I can only go off of what she’s telling me. She has never told me she wants to fuck him without me being there. She always says she wants me there. She said she still loves me and when he isn’t around will still give me intercourse. The sex with us is pretty vanilla and the intensity isn’t as great. She clearly not getting as much from me as she does from sex with him. I’m sure she’s doing it more for my benefit than hers. I would think another clue things were changing would be if I get cut off. A lot of guys on her have told me it does happen a lot. He’s told her a few times in the beginning he isn’t interesting in dating her, just is looking for sex and having fun. But I understand what you are saying and am very mindful of it and if that ever happens, things would be changing for sure. She still loves me but I think we both realize now I can’t give her sexually what she needs. We both knew that when she would prefer her bbc dildo over me. Things changed for sure when I came out and admitted to her I knew she wasn’t getting off with me and that she needed more.I’ll tell you, make sure this guy doesn’t want your wife for himself. He works with her. This is a normal fella. Not a “ professional” bull that has done this repeatedly. She is clearly getting connected to him. Just watch for the first...” I want to fuck him at his place without you” statement. It will be over for you and her. Just watch, she may fall in love with him and him with her. Might be better to space the meeting out a little or get another guy in there also to mix things up a little. Too much one on one can build those connections. If she’s open to another guy your ok.