When do you tell your husband that you are Black pregnant?

When do you tell your husband that you are Black pregnant?


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Listen, it was never my intention to become pregnant. Initially, when my ex husband brought my now husband into my life and bed, I was resistant to this but he kept up the pressure until I agreed.
Then, once I gave in and started a relationship with a black man, all intimacy between us stopped. He wouldn't even touch me, just would stand outside the door, or hide in a closet and watch us have sex ( and jerk off).
What normal man does this when he has a very attractive wife, with a nice body, who takes good care of herself?
It was basically like he was my roommate and my lover assumed the role of husband, so when I got pregnant ( on the pill) I knew right away it wasn't my husbands baby but instead my lovers baby.
Then I tell him and he throws a fit and blames everything on me and files for divorce.
Abortion was never an option for me as I do not believe in that, and when I tell the *******, he embraces me and tells me he wants a future with me and our baby when my ex kicks me out.
Not an easy situation so please try and not judge. I am married to him now and we have a good life and I am totally faithful.

You have nothing to be ashamed of at all your ex opened that door knowing what could possibly happen and still wanted you to do it so it's his fault at the end of day. And congrats on your new family and having a real man in your life
 
.... Initially, when my ex husband brought my now husband into my life and bed, I was resistant to this but he kept up the pressure until I agreed ....
Then, once I gave in and started a relationship with a black man, all intimacy between us stopped. He wouldn't even touch me, just would stand outside the door, or hide in a closet and watch us have sex ( and jerk off).
What normal man does this when he has a very attractive wife, with a nice body, who takes good care of herself?...
.... so when I got pregnant ( on the pill) I knew right away it wasn't my husbands baby but instead my lovers baby.
Then I tell him and he throws a fit and blames everything on me and files for divorce.
You are lucky ...I mean, really, really lucky. Your scenario plays out a lot more than not, but often leaves the women divorced, trying to raise a family on her own. Hubby leaves you ong "grounds" ... courts won't make him pay, and the bio-******* usually isn't anywhere to be found or totally denies the baby. Men often "think" they know what they want, but then we're such impulsive creatures our logic and forth sightedness often fail us.
I am married to him now and we have a good life and I am totally faithful.
Really? Sooooooo, you're here on this website because of ..... ?
 
Listen, it was never my intention to become pregnant. Initially, when my ex husband brought my now husband into my life and bed, I was resistant to this but he kept up the pressure until I agreed.
Then, once I gave in and started a relationship with a black man, all intimacy between us stopped. He wouldn't even touch me, just would stand outside the door, or hide in a closet and watch us have sex ( and jerk off).
What normal man does this when he has a very attractive wife, with a nice body, who takes good care of herself?
It was basically like he was my roommate and my lover assumed the role of husband, so when I got pregnant ( on the pill) I knew right away it wasn't my husbands baby but instead my lovers baby.
Then I tell him and he throws a fit and blames everything on me and files for divorce.
Abortion was never an option for me as I do not believe in that, and when I tell the *******, he embraces me and tells me he wants a future with me and our baby when my ex kicks me out.
Not an easy situation so please try and not judge. I am married to him now and we have a good life and I am totally faithful.

I'm not directing my comment at you. Sorry if it seemed that way. I was referring to people that try to get pregnant. For the thrill or fantasy of it. It will eventually wear off and the baby is still there. That's what I was referring to and in no way was an attack on you. :)
 
I am currently pregnant, actually, ended up getting pregnant on the pill. When I told my husband, he, of course, knew right away the baby's ******* was my lover. He became very angry at me for "allowing" this to happen and he has now filed for divorce. he was the one who pushed and encouraged me to consider being with a black man, and now here I am pregnant. My lover, on the other hand, has been wonderful, supportive and wants me to have the baby. He wants to marry me after my divorce is final. So confused as to what to do.

If this isn't someones fantasy... Marry him. And, be his wife in all ways. Not just in the bedroom.

Prayers going your way.

-Angie
 
You are lucky ...I mean, really, really lucky. Your scenario plays out a lot more than not, but often leaves the women divorced, trying to raise a family on her own. Hubby leaves you ong "grounds" ... courts won't make him pay, and the bio-******* usually isn't anywhere to be found or totally denies the baby. Men often "think" they know what they want, but then we're such impulsive creatures our logic and forth sightedness often fail us.

Really? Sooooooo, you're here on this website because of ..... ?
I am here because I have friends here. People who were instrumental in helping me when I was pregnant the first time and confused. Why do you have to assume the worst?
I also want to encourage others and tell them that things can work out.
 
It has been ages since I have logged onto this site, but I did want to update everyone on my situation. Last June, much to my surprise, I discovered I was pregnant after being on the pill. I was involved in an exclusive, sexual relationship with a black man my husband found on Craigslist. Long story short, I became Pregnant last June, and when I told my husband, (he knew right away because when I became involved with the man, we stopped having intercourse, his choice) he decided to leave me and file for divorce. To his credit, the divorce was amicable, and I did receive the marital home free and clear. ( my guess is that was a pay off to keep quiet about his sexual perversions).
Our divorce was final in 60 days, and I decided to take a chance on my baby's *******, as he was pushing me for a commitment. I did love him and the sex was the best of my life, so two seeks after my divorce became final, we were married by the justice of the peace with no fan fare and embarked on our honeymoon to Lake Tahoe. I gave birth to our ******* on March, 19, 2014, a beautiful, 8lb 9 oz bundle of joy. We named him Aiden Michael, and have to say, he has been such a blessing! I did decide to put my former marital home on the market, as my husband did not want to live in the home I shared with my ex husband, and when it sold in January of this year, we decided to relocate to his hometown of Elgin, IL. I am doing fantastic and am very happy. I cannot wait to give this wonderful man more children and grow old with him. Thank you all!
Im near gurnee if you know any friends looking for a bull.
 
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