jared7577768
Male
Did not attribute her weight to the snoring
Thank you for the reply. i did not talk about the snoring but about her health. Did s/he (the MD) say there are no health concerns at all (could be because of weight or something else)?
jared7577768
Male
Not really. She has back pain from slipped and bulging discs, and she was told to try going gluten free for a while to see if she has a sensitivity that promotes inflammation and gut health.
Has she ever told you why she doesn’t want to lose weight?
jared7577768
Male
She’s never said she doesn’t want to lose it. She’d love to drop 60-70 pounds. We are both stress eaters, and her back issues make it difficult to exercise. We are doing weight watchers right now.
i was about to suggest a strap-on as a reply to one of your earlier posts. Perhaps she is just not that size-queen type. What about a medium or even smaller sized dong used as a strap-on? Perhaps she will be more open to that. On another note: maybe she doesn't like the big ones because she does not want to hurt your feelings. i understand that that's not how you tick but does she understand that as well? ImO you should explain to her exactly why you think a bigger d. would be beneficial for you, not only for her.
If she doesn't want to watch p0rn (yet) there are more than one possible reasons for that. But there are also other venues to try. Have you tried erotic stories yet? Other than that there are a lot of sex/adult podcasts out there. "Consenting Adults" deals with the many faces of "ethical non-monogamy" and is quite good. The "Keys and Anklets" podcast and "Cuckoldress V" are more specialized in "Hotwifing" and "Cuckolding". But there are plenty more. Perhaps you suggest to search for one together and see which one she will like?
Or tell her to look for a podcast of her liking on her own that you can then listen to together. i always enjoyed big time doing things like that. You don't have to bring up a topic by yourself, it is presented by the podcast host and guests and provides a lot of material for your discussion or pillow talk after listening, plus you learn new things too.
weight watchers is not necessarily optimal because they have no concept of healthy dieting. It more or less boils down to counting calories which alone can never be the solution. :|
jared7577768
Male
Thank you so much for the suggestions and insight! All good ideas. I definitely am going to do some research into the podcasts you mentioned. And I absolutely have to have a real conversation with her about all of this…maybe this weekend. I need for her to know what all this means to me, if only to have it all out there and even if it doesn’t amount to anything in real life. I’m so tired of keeping so much to myself. Thank you very muc!i was about to suggest a strap-on as a reply to one of your earlier posts. Perhaps she is just not that size-queen type. What about a medium or even smaller sized dong used as a strap-on? Perhaps she will be more open to that. On another note: maybe she doesn't like the big ones because she does not want to hurt your feelings. i understand that that's not how you tick but does she understand that as well? ImO you should explain to her exactly why you think a bigger d. would be beneficial for you, not only for her.
If she doesn't want to watch p0rn (yet) there are more than one possible reasons for that. But there are also other venues to try. Have you tried erotic stories yet? Other than that there are a lot of sex/adult podcasts out there. "Consenting Adults" deals with the many faces of "ethical non-monogamy" and is quite good. The "Keys and Anklets" podcast and "Cuckoldress V" are more specialized in "Hotwifing" and "Cuckolding". But there are plenty more. Perhaps you suggest to search for one together and see which one she will like?
Or tell her to look for a podcast of her liking on her own that you can then listen to together. i always enjoyed big time doing things like that. You don't have to bring up a topic by yourself, it is presented by the podcast host and guests and provides a lot of material for your discussion or pillow talk after listening, plus you learn new things too.
jared7577768
Male
We’ve done it before, also keto and Mediterranean. So we don’t take it as 100%…we are sure to balance out our veggies, fruits, proteins, fats, and carbs. WW for us is more about portion control and accountability.
And cut out the junk food! That alone adds up to lots of useless calories.,
You are very welcome.
jared7577768
Male
Yeah, we’re not eating junk food.
bbclovinwife
Couple
I too got bored with sex and started fantasizing about men. I’d go out and buy dildos for my wife and I’d buy me one too I’ve always had a preference for BBC’s I’m so happy that I’m finally living out my fantasy and getting the cock i deserve
I know this : she do nt want to talk about sex , do nt want any toys , no teasing , even swtich off the light . all because she think she s to old and not sexy anymore ( 44 years).
Only if she becomes tippsy after some drinks she becomes horny as hell and she enjoy getting fucked hard and deep while slapping and spreading her asscheaks. Squeezing and biting her tits.
So yes ,i know there is still a inner slut - but i can t find a way to release .
One reason why i hope that an expirience like BBC and Dom Guy could help her to free her mind .
Only if she becomes tippsy after some drinks she becomes horny as hell and she enjoy getting fucked hard and deep while slapping and spreading her asscheaks. Squeezing and biting her tits.
So yes ,i know there is still a inner slut - but i can t find a way to release .
One reason why i hope that an expirience like BBC and Dom Guy could help her to free her mind .
Hehe, watch the "Rocky Horror (Picture) Show" with her and see if that makes her feel uncomfortable... It's one of the most "mainstream" productions that is very sex-centered actually and deals with a "vanilla" couple's lust and jealousy. It will give a basis for discussion while being far off anything porn-related. - Just an idea.
Other than that... You say she's got an issue with her age. Does that mean earlier in her life she has been different? Does she have or has she had any health issues? Does she have chi!dren or do you have chi!dren together before her entering menopause? All of those can be factors that may affect a Woman's self-worth and the way she perceives herself as a Woman.
Make sure she feels attractive and wanted as a Woman. How often do you compliment her for her looks, sexy body, etc., and how often do you initiate sex with her?
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