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Just curious how's your reconnection going with your husband? You should write a post about that. I think it would be interesting.
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Just curious how's your reconnection going with your husband? You should write a post about that. I think it would be interesting.
Thanx for asking. We've had a good 2017 to be honest. I haven't mentioned on here but I turned 50 earlier this year so my hubby has been spoiling me. So it's bought us closer together. Ive let him get very close to me sexually although he's still not going all the way with me. He's agreed to me pegging him, I'm dying to try that! And we're looking at his tattoo, but can't find one that sums up what he is!
As we're heading to the autumn, our 'swinging season' picks up again (our family go out the house a lot more!) and I've met a nice guy on-line to start seeing. So alls pretty good and we're in a good place again! X
Expect to see a change in your husband once you start pegging him regularly. His cock will get harder than its been and his orgasms will be more complete ( drain his balls ) and even more fufilling for him. He may become more docile and submisive but not necessarily so. Some husbands prefer pegging over fucking their wives especially if the wife already has several well hung Black studs. Some husbands become bi-sexual
Good Video. More wives should watch this and start pegging their white husbands.
Yes. Lots of men doing new things now for pleasure and entertainment. And its not just playing golf. More couples in this lifestyle now because husband wants the wife fucking other men so they can enjoy being a cuckhold. Wives take on a new sexuality which is a huge turn on for the husbands.
Ann4bbc he will love the pegging and you will as well. As you both get more comfortable in your role reversal, you may eventually even get him to cum from it from it rubbing his prostate. Good luck and keep us posted on your progress
Ooh! Making him bi-sexual! He might like that too much! Like if he became more submissive though!
Just seen your vid, amazing how the guy cums from it!
I will do, I will try vid it and post it if I can! X
you know got to hand it to her she really knows how to fuck a dudes ass. ive seen other pegging videos that were just lame.
. With the spread of this lifestyle and the growing popularity of cuckholding and happy slut wives , more white husbands and men are also experiecing prostate stimulation , pegging, and anal sex with black men. The orgasm and ejaculations from this experience are unlike any other. Repeated experiences only move these men down the road to further submission and enjoyment of this form of sexual stimulation. Observant slut wives are quick to see how much more control they have over their cuckhold husbands as he is moaning either as they are pegging him with a large strap on dildo or as her black bull fills her husbands ass with his BBC. Over time and with repeated experiences , the once dominant husband becomes docile and submissive to any and all sexual demands from his wife or her alpha black bull
I think every relationship changes over time and if your in this lifestyle it changes even more. Some men are just not the macho alpha type and its becoming more obvious to women who marry them. Social norms are changing too and making it easier for gfs or wives to date and easier for single women to look for alphas while maybe dating a beta male
. If it feels good do it. And more cuckhold husband are today. Once you accept and enjoy watching the wife with her black bulls , you are more open to try other sexual experiences. Once you cum and ejaculate from prostate stimulation , its a very slippery slope to more of this. Especially with "hands off " / no touch orgasms. It really works on your brain. His cock is so hard and the need to masturbate so strong when the orgasm does happen its really a mind blowing feeling. And if the pegging / anal stimulation continues there are repeated orgams until all the fluid is gone and he experiences the "dry" orgasms. This can go on and on until his white cock gets limp. He may not be able to get hard again for many days after this and will feel very exhausted
You are 100 percent right on with your analysis of this. A guy will becomed conditioned much easier if they are locked in chastity or aren't allowed to cum. Prostate orgasms become easier and easier to obtain as time goes on if they are pegged a lot. If done enough, a man will come to prefer it over time to any other means of stimulation.
Yes. More husbands like this now both young inexperienced and much more mature husbands with ed problems who have not had orgasms from sex in months but respond vigorously to pegging
I chatted privately with others on this subject and now I would like other opinions on my husband Steve that I'm sure there our several like him. First off when we were dating and first married he was so confident and strong and dominate in bed. After several years though that wasn't the case and we hardly had sex. That's the whole reason I ended up straying with a black co-worker. That's when I discovered the sex I had been having was in noway the same as with a black man it totally opened my eyes to what sex and desire was and is. My husband continued to change to the point I thought I could cuck him and I did. He couldn't get enough of me having sex with black men to the point now that's the only time he can get hard is by watching me with Anthony or by looking at pics of me with him. Not that we have sex anymore but when we do he can't get hard and that's why he wears a strap-on. I thought he would never be the type of guy that would eat me out after a BBC unloaded in me until one day he just dove right in after a guy pulled out of me. Now he begs all the time for it to the point of it making me upset. That's why now we don't let him watch anymore and now he's obsessed with wanting to use my toys on his self. From all indications I think he's turn sissy on me! I love the man dearly but I don't want that at all.
Tracey
I think many swingers if not all will have similar journey. I think it has something to do with a human mind that says in my mom tongue, " DIL MANGE MORE" meaning mind always desire more & more. In our case, initially we had a strict agreement between us that it will be only wife swapping but I quickly lost interest in wife swapping. Instead, i was thrilled, to try threesome as MFM with my wife. After a while, excitement started to fade away & had a desire for gang bang with wife. After fulfilling gangbang fantasy, I was interested to see my wife with 18-year-old boys & senior citizens at another extreme age group. Of course, every person is unique in some way & exhibit common attributes in few ways, Therefore, each person's next step depends on his unfull filled fantasies in que. However, the patterns seem identical. You need to understand his state of mind, while he has given you all opportunities to explore all your sexuality, you should try to accommodate his interest as well.
QBK
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Im new here and set this account only to reply this topic. I have years of intense analysis over this and associated topics, what I think makes my response mandatory. I've tried cuckoldry few years ago and from that time also was mad, that it got bad and didn't continued.. Also this reply took 3 hours to write it down, so believe me, I'm positively involved in writing it 
My english is just simple and can have mistakes, couse I still learn it, so please be understanding.
Hottobe cocked, english cuckG, ethnomasochist, jodaddyitsaboy, khrises4u made a point. Rest are just advices to go in the comment-writer choosen direction, some experience without think it over and also a propaganda. Sorry if someone had wrote it by his heart, but this topic is difficult and needs to be taken clearly without any exception. I won't be also nice, only clear in form, so please don't treat my words as an offence. In this moment, I cant reach such level of language skills.
My approach is that, everyones decisions are Their's responsibility and if They are aware, I really don't give a damn, who does what in His bed (or any other places). But, as an author of this post You showed me lack of understanding of emotions, mind mechanisms and took the topic apart of ******* nature of our species, what made me to write this all down.
Did You both ever considered a reason of cuckold fantasy of Your husband? Have He ever written down all the changes that this reason made in His mind, and way of His mind further developement? Have You written down all changes You made in Your mind to fulfill that fantasies? It can take years of research, but all of those "need to be written things" reveals desired conclusion. I know all the reasons of rise of this drive in me and You have to know, that they were coused by exterior negative influences. ALL OF THEM. With those influences mechanisms were changed to fulfill any male subconcious desire - to have an offsprinng anyway.
Lets dive with this approach... In normal conditions after adultery male leaves or dominates, in some extreme situations kills his female (and intruder dies sometimes too). Then (if she survives) rejects intruders offspring and thats normal for our species. There are ofcourse monkeys, that have group sex both ways, but this site and topic especially isn't about that.. All things that happens beside those two are compromises with influence on both minds, and cause of that, it needs to be considered throughly. If Your husband came out with this kink, it probably means, something in the past denied his natural manhood (His previous dominant approach to You, if it was unnatural from this strictly animalistic in act only, is also a sign of His attempt to regain it) and cuckoldry it's always about that - denial of someones genes, what in culture means manhood. For cuckold it goes with anger, guilt, shame, pain and other negative emotions, and through the (in this case distorted) mechanisms of regain Your womb, that all makes His wand stiff in the bed (as I have read, some hotwives here took intercourse away from their husbands, so they had to learn to replace it in any avaliable way, not healthy emotionally indeed...). If He had to deal with all of that negative emotions counciously, it would destroy You both, so with His agreement and aprovall they goes subconcious and when reapeted, they change Him as ewerything does in continuous situations. To stop it You will need to create opposite situations long enought, to be changed in a mind habbit. If He'll be keen to do this of course. The answer for You is question, as always in that cases. Will You accept Your "not quite conconcious till today" influence on Your husband with all it's consequences, find Yourself as a dominant female, where that direction leeds ALWAYS (whatever it's domination through adultery or any other things - there is a reason of including this sexual activity in SM set), or decide to encourage and help Your husband to be the man he could be, if that "reason of all" would not influenced him? Beeing a hotwife (sorry for all those, who saw it differently, especially males - with all my heart I'm with You) is all about hurting Your man subconcious, even if He conciously wanted it and told You, that it'll make Him happy. In that moment it was wrongly understood happines, that He also didn't realised or was accepted as a wrongly seen mixture to face His problem (that can be sexually driving as hell ofcourse, but not healthy for mind indeed).
I wrote only about the extreme directions, beacouse as I see, His approach to sex is "evolving" what means, he want's more and more. Probably, but not for sure, He'll wont accept mild kind of adultery, which also could be proposed as a mix to be learned, but first of all, his manhood have to be regain, or denied by You both. There may be specialist help needed too..
Also have to agree with Hottobe STRONLGY - now Your husband is less atractive to You, than BBC hotwife lifestyle, what means subconciously You've rejected him as a prior male and begin to use Him as a supply provider with awereness of common past, desires and still some dose of couple feelings that will slowly change into SM addiction. Your kind-a emotional relation with only one BBC also confirms that tendencies, and this road leads to UC only, if someone will not stop it before. Your womenhood downgraded Him and it's up to You, what You'll decide to do with it, if He's not present in this topic right now.
There can be also other reason - He always was a gay or bisexual and Your hotwiving was just an subconcius excuse to get closer to object of his desires. It's simple as that, but may be also true if You have in mind influence of society and family, which could reject him if he agreed with himself. Once again, travel into His brain is essential.
This is very difficult topic, if You both are willing to know the truth about Yourselve it can be more positive driving than cuckoldry can bring, especially, that our poscristianic and "submissive to wealthy and in power ones culture" teach Us all to deal with everyday pain, but almost never to focus only on happiness with healthy rejection of negative experiences (which is the case, when someone subconsiously brings troubles on himselves to deal with the main problem...).
Hope that it'll help You both.
My english is just simple and can have mistakes, couse I still learn it, so please be understanding.Hottobe cocked, english cuckG, ethnomasochist, jodaddyitsaboy, khrises4u made a point. Rest are just advices to go in the comment-writer choosen direction, some experience without think it over and also a propaganda. Sorry if someone had wrote it by his heart, but this topic is difficult and needs to be taken clearly without any exception. I won't be also nice, only clear in form, so please don't treat my words as an offence. In this moment, I cant reach such level of language skills.
My approach is that, everyones decisions are Their's responsibility and if They are aware, I really don't give a damn, who does what in His bed (or any other places). But, as an author of this post You showed me lack of understanding of emotions, mind mechanisms and took the topic apart of ******* nature of our species, what made me to write this all down.
Did You both ever considered a reason of cuckold fantasy of Your husband? Have He ever written down all the changes that this reason made in His mind, and way of His mind further developement? Have You written down all changes You made in Your mind to fulfill that fantasies? It can take years of research, but all of those "need to be written things" reveals desired conclusion. I know all the reasons of rise of this drive in me and You have to know, that they were coused by exterior negative influences. ALL OF THEM. With those influences mechanisms were changed to fulfill any male subconcious desire - to have an offsprinng anyway.
Lets dive with this approach... In normal conditions after adultery male leaves or dominates, in some extreme situations kills his female (and intruder dies sometimes too). Then (if she survives) rejects intruders offspring and thats normal for our species. There are ofcourse monkeys, that have group sex both ways, but this site and topic especially isn't about that.. All things that happens beside those two are compromises with influence on both minds, and cause of that, it needs to be considered throughly. If Your husband came out with this kink, it probably means, something in the past denied his natural manhood (His previous dominant approach to You, if it was unnatural from this strictly animalistic in act only, is also a sign of His attempt to regain it) and cuckoldry it's always about that - denial of someones genes, what in culture means manhood. For cuckold it goes with anger, guilt, shame, pain and other negative emotions, and through the (in this case distorted) mechanisms of regain Your womb, that all makes His wand stiff in the bed (as I have read, some hotwives here took intercourse away from their husbands, so they had to learn to replace it in any avaliable way, not healthy emotionally indeed...). If He had to deal with all of that negative emotions counciously, it would destroy You both, so with His agreement and aprovall they goes subconcious and when reapeted, they change Him as ewerything does in continuous situations. To stop it You will need to create opposite situations long enought, to be changed in a mind habbit. If He'll be keen to do this of course. The answer for You is question, as always in that cases. Will You accept Your "not quite conconcious till today" influence on Your husband with all it's consequences, find Yourself as a dominant female, where that direction leeds ALWAYS (whatever it's domination through adultery or any other things - there is a reason of including this sexual activity in SM set), or decide to encourage and help Your husband to be the man he could be, if that "reason of all" would not influenced him? Beeing a hotwife (sorry for all those, who saw it differently, especially males - with all my heart I'm with You) is all about hurting Your man subconcious, even if He conciously wanted it and told You, that it'll make Him happy. In that moment it was wrongly understood happines, that He also didn't realised or was accepted as a wrongly seen mixture to face His problem (that can be sexually driving as hell ofcourse, but not healthy for mind indeed).
I wrote only about the extreme directions, beacouse as I see, His approach to sex is "evolving" what means, he want's more and more. Probably, but not for sure, He'll wont accept mild kind of adultery, which also could be proposed as a mix to be learned, but first of all, his manhood have to be regain, or denied by You both. There may be specialist help needed too..
Also have to agree with Hottobe STRONLGY - now Your husband is less atractive to You, than BBC hotwife lifestyle, what means subconciously You've rejected him as a prior male and begin to use Him as a supply provider with awereness of common past, desires and still some dose of couple feelings that will slowly change into SM addiction. Your kind-a emotional relation with only one BBC also confirms that tendencies, and this road leads to UC only, if someone will not stop it before. Your womenhood downgraded Him and it's up to You, what You'll decide to do with it, if He's not present in this topic right now.
There can be also other reason - He always was a gay or bisexual and Your hotwiving was just an subconcius excuse to get closer to object of his desires. It's simple as that, but may be also true if You have in mind influence of society and family, which could reject him if he agreed with himself. Once again, travel into His brain is essential.
This is very difficult topic, if You both are willing to know the truth about Yourselve it can be more positive driving than cuckoldry can bring, especially, that our poscristianic and "submissive to wealthy and in power ones culture" teach Us all to deal with everyday pain, but almost never to focus only on happiness with healthy rejection of negative experiences (which is the case, when someone subconsiously brings troubles on himselves to deal with the main problem...).
Hope that it'll help You both.
Very passionate and very intense thoughts here. Some truth as well. For those cuckholds that subverted their wives , its something of a given that their sex lives were not adequate. For those cuckholds that were subverted by their wives , its clear she wanted something more and something else instead. Two very very different situations. Many different angles to the husband subverting the wife. Perhaps not as many to the wife subverting the husband. She wanted the other man.Im new here and set this account only to reply this topic. I have years of intense analysis over this and associated topics, what I think makes my response mandatory. I've tried cuckoldry few years ago and from that time also was mad, that it got bad and didn't continued.. Also this reply took 3 hours to write it down, so believe me, I'm positively involved in writing it
Hottobe cocked, english cuckG, ethnomasochist, jodaddyitsaboy, khrises4u made a point. Rest are just advices to go in the comment-writer choosen direction, some experience without think it over and also a propaganda. Sorry if someone had wrote it by his heart, but this topic is difficult and needs to be taken clearly without any exception. I won't be also nice, only clear in form, so please don't treat my words as an offence. In this moment, I cant reach such level of language skills.
My approach is that, everyones decisions are Their's responsibility and if They are aware, I really don't give a damn, who does what in His bed (or any other places). But, as an author of this post You showed me lack of understanding of emotions, mind mechanisms and took the topic apart of ******* nature of our species, what made me to write this all down.
Did You both ever considered a reason of cuckold fantasy of Your husband? Have He ever written down all the changes that this reason made in His mind, and way of His mind further developement? Have You written down all changes You made in Your mind to fulfill that fantasies? It can take years of research, but all of those "need to be written things" reveals desired conclusion. I know all the reasons of rise of this drive in me and You have to know, that they were coused by exterior negative influences. ALL OF THEM. With those influences mechanisms were changed to fulfill any male subconcious desire - to have an offsprinng anyway.
Lets dive with this approach... In normal conditions after adultery male leaves or dominates, in some extreme situations kills his female (and intruder dies sometimes too). Then (if she survives) rejects intruders offspring and thats normal for our species. There are ofcourse monkeys, that have group sex both ways, but this site and topic especially isn't about that.. All things that happens beside those two are compromises with influence on both minds, and cause of that, it needs to be considered throughly. If Your husband came out with this kink, it probably means, something in the past denied his natural manhood (His previous dominant approach to You, if it was unnatural from this strictly animalistic in act only, is also a sign of His attempt to regain it) and cuckoldry it's always about that - denial of someones genes, what in culture means manhood. For cuckold it goes with anger, guilt, shame, pain and other negative emotions, and through the (in this case distorted) mechanisms of regain Your womb, that all makes His wand stiff in the bed (as I have read, some hotwives here took intercourse away from their husbands, so they had to learn to replace it in any avaliable way, not healthy emotionally indeed...). If He had to deal with all of that negative emotions counciously, it would destroy You both, so with His agreement and aprovall they goes subconcious and when reapeted, they change Him as ewerything does in continuous situations. To stop it You will need to create opposite situations long enought, to be changed in a mind habbit. If He'll be keen to do this of course. The answer for You is question, as always in that cases. Will You accept Your "not quite conconcious till today" influence on Your husband with all it's consequences, find Yourself as a dominant female, where that direction leeds ALWAYS (whatever it's domination through adultery or any other things - there is a reason of including this sexual activity in SM set), or decide to encourage and help Your husband to be the man he could be, if that "reason of all" would not influenced him? Beeing a hotwife (sorry for all those, who saw it differently, especially males - with all my heart I'm with You) is all about hurting Your man subconcious, even if He conciously wanted it and told You, that it'll make Him happy. In that moment it was wrongly understood happines, that He also didn't realised or was accepted as a wrongly seen mixture to face His problem (that can be sexually driving as hell ofcourse, but not healthy for mind indeed).
I wrote only about the extreme directions, beacouse as I see, His approach to sex is "evolving" what means, he want's more and more. Probably, but not for sure, He'll wont accept mild kind of adultery, which also could be proposed as a mix to be learned, but first of all, his manhood have to be regain, or denied by You both. There may be specialist help needed too..
Also have to agree with Hottobe STRONLGY - now Your husband is less atractive to You, than BBC hotwife lifestyle, what means subconciously You've rejected him as a prior male and begin to use Him as a supply provider with awereness of common past, desires and still some dose of couple feelings that will slowly change into SM addiction. Your kind-a emotional relation with only one BBC also confirms that tendencies, and this road leads to UC only, if someone will not stop it before. Your womenhood downgraded Him and it's up to You, what You'll decide to do with it, if He's not present in this topic right now.
There can be also other reason - He always was a gay or bisexual and Your hotwiving was just an subconcius excuse to get closer to object of his desires. It's simple as that, but may be also true if You have in mind influence of society and family, which could reject him if he agreed with himself. Once again, travel into His brain is essential.
This is very difficult topic, if You both are willing to know the truth about Yourselve it can be more positive driving than cuckoldry can bring, especially, that our poscristianic and "submissive to wealthy and in power ones culture" teach Us all to deal with everyday pain, but almost never to focus only on happiness with healthy rejection of negative experiences (which is the case, when someone subconsiously brings troubles on himselves to deal with the main problem...).
Hope that it'll help You both.
Very passionate and very intense thoughts here. Some truth as well. For those cuckholds that subverted their wives , its something of a given that their sex lives were not adequate. For those cuckholds that were subverted by their wives , its clear she wanted something more and something else instead. Two very very different situations. Many different angles to the husband subverting the wife. Perhaps not as many to the wife subverting the husband. She wanted the other man.Im new here and set this account only to reply this topic. I have years of intense analysis over this and associated topics, what I think makes my response mandatory. I've tried cuckoldry few years ago and from that time also was mad, that it got bad and didn't continued.. Also this reply took 3 hours to write it down, so believe me, I'm positively involved in writing it
Hottobe cocked, english cuckG, ethnomasochist, jodaddyitsaboy, khrises4u made a point. Rest are just advices to go in the comment-writer choosen direction, some experience without think it over and also a propaganda. Sorry if someone had wrote it by his heart, but this topic is difficult and needs to be taken clearly without any exception. I won't be also nice, only clear in form, so please don't treat my words as an offence. In this moment, I cant reach such level of language skills.
My approach is that, everyones decisions are Their's responsibility and if They are aware, I really don't give a damn, who does what in His bed (or any other places). But, as an author of this post You showed me lack of understanding of emotions, mind mechanisms and took the topic apart of ******* nature of our species, what made me to write this all down.
Did You both ever considered a reason of cuckold fantasy of Your husband? Have He ever written down all the changes that this reason made in His mind, and way of His mind further developement? Have You written down all changes You made in Your mind to fulfill that fantasies? It can take years of research, but all of those "need to be written things" reveals desired conclusion. I know all the reasons of rise of this drive in me and You have to know, that they were coused by exterior negative influences. ALL OF THEM. With those influences mechanisms were changed to fulfill any male subconcious desire - to have an offsprinng anyway.
Lets dive with this approach... In normal conditions after adultery male leaves or dominates, in some extreme situations kills his female (and intruder dies sometimes too). Then (if she survives) rejects intruders offspring and thats normal for our species. There are ofcourse monkeys, that have group sex both ways, but this site and topic especially isn't about that.. All things that happens beside those two are compromises with influence on both minds, and cause of that, it needs to be considered throughly. If Your husband came out with this kink, it probably means, something in the past denied his natural manhood (His previous dominant approach to You, if it was unnatural from this strictly animalistic in act only, is also a sign of His attempt to regain it) and cuckoldry it's always about that - denial of someones genes, what in culture means manhood. For cuckold it goes with anger, guilt, shame, pain and other negative emotions, and through the (in this case distorted) mechanisms of regain Your womb, that all makes His wand stiff in the bed (as I have read, some hotwives here took intercourse away from their husbands, so they had to learn to replace it in any avaliable way, not healthy emotionally indeed...). If He had to deal with all of that negative emotions counciously, it would destroy You both, so with His agreement and aprovall they goes subconcious and when reapeted, they change Him as ewerything does in continuous situations. To stop it You will need to create opposite situations long enought, to be changed in a mind habbit. If He'll be keen to do this of course. The answer for You is question, as always in that cases. Will You accept Your "not quite conconcious till today" influence on Your husband with all it's consequences, find Yourself as a dominant female, where that direction leeds ALWAYS (whatever it's domination through adultery or any other things - there is a reason of including this sexual activity in SM set), or decide to encourage and help Your husband to be the man he could be, if that "reason of all" would not influenced him? Beeing a hotwife (sorry for all those, who saw it differently, especially males - with all my heart I'm with You) is all about hurting Your man subconcious, even if He conciously wanted it and told You, that it'll make Him happy. In that moment it was wrongly understood happines, that He also didn't realised or was accepted as a wrongly seen mixture to face His problem (that can be sexually driving as hell ofcourse, but not healthy for mind indeed).
I wrote only about the extreme directions, beacouse as I see, His approach to sex is "evolving" what means, he want's more and more. Probably, but not for sure, He'll wont accept mild kind of adultery, which also could be proposed as a mix to be learned, but first of all, his manhood have to be regain, or denied by You both. There may be specialist help needed too..
Also have to agree with Hottobe STRONLGY - now Your husband is less atractive to You, than BBC hotwife lifestyle, what means subconciously You've rejected him as a prior male and begin to use Him as a supply provider with awereness of common past, desires and still some dose of couple feelings that will slowly change into SM addiction. Your kind-a emotional relation with only one BBC also confirms that tendencies, and this road leads to UC only, if someone will not stop it before. Your womenhood downgraded Him and it's up to You, what You'll decide to do with it, if He's not present in this topic right now.
There can be also other reason - He always was a gay or bisexual and Your hotwiving was just an subconcius excuse to get closer to object of his desires. It's simple as that, but may be also true if You have in mind influence of society and family, which could reject him if he agreed with himself. Once again, travel into His brain is essential.
This is very difficult topic, if You both are willing to know the truth about Yourselve it can be more positive driving than cuckoldry can bring, especially, that our poscristianic and "submissive to wealthy and in power ones culture" teach Us all to deal with everyday pain, but almost never to focus only on happiness with healthy rejection of negative experiences (which is the case, when someone subconsiously brings troubles on himselves to deal with the main problem...).
Hope that it'll help You both.
QBK
New Member
I understand Your approach, but even if angles are different (and as we see the Lady isn't into mastering a cuck-kind slave, just to achieve previous state) result stays the same, and the Lady needs to be aware of it, as same as Her husband. Reasons of decision to go into cuckoldry is always somehow negatively motivated with lack of positive or some negative treatment in the past. Also that "not adequate sex life" may be influenced by that past, it needs to be reconsidered.
Iterativity of adultery acts, it's value for Her and limitation of His involvement in relation with Her due to bulls appearance are crucial in making right decision. In some spectrum it can bring lot of pleasure with pain background, but as it is now, we see Him changing, and She've changed already. To reverse it They need to give back what He had lost, She need to feel Him as She felt good before for a longer period of time, and both need to learn to manage it on required level, otherwise it will be lost. She need to write down what have changed in Her mind, how it have happened and decide to resign, couse not always You can have and eat an apple in the same time. To avoid disaster You have sometime go back and check everything once again, and maybe then, with new approach, it will give more than it did before.
Also we need to see, how slave training differs in both sexes. In cuckoldry males are sissified, women in contrary are learned to be proud, strong and take all of treatment with dignity, to fulfill master desires as a tool. That are very different approaches.
Going further may also couse no turning back state in this addiction for one of sides. SM kinds of sex are addictions and need to be seen quite similar in their mechanisms to alcoholism - they make a change in how Your brain works, indeed (You may find few research on the topic). We can see it also by Her refusal of letting hotwiving of. If They Were into swinging=hurting themselves not only hurting Him, it wouldn't end for Them like that. It could make feel Them both extra confident and creating fiery colliding romance with pain in the background, but when He's subservant it can change Him finally into UC, especially when He's so into it. She's not ready for it, and cause of that, not prepared to what's coming. That can bring great damages..
Also She could feel pain somehow too at the beginning. We as the community teach to leave guilt behind, but in reality we can mistake it with one, of our own feelings, not guilt imprinted from society, which need to be checked.
Remember, that it can became His commitment to Her and obligate as subservant husband to find itself as much into it, as it is possible. That also can bring a spiral of motivation to find a new ways of letting Her to hurt Him, to find more and more excitement to adapt into. And when UC begins, or a true sublife, it changes brain so hard, that You don't even bother Yourself of thinking to getting back, looking for more chellenges, disturbation of innerpeace to manage and remake it subconcious into more painmixed pleasure. It becames a habbit.
For Her changes goes opposite way, and if She's not ready or happy with dominant role, to find herselve lack of compassion to His pain and suffering, to changing natural mechanisms of his mind and body into Her advance, transitioning it all into Her arousal transmitted on BBC, someday She may find herselfve in place, where She never wanted to be. She may feel unhappy, not connected with Him on love basis, transitioning feelings on bull, what makes husband finally a tool, servant life companion, nothing more. That commitment has nothing to do with love, indeed. They are very different states, so in sexual life, for some cannot be put together, couse if mixed, may influence whole life.
It is a warning. This is how this mechanism can work in the most long and intensive way, and as so very difficult and deep topic needs full consent. Remember, that real reaction for adultery is rejection of it, negation not tolerance or even a sexual arousal. If that las two showes, person is kinked and process of slavery starts evolvinng. It ofcourse may be felt pleasurable to both sides, what We can see in so many examples, but some day can became irreversible.
Wish You all appropriate decisions and as much love as it possibe.
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Sounds like a course in modern personell management. Most couples today still say its about good sex and/or IR sex and/or sex with larger cocks. There are always risks but so many cuckholds find enjoyment with this lifestyle now. Many started out as swingers and open sexuality after some years of marraige and it was often the wife who enjoys the sex with black men and doesn't want to stop. Several couples we know have parted as she became addicted to BBc and lost interest in the husband.
