What I find hard to understand is why guys find it so hard to admit that certain behaviors are in fact gay. Is this a hold over from the dark ages when people believed there was something wrong with being gay? Aren't we past that ignorance yet?
I'm not sure what you mean by "that certain behaviors are in fact gay."
If you are referring to specific sex acts, such as sucking cock or anal intercourse, then it's nonsense, because its all just sex. There is no real difference between sucking a finger, a toe, a cock, a clitoris or an elbow: it's all just skin. At least to the mouth doing the sucking. Its only in the conscious recognition of what the body part is and what meaning is chosen to apply to that act which creates the "drama".
My Wife loves having her toes sucked while having her feet massaged. Doesn't particularly do anything for me, but she damn near has orgasms from it (maybe she does), so while my psyche would prefer licking her cunt, if sucking her toes works for her, her toes get sucked. And damned well, I might add.
One of the most popular themes on this site is men fucking women's assholes.
Now aside from the fact that asshole fucking is sodomy and about as gay as you can get sexually, it is even more aberrant when one considers that the man is making a conscious choice to disrespect that which makes a woman uniquely female by choosing the other which she shares in common with men as his preferred orifice to copulate in.
If you were to remove the rectum and colon from both a male and a female, you wouldn't be able to tell them apart without doing DNA testing to identify who's was who's. So, realistically, to the man fucking them, he couldn't tell the difference, so why does he panic about his sexuality because he enjoys fucking assholes?
I love having my cock sucked. Another predominantly homosexual sex act classified as sodomy.
Not a natural thing for a woman to do, most hate doing it and if they do do it, they usually do it only as a prelude to being fucked. Its rare to find a woman who truly enjoys sucking cock to completion as a stand alone sexual experience. Let alone one who truly enjoys swallowing a man's cum.
So does enjoying a great blowjob mean I should worry I might be gay? Most of the guys on this site seem to like getting their dicks sucked too, so what does that say about it?
However, if by "that certain behaviors are in fact gay", you are referring to developing physical and emotional attachments to members of the same sex, hugging kissing and other displays of affection, then I think we are moving away from "its just sex" into the realm of gender preference.
I always thought it odd that "emphatically straight" guys claim to freak out at the thought of two guys sucking each others dicks, but have no problem with guys groping each others asses under the guise of playing sports.
Personally, I think I would rather suck another guy's cock than kiss and make out with him. I can compartmentalize that sucking cock is just sex and as such its no big deal, not really that much different than sucking my Wife's toes, but to be all kissy-huggy with another guy carries a higher degree of emotional involvement which makes the thought of it quite unappealing for me.
So I guess I'm not very emotionally gay capable.
However, if people, in general, were to accept that there are very few people who are truly 100% gay or 100% heterosexual and that the majority of people actually fall somewhere between the two extremes, sexuality identification issues would be much simpler and a lot less stressful for us all.