Change in Husband over time

[QBK]

Sounds like a course in modern personell management. Most couples today still say its about good sex and/or IR sex and/or sex with larger cocks. There are always risks but so many cuckholds find enjoyment with this lifestyle now. Many started out as swingers and open sexuality after some years of marraige and it was often the wife who enjoys the sex with black men and doesn't want to stop. Several couples we know have parted as she became addicted to BBc and lost interest in the husband.

Yes, it is all true, and thank You for positive reception, I'm not trainer indeed I hope all of You find Yourself happy and even if something changes irreversible, find Your way out from the trouble. We all are capable of recovery, but in changing ourselves need to be curious on how we really works. Most healthy for both sides in nature, when difference in approach to the topic appears and cannot be accepted, is to let other person go, find his happiness somewhere else without guilt and with possible support. F.e. I've seen many UC with enought big dick (when it was the matter for kink) for short ladies, which could give both sides confidence and fulfilment without hurting anyone. Sometimes we need to learn to let someone go, find the reason of need to be hurted and recover our inner wounds if We want live without pain. Why I wrote this? Couse I wish to believe, that decisions to be UC, cuck or hotwife were made as consent as possible, but it would be a fairy tale in nowadays lack of psychological support.

 

[spin419]

As they say ... take small steps up steep hills ... don't rush to black as she may not be ready for the racial change. Perhaps begin with more social interactions and introductions ...and let sex find its own way

Seems right. I don't think pushing too much of an agenda is wise for a prospective cuckold husband. I think you want your wife to be safe (obviously) and comfortable at every step. Let things flow. If/When it comes to sex, you'd like her to have an interaction with someone she finds attractive, who you believe can give her a great experience. I do get some sense that among couples who stick in the lifestyle and, for whatever reason, like to have variety in partners, many probably do end up hooking up with a black guy eventually. For one thing, that arrangement is promoted and celebrated. I think natural curiosity drives it too.

It's too often depicted in pro porn in a way that can be so ridiculously provocative, stereotype-driven, and sometimes even offensive.....really to all parties in some cases, that it can foster a misguided attitude. But I also think when you see IR amateur interactions between consenting adults, see a wife and bull connect and find great sex, you understand why people want to answer the question(s) for themselves. That particular itch can run deep, and for many couples is one that deserves to be scratched!!

 

[muffdiver]

I chatted privately with others on this subject and now I would like other opinions on my husband Steve that I'm sure there our several like him. First off when we were dating and first married he was so confident and strong and dominate in bed. After several years though that wasn't the case and we hardly had sex. That's the whole reason I ended up straying with a black co-worker. That's when I discovered the sex I had been having was in noway the same as with a black man it totally opened my eyes to what sex and desire was and is. My husband continued to change to the point I thought I could cuck him and I did. He couldn't get enough of me having sex with black men to the point now that's the only time he can get hard is by watching me with Anthony or by looking at pics of me with him. Not that we have sex anymore but when we do he can't get hard and that's why he wears a strap-on. I thought he would never be the type of guy that would eat me out after a BBC unloaded in me until one day he just dove right in after a guy pulled out of me. Now he begs all the time for it to the point of it making me upset. That's why now we don't let him watch anymore and now he's obsessed with wanting to use my toys on his self. From all indications I think he's turn sissy on me! I love the man dearly but I don't want that at all.
Tracey

Gee; that is too bad Tracy.i am just the opposite. I am highly sexual and can never get enuf sex. am 78. my wife, on the other hand has seemed to have lost most of her desire to have sex anymore.she does not stray at all...if she did I would not mind if it improved our sex lives.i admit she has had numerous medical issues which most likely are at the root of the problem. but, I love her dearly...she is my one and only.maybe your hubby is lacking in testosterone which can sink to low levels as we men age. just a thought. you opened up a great subject. baby.?

 

[spin419]

Thanx for asking. We've had a good 2017 to be honest. I haven't mentioned on here but I turned 50 earlier this year so my hubby has been spoiling me. So it's bought us closer together. Ive let him get very close to me sexually although he's still not going all the way with me. He's agreed to me pegging him, I'm dying to try that! And we're looking at his tattoo, but can't find one that sums up what he is!
As we're heading to the autumn, our 'swinging season' picks up again (our family go out the house a lot more!) and I've met a nice guy on-line to start seeing. So alls pretty good and we're in a good place again! X

Nice post, but must inquire while it may be upending convention, in what way is pegging "not going all the way"??!! Lol

 

[firedogg81]

Thanx for asking. We've had a good 2017 to be honest. I haven't mentioned on here but I turned 50 earlier this year so my hubby has been spoiling me. So it's bought us closer together. Ive let him get very close to me sexually although he's still not going all the way with me. He's agreed to me pegging him, I'm dying to try that! And we're looking at his tattoo, but can't find one that sums up what he is!
As we're heading to the autumn, our 'swinging season' picks up again (our family go out the house a lot more!) and I've met a nice guy on-line to start seeing. So alls pretty good and we're in a good place again! X

How is it going now 2 years later from your last post very intrested to know

 

[WillandSusn]

Nice post, but must inquire while it may be upending convention, in what way is pegging "not going all the way"??!! Lol

. Not a real bull. Occasional pegging is vary different from a steady partner who may also cum inside you.

 

[littledikk]

I chatted privately with others on this subject and now I would like other opinions on my husband Steve that I'm sure there our several like him. First off when we were dating and first married he was so confident and strong and dominate in bed. After several years though that wasn't the case and we hardly had sex. That's the whole reason I ended up straying with a black co-worker. That's when I discovered the sex I had been having was in noway the same as with a black man it totally opened my eyes to what sex and desire was and is. My husband continued to change to the point I thought I could cuck him and I did. He couldn't get enough of me having sex with black men to the point now that's the only time he can get hard is by watching me with Anthony or by looking at pics of me with him. Not that we have sex anymore but when we do he can't get hard and that's why he wears a strap-on. I thought he would never be the type of guy that would eat me out after a BBC unloaded in me until one day he just dove right in after a guy pulled out of me. Now he begs all the time for it to the point of it making me upset. That's why now we don't let him watch anymore and now he's obsessed with wanting to use my toys on his self. From all indications I think he's turn sissy on me! I love the man dearly but I don't want that at all.
Tracey

it's a case of you reap what you sow.

 

[Socksmix8]

I think it's a natural progression. I 've been completely cut off and as time goes on all I can think about is my wife with her BBC.

I only watch BBC porn now and honestly as time goes on I find myself more and more interested in the black cock itself. I'm really tempted to ask my wife if her BF has any interest in including me in the festivities. I didn't start out gay/bi but after experiencing how superior BBC is I can't stop thinking about it

 

[Melanie and Stephen]

I chatted privately with others on this subject and now I would like other opinions on my husband Steve that I'm sure there our several like him. First off when we were dating and first married he was so confident and strong and dominate in bed. After several years though that wasn't the case and we hardly had sex. That's the whole reason I ended up straying with a black co-worker. That's when I discovered the sex I had been having was in noway the same as with a black man it totally opened my eyes to what sex and desire was and is. My husband continued to change to the point I thought I could cuck him and I did. He couldn't get enough of me having sex with black men to the point now that's the only time he can get hard is by watching me with Anthony or by looking at pics of me with him. Not that we have sex anymore but when we do he can't get hard and that's why he wears a strap-on. I thought he would never be the type of guy that would eat me out after a BBC unloaded in me until one day he just dove right in after a guy pulled out of me. Now he begs all the time for it to the point of it making me upset. That's why now we don't let him watch anymore and now he's obsessed with wanting to use my toys on his self. From all indications I think he's turn sissy on me! I love the man dearly but I don't want that at all.
Tracey

I too had an affair with a black colleague . At the time it consumed me to such an extent that when he moved away I was desperately unhappy . I’d had premarital relationships but he was my first black guy and I could barely operate either as a mom or wife . Eventually I told Stephen , after copious glasses of wine .

To cut a long story short he agreed that as and when , I could cuckold him for the long term survival of our marriage, as long as I was up front . This has involved flings / relationships with black men over many years .

Our own sexual relationship continues but his pleasure is more prostrate stimulation and mine mainly vibrator induced orgasms . From time to time we advertise on swinger sites for bulls to service me - but as we’ve got older this tends to be infrequent

Stephen doesn’t wear a cage , isn’t a sissy or bisexual / gay . Our marriage has survived which after my early affair I wouldn’t have bet on that . Yes he is a cuckold but it’s worked for us

 

[WillandSusn]

I too had an affair with a black colleague . At the time it consumed me to such an extent that when he moved away I was desperately unhappy . I’d had premarital relationships but he was my first black guy and I could barely operate either as a mom or wife . Eventually I told Stephen , after copious glasses of wine .

To cut a long story short he agreed that as and when , I could cuckold him for the long term survival of our marriage, as long as I was up front . This has involved flings / relationships with black men over many years .

Our own sexual relationship continues but his pleasure is more prostrate stimulation and mine mainly vibrator induced orgasms . From time to time we advertise on swinger sites for bulls to service me - but as we’ve got older this tends to be infrequent

Stephen doesn’t wear a cage , isn’t a sissy or bisexual / gay . Our marriage has survived which after my early affair I wouldn’t have bet on that . Yes he is a cuckold but it’s worked for us

. Interesting how the drop in HGH and testosterone affects men. Young aggressive TYPE A men cant get enough pussy but later in years are happy being cuckolds.

 

[spin419]

Tha Type A remark seems I think you cage another type and never have ha

. Not a real bull. Occasional pegging is vary different from a steady partner who may also cum inside you.

It may be different. But it's still a consummating between a husband and wife, often culminating in an orgasm. It's pleasure, passion and intensity, sharing and fucking. never tried it, but that's going all the way in my book.

 

[spin419]

. Interesting how the drop in HGH and testosterone affects men. Young aggressive TYPE A men cant get enough pussy but later in years are happy being cuckolds.

All kinds of men love and get pussy. And who says “getting it” only means sticking your dick in it??!!!
But I do think the stage of life thing is probably a bigger factor across types than some people may realize. I can only guess but I would imagine there are waaaaaay more married couples between 40-55 having a first time sharing experience than between 25-40. I root for all of them, but especially the mature group.

 

[Anthony0542]

This is a video of a guy cumming from his girlfriend pegging him. He litteraly cums for the whole clip and it sounds like his head is going to explode. This should give you and idea of how intense it is to cum from your prostate


https://www.xtube.com/video-watch/pegged-til-i-cum-twice-27375811

Just watched this clip.....Y’all are right. Ain’t no coming back from that. You get that and you are submitting. I’ve got no interest.

 

[slavesimon]

That kinda makes sense, I know hubby is not turning gay, but he has definitely been conditioned to be turned on my BBC now.

Very true - it has a lot to do with conditioning. Deliberate or b accident... Mostly the second and sometimes women are surprised by it.

 

[petco]

This impact, in my opinion, is why the denial thing is a weapon to be used carefully. It turns my wife on to have that power over me, and we play with it fantasy-wise, but my desire for her now is strong, and we both want it to remain so. If husband's get used to the fact that they are UNABLE to satisfy their wives, then it winds up becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy because I feel like in general, this space is so challenging for men, that unless there is some kind of competition, we wind up deferring ... So for example... It's clear that my wife prefers having bigger cock in her, and the filling they give her is superior to what I give her. That said... I give her a lot of pleasure, and the combination of lovemaking and familiarity we have over many years to being married and being together means she has great pleasure from that experience as well, though it may be different.

We may play with denial as part of a fantasy, but this whole not being sexually connected for months or goodness years at a time, I think is dangerous for relationships....

We have to respect one another enough to voice when we are feeling that disconnect, and prioritize each other to make sure the connection is always there. Our intention with this lifestyle is as an enhance to our marital pleasure, not as a replacement...

well said . it should be an addition .

 

[juststeve]

He is not a man in the bedroom anymore, but outside the bedroom our relationship is the same as it ever was.

I would have assumed that becoming submissive sexually would have a spillover effect and that he would also become more submissive outside the bedroom, like being less willing to take charge in other ways, but you're saying that hasn't happened. It's nice that the changes in him have worked for both of you.