Yeah, we never use the term 'bull' its just not for us. We may in a discussion on cuckolding, but not in the real world. In most of our posts, we refer to the gent who has fucked my wife for the last 4 years as our 'friend', because, thats what he is, a friend as well. Between my wife and I, we refer to him as 'Alpha' because he shares the same name as 3 other friends/ family, and that was part of his handle name on the site we found him. I don't have a problem when meeting a potential male and he's described himself as a bull, just so he shows he understands the dynamic, but if we meet again, we'll use his name or fuckbuddy, fwb etc.
See, I have no problem with any term that all involve decide on. Who am I to judge? I do, however, wonder how many guys really think the "I'm a Dom Bull that will tie you/your husband up and do as I want because I am Dom......and a Bull!" line really works? Even if I were to be submissive or looking for that situation, I would want to know the guy well enough to even let myself be in that much of a compromising situation. I always draw the parallel between the way guys approach couples here and how they would approach a woman in real life.
If I met somebody in person, without them knowing my kink(s), they would surely not say hey let's fuck or at least know they may get smacked or cussed out. Instead, they would strike up a conversation and if it flowed or they got a positive vibe from me, they would ask for my number. Our first text or call is NEVER "so when we meet you will dress how I say, walk how I say, wear makeup as I instruct" OR "Let's fuck!" Even if they ask me my dating status, if I were single, none of this. If I say married, well then there's a whole host of questions but never sexual.....well not directly fucking them.
I say all of this to simply say, the men I've dated or invested time in act like they aren't ready to tie me up and roast me over an open fire in hopes of sticking their dicks in me. They simply speak like they are interested in me, as a person, you know....the parts that aren't warm and moist and able to have their dick firmly planted in. Those same guys are more than likely the ones I've either been with or make plans to be with. They are also the ones that get me how they want because I mean I want somebody, I just don't want EVERYbody.....They want they act with this "Bull/Dom" I am too sensitive to even take "NO" as an answer is not too far removed from the homeless man that always grunts at me when I pass by him and yells "I would tear you up!" and then releases his drunken, goofy laugh. I could fuck him too, I just don't and these guys place themselves in that bucket.
At the very least, read somebody's profile and find out if they are even a match. It'll save us all time and help us all feel slightly less jaded by the obvious mismatched personalities.....ok who am I kidding, that's not any fun! sigh.... HAHA
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