I definitely understand this.
There was a guy we know, he’s an absolute jerk and nothing special.
But somehow he seems to have bedded lots of women. He has been married 3 times and is renowned for being unfaithful and horrible to his partners. He has fathered 7. With different women.
After a few drinks He was able to seduce my wife at a work event and added her to his list of conquests.
My wife’s comment that “it just sort of happened” didn’t impress me, especially when she confessed all of the details -
And I learned that he actually took her to a hotel room at 11pm, fucked her until 3 in the morning, nutted inside her twice, showered with her in the morning, and then made her put her ‘night out’ make up and lipstick on for him
He then showed her a bunch of photos and videos on his phone of himself giving various women a facial, a lot of these women were known to my wife.
He then talked her into getting down onto her knees and she unfortunately joined that list.
He filmed her looking into the camera - saying her full name, his full name and that she consented to this video being made.
I’m not sure that any of that “just happened”
Physically, he isn’t attractive. And my wife still insists that he is a ‘dick’
She submitted to his reputation and the fact that he was so successful at bedding women she knew.
I was very angry at her being unfaithful because he isn’t as attractive as me (in my opinion) and has a reputation as being very disliked.
My wife’s tearful confession that “there’s just something about him” is something which I don’t think I will ever understand