The decision to have sex and how to have sex and where to have sex should always be a mutual decision between the black man and the white woman. It may be hard at times but white boys need to accept that the decisions of the primary couple should be supported. I think the white boy may provide his opinion IF ASKED but otherwise needs to understand the dynamic at play. White boys need to understand they are not in charge, they do not make the decisions, they need to be happy if the primary couple connects. In the best case scenario the white boy has no sex with the woman and is happy about it. Anyways that is how I see it. I just hope the idea of a white boy making these kinds of decisions can become a thing of the past. Thank you.