My wife and I were married 4 years before she started having sex with others. We have now been in this lifestyle for the past 14 years and it has been terrific. Often, we like to go to a lounge separately. She will sit at the bar, and I will find a place where i am able to watch her flirt. She usually begins by showing a lot of leg and/or cleavage. When she finds someone interested in her that she is interested in, usually a black man, she will make eye contact with me and smile. It susually is no time before one or more guys are hitting on her. Next, usually comes a dance or two, and it is so awesome to watch her dance real close while the guy runs his hands all over her body while they dance. I like sitting some place where I can also hear the conversation among guys when she goes to the ladies room. I often hear things like what a firm butt she has; how bad they want to fuck her; how she rubbed his dick while they were dancing, etc. If she ends up having sex with someone, I love the wetness of her pussy and panties when she comes home. If i get to watch, I love the sounds of the two of them and the way she asks to be fucked really hard by the guy.