My husband was so turned on by knowing - and a few times watching - me and my "bull" (ugh, such a terrible term. I always have to put quotes around it, lol) having sex, that his sex drive got a lot higher. And he started to take Cialis to be ready without needing a lot of planning. My own sex drive was increased, so it worked out for everyone, lol. I don't really understand the whole "demeaning the husband" aspect of this, including the cages. My husband encouraged me to try this, and it was thrilling. It was also a little dangerous since I was starting to catch feelings, but I never really expected to change my family situation.