Advice Needed: Next Steps...

[shady311]

I've been slowly dropping hints that I would enjoy watching my wife get satisfied by a black guy for the better half of a decade. She has a condition that sometimes sex can be painful, however, in the past year it has been much more enjoyable for her & when she is in the ideal mood she really enjoys it. I am honestly terrified if I straight up tell her how she would react &/or think of me.... So I need advice on how to proceed. Below is a very small amount of the of conversations/incidents of note. I believe a lot of the seeds I have planted via interracial themed memes I send & other stuff has resulted in her thinking more about BBC.

-I bought her a black dildo, which she refuses to use because she would rather have sex with me. However, about 5 years ago I did get her to use it & afterwards she said "Well, I guess I can say I have been with a black guy now!"

-I mentioned a previous girlfriend had dated a black friend of mine before. I said it was weird (because he was my friend), she assumed and said "was it weird because he was much bigger than you".

-Her friend went on a mission trip to Africa & mentioned some of the guys just let their dicks hang out. My wife's response, "are the rumors true, are they all huge"

-Another friend has a black teenager & my wife mentioned that he will be a hot commodity when he gets older because "all the girls will want to find out if the rumors are true"

-At the gym one day the instructor told us the white ropes are smaller and easier & the black ropes are bigger and harder, her response "That's what she said"

-She loved the show Bridgerton, & every night when their was a sexy IR scene, she was extra ready in bed.

-One day I sent her a meme from a very popular homemade IR scene with a girl who is her doppelganger & told her I found the video if she would want to watch it. She was appalled and said thats cringeworthy & has no need to watch porn & thinks its just a thing for guys. So I have had zero luck in going that route, which mostly is just to get her worked up so I can have sex with her & get her fantasizing about BBC.

There have been countless moments like this, which gets me very excited. The problem is I don't know how to progress to the next stage & I know she is scared of taking on a BBC as she thinks it will be too big. She has specifically told me before, she would never sleep with a black guy because she would be terrified of a black penis. She has also said she is very content with me & I have nothing to worry about when I send her PG comparison types of things in messages. I really would love to find someone for an in home massage & see how things progress, IDK... She has a nice thick ass & I know she is curious, I think she doesn't want to hurt my feelings being too honest.

So any advice? Also let me know what you think of that ass.
,built for bbc?! Thanks!

 

[shady311]

Cmon now. I really opened up on this post, if you don’t want to give me advice, at least let me know what you think of that ass. Lol

 

[marco vittoro]

ok. share with her some of the BBC 1st time wife tubes out there (maybe after a few drinks) & get her to open up.
maybe use your toy on her, or at least stimulate her while watching.
help her to see herself in those videos.
thats a start.
...but understand that you're opening a door you cannot close,
so be truly certain first of if you REALLY want this.
...where it will go, as well as the eventual & usually inevitable consequences.
as well as WHY you really want this.
...coz once SHE wants this, you're past the point of truly stopping her.

 

[KuriouKouple]

Just be honest tell her about your fantasy, it will peek her interest or it won’t

 

[shady311]

ok. share with her some of the BBC 1st time wife tubes out there (maybe after a few drinks) & get her to open up.
maybe use your toy on her, or at least stimulate her while watching.
help her to see herself in those videos.
thats a start.
...but understand that you're opening a door you cannot close,
so be truly certain first of if you REALLY want this.
...where it will go, as well as the eventual & usually inevitable consequences.
as well as WHY you really want this.
...coz once SHE wants this, you're past the point of truly stopping her.

Do you think it’s inevitable that she would get to the point of wanting it? We have a really good relationship, what would be the inevitable consequences?

 

[dante19xx]

Do you think it’s inevitable that she would get to the point of wanting it? We have a really good relationship, what would be the inevitable consequences?

You can't stop the natures way. In the kingdom of animals alphas rule betas.
We human have evolved but at the end of the day we are still animals following the rule of nature. Beta humans are ruled by alphas and blacks are just more alpha than us whites. Thre are alpha whites but they are mutations in beta white dna.

You should embrace this , join the lifestyle and enjoy yourlife

 

[helen6666]

You may try to make her feel sexy all the time, encourage her to add more sexy clothes to her wardrobe. take her out to places where strangers can get close to her, make her ware sexy under ware or even no under ware at all. let her dance with different men who you can see are showing interest in her, then take her home and use that black toy on her, kiss her, lick her but never get her fully satisfied... maybe one day she will accept that her full satisfaction will be achieved by taking a black bull.

 

[shady311]

You may try to make her feel sexy all the time, encourage her to add more sexy clothes to her wardrobe. take her out to places where strangers can get close to her, make her ware sexy under ware or even no under ware at all. let her dance with different men who you can see are showing interest in her, then take her home and use that black toy on her, kiss her, lick her but never get her fully satisfied... maybe one day she will accept that her full satisfaction will be achieved by taking a black bull.

Good advice. Based on the things she has said to me she is definitely curious, right?!

 

[shady311]

Just be honest tell her about your fantasy, it will peek her interest or it won’t

I have a certain aftershave I use sometimes and she always says I smell like a black guy when I put it in. Every time I get laid afterwards. It’s the subtle things I notice that turn her on. She’s probably thinking about black cock when I fuck her?

 

[marco vittoro]

Do you think it’s inevitable that she would get to the point of wanting it? We have a really good relationship, what would be the inevitable consequences?

the question is whether she already wants it...or secretly already has.
of course also, consequences eventually ensue as well.

 

[Wife4Black77]

I agree with what someone else said, share your fantasy and see where she stands. I had a really hot GF in my mid 20s and this fantasy started with her after an incident at an adult book store. The fantasy drove me crazy but I couldn’t bring myself to share it with her (until just a couple years ago on instant messenger).

When I met my wife (had some girlfriends in between but nothing serious) I resolved to tell her before we got engaged. Life is too short to let opportunities pass.

There are a lot of details we don’t know about you and your wife. How often you have sex, does she orgasm, how does she orgasm, has she shared any fantasies with you? What’s her dating history? How many guys has she fucked? When you used the dildo on her did you rub her clit or use a vibrator on her clit? Do you have *******? Is she has been through vaginal childbirth you can assure her that a large cock can much more easily be accommodated.

My wife protested big time when I bought her her first vibrator. Good Catholic girl. “Ewww I don’t need that or want that!” I playfully kept insisting. She voiced her displeasure right up until I put it on her pussy, then it was “oh, oh god, oh my god, ahhhh, ooooohhhh...” and she came within 10-20 seconds. We have had about 3-4 vibrators since.

When I first showed her the black, life like, very large black vibrator, she said, “no way in hell. That’s way too big. It will never fit.” I told her that I would “go very slow, use lots of lube, you’ve had two ******* so there’s nothing to be scared about.” I persisted despite her displeasure. When I first used it on her like a dildo not vibrator, I went really slow, used lots of lube, rubbed her clit with my off hand and whispered naughty thing in her ear about how this black stud has wanted to fuck her for so long.

She was making noises I had never heard before, guttural noises and groans. I stopped twice and asked if I was hurting her. She kept saying no. The last time I asked if it was hurting my sweet little Catholic wife said “No, it feels fucking incredible!”

She had what seemed like the most intense orgasm of her life, and was shaking and crying on the bed afterwards.

I can offer more advice later but you need to answer some of my inquiries above before I can advise.

 

[mrbigman]

She’s banging

 

[artgirl]

Reading your words, my advice go slow. She's already expressed more than once how put off she is by some of your suggestions. The dildo episode you described may not be what you think. You might have gotten the same reaction from any large vibrator, you stated she's loved every one you've tried. The color might not mean anything to her. She might just be feeding your fantasy because she knows it turns you on and she's being a good wife in her mind.
It sounds like your wife has had many years of instilled values, one being you don't sleep with other men when married. That often comes with a great deal of guilt and fear of rejection. Usually including the collapse of marriage. Remember society has always treated the female differently where sex is concerned. The single male who sleeps around is a stud, the female is a tramp or worse. Females see, hear, and are taught that from the starting gate. In what your wanting making her convinced what you ask will not backfire and cause all she's been taught is your biggest obstacle. Remember what most guys get turned on by she's been taught is forbidden.
Watching a porno or buying a black dildo will not remove those deep feelings. Her interest in them merely a hint that with assurance of no anger or rejection by you exploring is a safe option. I think it would be safe to say the more secure she feels in your relationship the easyer it would be to get her to explore. Something you will be doing together as a couple. Something to try with a understanding at first it's a mutual experience . Even including the option of it being a one time thing until discussed after. That way either has the opportunity to decide to proceed or not.

 

[MacNfries]

Three are alpha whites but they are mutations in beta white dna.

"Mutated Alpha Males", now that's a good one........

I love these forums .... like talking to Trump, you never know what they're gonna say. Maybe you should feed her bleach .... LOL!

 

[MacNfries]

Based on the things she has said to me she is definitely curious, right?!

You're imagining things ... tell you what, have a little outside cookout this Spring, make her some of her favorite bar beverages (wine, mixed, beer, etc) see if you can get her a bit "high", enough to get her to drop her female defenses and see if you can get her to reveal her deepest sexual fantasy topics. If "BBC" isn't part of that, use what she offers you in information to make one of her fantasies come true, THEN, maybe she'll consider granting you one of yours. Sounds to me once you bring up sharing her with a black male she turns on her "marital defenses" to avoid the discussion. You need to get by that defense.
Think about it!

 

[NewArabSw]

When I first showed her the black, life like, very large black vibrator, she said, “no way in hell. That’s way too big. It will never fit.” I told her that I would “go very slow, use lots of lube, you’ve had two ******* so there’s nothing to be scared about.”

Just as my husband made me watch black videos with a huge cock, he asked me if you think women can really fuck with this huge cock, I immediately answered me there are ******* coming from here.

 

[shady311]

I agree with what someone else said, share your fantasy and see where she stands. I had a really hot GF in my mid 20s and this fantasy started with her after an incident at an adult book store. The fantasy drove me crazy but I couldn’t bring myself to share it with her (until just a couple years ago on instant messenger).

When I met my wife (had some girlfriends in between but nothing serious) I resolved to tell her before we got engaged. Life is too short to let opportunities pass.

There are a lot of details we don’t know about you and your wife. How often you have sex, does she orgasm, how does she orgasm, has she shared any fantasies with you? What’s her dating history? How many guys has she fucked? When you used the dildo on her did you rub her clit or use a vibrator on her clit? Do you have *******? Is she has been through vaginal childbirth you can assure her that a large cock can much more easily be accommodated.

My wife protested big time when I bought her her first vibrator. Good Catholic girl. “Ewww I don’t need that or want that!” I playfully kept insisting. She voiced her displeasure right up until I put it on her pussy, then it was “oh, oh god, oh my god, ahhhh, ooooohhhh...” and she came within 10-20 seconds. We have had about 3-4 vibrators since.

When I first showed her the black, life like, very large black vibrator, she said, “no way in hell. That’s way too big. It will never fit.” I told her that I would “go very slow, use lots of lube, you’ve had two ******* so there’s nothing to be scared about.” I persisted despite her displeasure. When I first used it on her like a dildo not vibrator, I went really slow, used lots of lube, rubbed her clit with my off hand and whispered naughty thing in her ear about how this black stud has wanted to fuck her for so long.

She was making noises I had never heard before, guttural noises and groans. I stopped twice and asked if I was hurting her. She kept saying no. The last time I asked if it was hurting my sweet little Catholic wife said “No, it feels fucking incredible!”

She had what seemed like the most intense orgasm of her life, and was shaking and crying on the bed afterwards.

I can offer more advice later but you need to answer some of my inquiries above before I can advise.

We have 3 *******. Typically have sex at least once a week with another few days I go down on her and vice Versa. In the past she has just orgasmed via oral, but I’ve got her to cum twice recently after going down on her then again while having sex, once with vibrating ring and once without. The only other guy I know she was with is her high school/college boyfriend who was Dominican. I found his Twitter profile and definitely a darker complexion guy who looks like a stud. I also lurked her FB messages and a high school friend told her “I can’t believe you ended up with a skinny white boy”!

 

[shady311]

You're imagining things ... tell you what, have a little outside cookout this Spring, make her some of her favorite bar beverages (wine, mixed, beer, etc) see if you can get her a bit "high", enough to get her to drop her female defenses and see if you can get her to reveal her deepest sexual fantasy topics. If "BBC" isn't part of that, use what she offers you in information to make one of her fantasies come true, THEN, maybe she'll consider granting you one of yours. Sounds to me once you bring up sharing her with a black male she turns on her "marital defenses" to avoid the discussion. You need to get by that defense.
Think about it!

Idk. When I asked her who was her celebrity crush she told me the guy from How Stella Got Her Groove Back. Which I’ve never seen but it’s Taye Diggs who happens to be black.

 

[MacNfries]

When I asked her who was her celebrity crush she told me the guy from How Stella Got Her Groove Back.

Exactly my point ... you're creating something more than what she meant in your mind ... you're imagining (or hoping) things.
Example: A female co-worker friend sends you a note or card and ends it with "Love So&So" .... that doesn't mean she emotionally LOVES you and has a desire for sex with you. What if it was a sympathy card for a death in your family? Your Q was "who was her celebrity crush"... not "what celebrity would she like to have sex with". Makes sense? If you wish I prove that point, why not reask her that question but say "who was her celebrity she most desired to have sex with" OR simply ask her "when she made Tagg Diggs her favorite celebrity crush, did she mean she would have sex with him". That should clear it all up for you.

 

[Wife4Black77]

Exactly my point ... your creating something more than what she meant in your mind ... you're imagining (or hoping) things.
Example: A female co-worker friend sends you a note or card and ends it with "Love So&So" .... that doesn't mean she emotionally LOVES you and has a desire for sex with you. What if it was a sympathy card for a death in your family? Your Q was "who was her celebrity crush"... not "what celebrity would she like to have sex with". Makes sense? If you wish I prove that point, why not reask her that question but say "who was her celebrity she most desired to have sex with" OR simply ask her "when she made Tagg Diggs her favorite celebrity crush, did she mean she would have sex with him". That should clear it all up for you.

If his wife was 13 maybe. But adult women who talk about a celebrity crush are not thinking in terms of holding hands. Women aren’t going to refer to someone so bluntly. “That’s the celebrity I’d like to get fucked by.” My wife’s celebrity crush is someone who she wouldn’t hesitate to have sex with. She refers to them as damn sexy not “cute” or “gentlemanly.”

The fact that her ex was Dominican makes me believe that she isn’t opposed to fucking a black guy under different circumstances (I.e. if she was single). The fact that her celebrity crush is also black again speaks to a greater willingness to explore attraction outside of her race.

BUT, the “hints” she is throwing off supposedly are way too vague/obscure/sketchy to put a lot of faith that she is anywhere close to realizing your fantasy. She sounds a bit like an uptight “traditional” wife.

By these standards my wife has thrown off insanely forward hints about fucking a black guy, and yet I’m no closer to making this happen than I was 5 years ago.

Your best bet is to confide in your wife about what your fantasy is, and see where you stand. You guys have an active sex life so she doesn’t sound frigid. Just tell her you are showing a lot of trust in her sharing this fantasy and to please be respectful and discreet. Tell her you won’t ******* her to do this fantasy but you didn’t want to hide your desires from her.