Welcome back Daphne. Very well said! But then there are Women not looking for a life partner but a f*ck for the night. If you are in the pick-up game you have to live with surprises after unwrapping the 'present'. And yes, if you as a Woman are hot already, you will probably take whatever size he provides instead of not taking anything at all as the alternative.
On the other hand there are Women who have their partner at home right next to them and are not looking for somebody to fulfill a need but a want, someone or something extra, special. And some of those are so-called "size queens". With the rise of online dating and swinger's platforms that have people's profiles with pics and vids, you can go directly for what you prefer instead of having to rely on surprises. That's what some people do, single Women, couples, cheating Women, closet and openly gay men, etc.
Well, some people go directly for what they want and prefer and if that's Black men with big dicks then be it.
Of course that does not mean that 'we' in the remaining dating or hook-up pool can not have fun with the rest and give pleasure and be pleasured by the rest.