Curious about the lifestyle

[candk8790]

Hi everyone! My wife and I are new to the LS altogether, and have joined a site to help us meet other women and possibly even like minded couples, she’s mainly been interested in trying things out with other women or seeing me with another woman. We were messaged by a single man with a rather nice sized BBC and when she saw his pictures she pretty much started drooling. We’re very open with each other so I asked her about it and she said he looked delicious, and it honestly kind of turned me on.

We watch porn together and have even started playing with more toys, one of which being an 8 inch dildo and she has been getting better at taking it, she’s even been kind of proud of herself, and I’ve made her squirt with it, which she’s never done before. We watch a variety of porn but I notice she gets a little more into it when it’s a white woman just being ravaged by a BBC.

While discussing it she’s seemed unsure, like yeah she thinks it’s really hot but is not sure she wants to try it. And I’m a little apprehensive too, the idea of it is very hot and definitely gets me horny, but at the same time I’m not sure how I’ll feel watching another man fuck my wife, even though at times the thought turns me on. I’m obviously not going to move forward with anything if neither of us are comfortable because we love each other and our marriage is more important than anything, but I don’t want her to be denied an amazing experience that she wants because we don’t know how to approach the situation.

So I guess I’m looking for advice/experience about seeing if this is the right direction and how we should move forward with it. I’ll take into consideration advice from everyone, not just the couples. Thanks in advanced guys, very happy to be here.

 

[beenblackened]

Welcome to our community. The most important part of this lifestyle if you're a couple is both of you need to be on the same page with it. If you're both thinking about it that's a good start. You could test the waters by going out to some clubs and mingle specially to a dance club and see how things go no harm in that and see how it goes. When I was with my husband, he loved watching me dance with black men big turn on for him and me. As for here I would verify and stick with chatting with verified members. Have some fun with it as long as you're both on board with it! Tracey

 

[OleMissQoScple]

Just go slow and meet the right people...
I was a swinger for about 20 years prior to meeting my wife and I have seen couples make it or break it.
With my wife and I now we've been in the lifestyle about 4 years, started with just a guy friend coming over to see if she was comfortable with another guy and with time we evolved to black men, we still haven't tried a single female together, she still has trust issues from the past with females so we don't know if we'll try that yet..
As far as black men, honestly they've been awesome, we currently have a good one we play with regularly... But we're not black only type.


If you do decide to take that next step, just be careful with all y'all's feelings and respect boundaries on both sides.

 

[candk8790]

Welcome to our community. The most important part of this lifestyle if you're a couple is both of you need to be on the same page with it. If you're both thinking about it that's a good start. You could test the waters by going out to some clubs and mingle specially to a dance club and see how things go no harm in that and see how it goes. When I was with my husband, he loved watching me dance with black men big turn on for him and me. As for here I would verify and stick with chatting with verified members. Have some fun with it as long as you're both on board with it! Tracey

Thank you so much for the reply, we'll go ahead and get verified and start chatting with folks. And we've been trying to get out more to clubs so maybe that's the push we need.

 

[AnnieS]

Hi everyone! My wife and I are new to the LS altogether, and have joined a site to help us meet other women and possibly even like minded couples, she’s mainly been interested in trying things out with other women or seeing me with another woman. We were messaged by a single man with a rather nice sized BBC and when she saw his pictures she pretty much started drooling. We’re very open with each other so I asked her about it and she said he looked delicious, and it honestly kind of turned me on.

We watch porn together and have even started playing with more toys, one of which being an 8 inch dildo and she has been getting better at taking it, she’s even been kind of proud of herself, and I’ve made her squirt with it, which she’s never done before. We watch a variety of porn but I notice she gets a little more into it when it’s a white woman just being ravaged by a BBC.

While discussing it she’s seemed unsure, like yeah she thinks it’s really hot but is not sure she wants to try it. And I’m a little apprehensive too, the idea of it is very hot and definitely gets me horny, but at the same time I’m not sure how I’ll feel watching another man fuck my wife, even though at times the thought turns me on. I’m obviously not going to move forward with anything if neither of us are comfortable because we love each other and our marriage is more important than anything, but I don’t want her to be denied an amazing experience that she wants because we don’t know how to approach the situation.

So I guess I’m looking for advice/experience about seeing if this is the right direction and how we should move forward with it. I’ll take into consideration advice from everyone, not just the couples. Thanks in advanced guys, very happy to be here.

Communicate, communicate and communicate.

 

[ht805cpl]

Message use we would be more than willing to offer some guidance and share about your lifestyle experiences as well as how we got started. If you are looking for women not sure this is the site for you, but no matter what site you use there will be 10 offers from single men or married men playing single for every 1 offer from another couple or single lady. But keep searching I’m sure you can find what you are looking for. We also started out with another woman which let to meeting many other women into women or threesomes , until one day the wife said hey you are getting to have sex with lots of other women how about another man for me, which became our true total involvement the the swing lifestyle. It’s been a fun exciting journey to where we are to day but it has had its ups and downs ever the years. Enjoy the journey and message us we can chat in more details.

 

[Irish_husband]

First of all don't ******* anything or you might get unwanted effect. Talk as much as you can with your wife. Guid her slowly into all that. I didn't see from your post how did you prepare yourself for something like that. Are you sure you can handle her being with someone else?