UPDATE:
So I came completely clean about my fantasy and things did not go as well as I’d hoped. She thought it was strange I’d want to see her with another guy… She told me if she wanted a black guy she would’ve done it in college. Evidently she was hit on and asked out by a top basketball player at her school. She said she was “attracted to him” but denied him because she assumed he had a big dick and thought it would’ve hurt… I love the fact she commented on her assumptions on his size, but not very promising on getting her to make the leap.
Any thoughts/ suggestions?
You are in a much better position than you think. She has already admitted to being attracted to a black guy. That is huge.
Now you need to reassure her of many things to get her on board:
- Tell her that your fantasy is all about watching her get maximum pleasure, that’s what gets you hot.
- This fantasy makes you crazy horny and makes you desire her more (look up sperm competition to understand the dynamics yourself)
- As hot as this fantasy is, and it is scorching hot, you don’t want to lose her so even if this has to be fantasy only, not be realized fully that’s ok.
- Tell her this is a very, very common fantasy (you can show her stats, hell my therapist says she has numerous couples where the men have this as their top fantasy), but it’s still very embarrassing for you and it took tons of courage to share it with her and you want to be her partner for life which is why you took the chance.
- Many men have fantasies about other women (many act on those fantasies), that’s not you. She is your ideal mate and even in your fantasy life it’s all about her.
- Even if you don’t do it in real life the fantasy play between the two of you will be so hot and your naughty little secret.
Next up tell her that you’d like to watch some adult videos together after some drinks to just play around a little. DO SOME RESEARCH AND PICK SOME HOT VIDEOS THAT WILL APPEAL TO HER AND FEMALE SENSIBILITIES. Don’t pick the standard guy videos where it is just in and out slapping uglies with the obligatory cum shot on the face, anal, or extreme with hubby in womens underwear or cage. Should be large black guy in great shape with large cock, fucking married cute white woman who is having a hell of a good time.
Buy a black life like dildo but don’t overdo it by getting the biggest one you can. My wife at first balked big time because it was bigger than she had ever had but I promised to go slow and use lots of lube, which I did. I fucked her with it slowly while I fingered her clit and talked dirty to her. I thought she was in pain so I had to ask her a couple times. She finally exclaimed “it feels FUCKING AMAZING!!!” Which she never liked to cuss at all. She came so so hard.
Good luck and keep us posted.