This is our opinion. I'm 23 and my husband is 40. This is his first relationship like this and mine. I was into black guys before him and was honest to him because he wanted a relationship where we was go eat and open so we wouldn't split up. It works for us. We had no idea it was a thing and I am the one that gets the benefit. He is faithful. I really do love being with black men. It's not just the dick which is amazing, it's the attraction and the desire. I see black men and my pussy gets wet and white men make it dry up. Js I'm only 23 what do I know.