It's not just the size. Most of the black men I have been with have been average. 6-7 inches. They are bigger, stronger, they fuck harder. They aren't worried about my feelings, they aren't in touch with their feminine side. They don't care about respecting me. They use me for their pleasure. I am nothing to them but an object for their lust and aggression. If I could find a white guy who could fuck me like that then I would let him. But after 10 years of fucking whites and never feeling that...feeling, that breathless, confused, drained, and yet satisfied feeling, I gave up.
That being said, the men who fuck me like that make shitty husbands and providers. So, I guess in a sense, I use them too.