The Importance Of The "BBC" In The Hotwife-Cuckold-Lifestyle (personal note)

How important is the "BBC" for the Hotwife-Cuckold (HW-CH) lifestyle?

  • I am a single Woman and IMO black skin is a playmate`s most important trait.

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  • I am a single Woman and IMO big penis size is a playmate`s most important trait.

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Within the adult lifestyle in question (see title) it is well understood that in this context "BBC" is used as abbreviation for Big Black Cock.

In this post i will raise the question of the importance of the BBC as a trait for the third (i.e. additional) player, taking its meaning literally. Also i will discuss this topic from a personal point of view (meaning our viewpoint, both mine and my girlfriend`s, as we have discussed it).

Initially, i need to say that what my girlfriend and i look for in an additional participant are (slightly) different, but luckily not disjoint characteristics. But let me start by explaining where our ideas fully overlap and each our motives...


We are both looking for a male person to occasionally extend our sexual play.

She, firstly, because she is about 99% straight and the arousal another woman would stir in her would not be worth the effort, and secondly, because another woman as the third player would most probably result in a jealousy issue on her part.

i, firstly, because the most important reason why i choose to participate in this lifestyle is my woman`s satisfaction which - for me - is more important than my own. (This is why i put the "Hotwife" before the "Cuckold" when i talk about the lifestyle we participate in. ;) ) Secondly, i don`t feel the need to be with a woman other than my girlfriend.

For completeness, let me say that i am sexually not drawn to men, but it`s men that help me satisfy my woman. ;) Also, would my lady happen to be bisexual, i (and probably the both of us) would likewise welcome a woman as an addition, but then for her (my GF`s) pleasure - not for mine. My woman will always be the center of any imaginable arrangement.


i suspect that most B2w members would agree on that the best candidate for a "bull" (or whatever term one may use for the additional player) would be a Black man with a big dick. - For us it is more subtle than that.

Depending on the variety of our sexual play, we seek different characteristics in "the other guy", each for different reasons. Or, - better put - the variety of our sexual lifestyle play depends on the traits of our playmate.

Penis size matters! (And this is how...)
A bigger dick can be an advantage when it comes to penetrative sex, because it is able to stretch my woman in a way my average sized dick can`t, it provides her with a feeling of being fuller filled, and more frictive stimulation.
A medium sized dick is an advantage, because it is easier to get "right to the point" without the need for extended foreplay which would be otherwise necessary for her to accommodate a huge "member". Also, it is easier to seamlessly extend a BJ to deep-throating with a medium dick than it would be with a huge one.
A below average sized dick would be advantageous for DP-ing, which can already be hard even with two medium-sized dicks, and is (almost) impossible with a huge dick involved.

But the most important advantage and a major reason for inviting another person "into our bed" is the level of excitement this kind of arrangement creates for its out-of-the-box nature, and the factor of surprise interaction with a less acquainted person holds, ultimately leading to a high level of arousal, pleasure and, yes, both more and more intense orgasms.

Having this said, stamina is important! And far more than dick size.
But even a man with unconvincing staying-power could compensate for that, if his recreational time is short enough. (It is an inherent characteristic of male physique that typically "round #2" is more promising than the first. ;) )

The only real disappointment would be a man who is not able to get an errection in the first place or is absolutely unable to maintain it. But i tend to think, there is fortunately a bad chance that someone who is knowingly lacking in this department is trying to get in touch with a couple for the purpose of sexual activities in the first place. ;) But after all we keep in mind that it`s humans involved in this lifestyle, not machines!


Instead of a list of criteria a supposed playmate has to meet, we prefer to find someone we click with on a sympathy level, which means it is more likely that we will find it easier to loosen our buttons and simply have some instinctive carnal fun together. :) Of course some mutual sexual attraction between my girlfriend and the additional guy is a prerequisite too!

SIDENOTE: B2w is an "interracial" community mainly advertising Black-men-on-white-Woman (sexual) relations. Honestly, i have to admit that my girlfriend has no real preference for a particular group of men based on skin color. - And this is where my girlfriend and i differ (slightly and yet the most), as it is me who prefers a Black man to take care of my woman, because of the mere eroticism and arousal it (naturally?) creates in me to see a Black man`s skin contrasting to my white woman`s skin every single time she receives his caressing hands on her and his thrusts in her.

SIDENOTE #2: i do not have a "racial" preference either. i fell in love with my white girlfriend for the person she is inside and out. It was not even on purpose. i could likewise have fallen in love with a Black, an Arabian, an Indian, a far-east-Asian, or latino, or whatever woman as well. It just happened i didn`t.


Can anyone somehow relate to this? Please, answer:
Is the "BBC" an important part of your (intended) lifestyle, or even a necessity, or
not at all that important?
What is your opinion?
T.Y.
 
Black men for us is a very important part of our lifestyle. In terms they have been very good sexually and friendship wise for my wife and me.
We simply prefer black men to be the bulls. But we have had a couple of my white friends who have slept with my wife in front of me. They do a great job also.
 
Black men for us is a very important part of our lifestyle. In terms they have been very good sexually and friendship wise for my wife and me.
We simply prefer black men to be the bulls. But we have had a couple of my white friends who have slept with my wife in front of me. They do a great job also.
Thank you for your honest reply.

Also i have added a poll now, to help make this topic and interaction here more interesting. Note that the poll is public, so your answer will be shown to everyone.

@Mywifelovesthis: What you say about preference is definitely true for us too. Although it is me rather than my girlfriend who has a true preference for Black men for her. But i am lucky enough she does not object to playing with a Black man either. ;)
 
For us, there are two reasons for my wife to fuck black men. The biggest reason is that she loves their attitude toward fucking her. When she is not with me, she likes to just be slutty and let guys do whatever they want. The other reason is that we want to keep her relationship with them to be fucking only with no chance of an emotional attachment. With that in mind, we don't see a lot of chance of a black men in their 20s wanting more from a white, Jewish woman in her 50s than the chance to use her mouth, pussy and ass.
 
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Within the adult lifestyle in question (see title) it is well understood that in this context "BBC" is used as abbreviation for Big Black Cock.

In this post i will raise the question of the importance of the BBC as a trait for the third (i.e. additional) player, taking its meaning literally. Also i will discuss this topic from a personal point of view (meaning our viewpoint, both mine and my girlfriend`s, as we have discussed it).

Initially, i need to say that what my girlfriend and i look for in an additional participant are (slightly) different, but luckily not disjoint characteristics. But let me start by explaining where our ideas fully overlap and each our motives...


We are both looking for a male person to occasionally extend our sexual play.

She, firstly, because she is about 99% straight and the arousal another woman would stir in her would not be worth the effort, and secondly, because another woman as the third player would most probably result in a jealousy issue on her part.

i, firstly, because the most important reason why i choose to participate in this lifestyle is my woman`s satisfaction which - for me - is more important than my own. (This is why i put the "Hotwife" before the "Cuckold" when i talk about the lifestyle we participate in. ;) ) Secondly, i don`t feel the need to be with a woman other than my girlfriend.

For completeness, let me say that i am sexually not drawn to men, but it`s men that help me satisfy my woman. ;) Also, would my lady happen to be bisexual, i (and probably the both of us) would likewise welcome a woman as an addition, but then for her (my GF`s) pleasure - not for mine. My woman will always be the center of any imaginable arrangement.


i suspect that most B2w members would agree on that the best candidate for a "bull" (or whatever term one may use for the additional player) would be a Black man with a big dick. - For us it is more subtle than that.

Depending on the variety of our sexual play, we seek different characteristics in "the other guy", each for different reasons. Or, - better put - the variety of our sexual lifestyle play depends on the traits of our playmate.

Penis size matters! (And this is how...)
A bigger dick can be an advantage when it comes to penetrative sex, because it is able to stretch my woman in a way my average sized dick can`t, it provides her with a feeling of being fuller filled, and more frictive stimulation.
A medium sized dick is an advantage, because it is easier to get "right to the point" without the need for extended foreplay which would be otherwise necessary for her to accommodate a huge "member". Also, it is easier to seamlessly extend a BJ to deep-throating with a medium dick than it would be with a huge one.
A below average sized dick would be advantageous for DP-ing, which can already be hard even with two medium-sized dicks, and is (almost) impossible with a huge dick involved.

But the most important advantage and a major reason for inviting another person "into our bed" is the level of excitement this kind of arrangement creates for its out-of-the-box nature, and the factor of surprise interaction with a less acquainted person holds, ultimately leading to a high level of arousal, pleasure and, yes, both more and more intense orgasms.

Having this said, stamina is important! And far more than dick size.
But even a man with unconvincing staying-power could compensate for that, if his recreational time is short enough. (It is an inherent characteristic of male physique that typically "round #2" is more promising than the first. ;) )

The only real disappointment would be a man who is not able to get an errection in the first place or is absolutely unable to maintain it. But i tend to think, there is fortunately a bad chance that someone who is knowingly lacking in this department is trying to get in touch with a couple for the purpose of sexual activities in the first place. ;) But after all we keep in mind that it`s humans involved in this lifestyle, not machines!


Instead of a list of criteria a supposed playmate has to meet, we prefer to find someone we click with on a sympathy level, which means it is more likely that we will find it easier to loosen our buttons and simply have some instinctive carnal fun together. :) Of course some mutual sexual attraction between my girlfriend and the additional guy is a prerequisite too!

SIDENOTE: B2w is an "interracial" community mainly advertising Black-men-on-white-Woman (sexual) relations. Honestly, i have to admit that my girlfriend has no real preference for a particular group of men based on skin color. - And this is where my girlfriend and i differ (slightly and yet the most), as it is me who prefers a Black man to take care of my woman, because of the mere eroticism and arousal it (naturally?) creates in me to see a Black man`s skin contrasting to my white woman`s skin every single time she receives his caressing hands on her and his thrusts in her.

SIDENOTE #2: i do not have a "racial" preference either. i fell in love with my white girlfriend for the person she is inside and out. It was not even on purpose. i could likewise have fallen in love with a Black, an Arabian, an Indian, a far-east-Asian, or latino, or whatever woman as well. It just happened i didn`t.


Can anyone somehow relate to this? Please, answer:
Is the "BBC" an important part of your (intended) lifestyle, or even a necessity, or
not at all that important?
What is your opinion?
T.Y.
well written article agree with a lot of the content
 
Excellent thread. Having sex with BBC may lead to some attachment - but hardly a long-term one. On the other hand, we passed through a very painful phase in our relashionship when my darling wife fell in love with one white lover. This nearly lead to a divorce. With a black lover, especially if there are several, there is no such risk. Sex is great, communication and relations maybe perfect, but no emotional attachment and no suffering on termination.
 
Excellent thread. Having sex with BBC may lead to some attachment - but hardly a long-term one. On the other hand, we passed through a very painful phase in our relashionship when my darling wife fell in love with one white lover. This nearly lead to a divorce. With a black lover, especially if there are several, there is no such risk. Sex is great, communication and relations maybe perfect, but no emotional attachment and no suffering on termination.
Why do you say 'hardly a long term one' and 'with a black lover' 'there is no such risk'.
Are you saying your wife could only fall in love with a white man but not fall in love with a black man? Why not?
I have met black guys who wanted a quick fuck, but other guys who were into something more, and one guy I had very strong feelings for.
 
Excellent thread. Having sex with BBC may lead to some attachment - but hardly a long-term one. On the other hand, we passed through a very painful phase in our relashionship when my darling wife fell in love with one white lover. This nearly lead to a divorce. With a black lover, especially if there are several, there is no such risk. Sex is great, communication and relations maybe perfect, but no emotional attachment and no suffering on termination.
Perfectly understood- it's important to relationship or friendship outside your area the risk of attachment very unlikely to happen. Travelling for fuck better
 
No BBC, no deal. A hotwife relationship requires a black bull, in order for her to have the most raw sexual experience possible. When she watches that long black shaft disappear deep into her fertile white pussy, the hotwife will come to know the truth.

She will join...
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Why do you say 'hardly a long term one' and 'with a black lover' 'there is no such risk'.
Are you saying your wife could only fall in love with a white man but not fall in love with a black man? Why not?
I have met black guys who wanted a quick fuck, but other guys who were into something more, and one guy I had very strong feelings for.
Thank you Ann for your honest contribution.

Cuckolding is walking a tightrope. With cuckolding there is the necessity of actively maintaining the relationship while otherwise it could easily drift toward a daily routine. i tend to see it as one of the potentially positive effects of cuckolding as a lifestyle. ;)
For a cuckold (in fact any) husband to feel secure about his marriage and to take his wife for granted - for whatever reason - is highly risky!

Selecting a suitable additional player is one of the most important parts of the lifestyle. If you opt for sex only, make sure the other man is also in search of NSA sex only and not a relationship.
This goal may be harder to achieve if the wife has a regular lover on the side though, taking emotional bonding as a natural side-effect of sexual intercourse and orgasms into account :| ImO in that constellation a marriage needs to be constantly fixed by both husband and wife.
 
My hot wife wants someone different from me, and she loves the skin tone contrast. Therefore, darker skin black man, and someone that is bigger than me. Even if slightly...I'm not small, and she really enjoys my cock, but definitely enjoys larger up to a point. Much over 9, and she usually gets uncomfortable when bull wants to fuck hard, as her cervix gets very painful with long cocks...but we have only had that problem a few times.

Most important above all...is maturity and sensuality. The bull must be able to flirt and be patient...she loves the light touch, the look, the flirty convo....so for sure, the physical elements are important, but a hot stud with dark skin and black cock that is a pompous ass....not gonna get in her panties....well if she were to wear any...LOL! :)
 
Several reasons why couple join the BBC Hotwife/ Cuckold lifestyle. You will always get a different answers and similar answers. For us, is the typical married couple that after years of marrige, we find different ways to spice up our sex life starting off with toys, porn flick, dirty talk. Then we took our dirty talk to another level that included another man in joining in for a threesome. Same thing with a girl for a threesome. We both found out that our sex was hotter when we fantasize a threesome with a male partner. With time, our threesome roleplaying became a hotwife/cuckold fantasy. our dirty talk was only about the bull fucking the wife while the husband only watch and enjoyed the show. This was by far our hottest sex. We started looking at cuckold porn with both White males and black males. We found that cuckold porn with a black male was extremely hot for us. Just the way they took control, dominated, passionate, rough, stamina, powerful, package size......... WOW. for the wife, she feels that a BBC stud can sexually please her like no other and as of late, she has been sexually attracted to black men and has been checking them out at public spaces.
 
No BBC, no deal. A hotwife relationship requires a black bull, in order for her to have the most raw sexual experience possible. When she watches that long black shaft disappear deep into her fertile white pussy, the hotwife will come to know the truth.

She will join...
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We should not try to fight nature. We should embrace black cocks as a beautiful part of a white marriage. It spices up everything.

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This has been up for over a year and no single woman has answered the poll so far? :(
Ladies, take heart and, please, chime in!

So, talking `bout dicks, what`s most important for you, size, black skin, or has it to be both?

Thank y`all!
 
Hey everyone! Any more opinions on the subject matter?

And Ladies, no matter single or not, please don't let the gents and couples be the only ones to answer. We all appreciate your opinions too. ;)

Thank you.
 
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