does he get jealous? does he enjoy some element of humiliation and denial and are those part of your program?
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does he get jealous? does he enjoy some element of humiliation and denial and are those part of your program?
Hot stuff. But re your final declaration; my sense is they're making out all right in the bargain too.
DeeDeeinCO
Female
We have a live-in. We have always had lovers live with us. Both me and my husband have agreed that we owe more to the men I have had sex with throughout our marriage than we can ever repay. My husband and I have talked about this at length. We have realized that it is because I have had sex with so many men that both of us are as happy as we are.
Each lover that has lived with us has been what my husband isn't and my husband has been what my lovers haven't been. This has created a balance in our relationship. My husband is like my best girlfriend, and my lovers are the MEN I have needed in my life.
At first my husband was involved every time I had sex with other men, but once we started having men live with us that changed. Because of the familiarity and the opportunities with a live-in, having an expectation of the sex only happening when my husband was present was impractical.
In the last seven months or so that our current live-in has lived with us a lot has changed for me and my husband. Our current live-in is Black, and I have been with most of the men in his family, his friends and their friends. Before our current live-in moved in with us my husband spent a lot of time on Craigslist looking for men to have sex with me. That has not been the case for the last seven months.
Since our current live-in moved in with us I have had sex every day with our live-in and at least one of his friends or family members. Before our current live-in, I had sex with mostly strangers. Since our live-in moved in with us, most of the sex I have had has been with men that our live-in is related to or has been friends with, or have been friends of friends of our live-in.
When my husband and I do have intercourse he uses a black dildo instead of having intercourse with me himself. I would prefer intercourse with my husband without the use of the dildo, but my husband prefers to use the dildo instead of his own penis. And I am okay with that because it makes him happy.
My husband has always had an issue with ejaculating. He doesn't like doing it. It isn't enjoyable for him. I, on the other hand, feel that if a man has intercourse with me, and he doesn't ejaculate, that I failed in some way. I want the man, or men, who has intercourse with me to me to enjoy me enough to want to ejaculate inside of me. And our live-in and his family and friends have been a big help in that area.
Although I have always considered my husband to be a good lover, our live-in and his family and friends have taught me that I can do a lot more than I ever thought I could, and that me and my husband have a relationship that many men not only respect but envy.
My husband has always enjoyed hearing about me and other men, sexually, and since our current live-in moved in with us, we have had a lot to talk about. My husband is an introvert and enjoys spending time alone, whereas I am very much an extrovert and enjoy being around others. Having a live-in, and the opportunity to be sexual with him and his family and friends, has helped both me and my husband in that my husband doesn't have to worry about not having alone time, and I rarely am alone.
When my husband and I had intercourse, and we didn't have men living with us, we always had to use a lot of lube because I didn't naturally lubricate. We have since found out that that issue was situational. With our live-in, and his family and friends, I am usually very aroused, which has allowed me to lubricate, naturally, unlike when me and my husband were sexually intimate with each other.
My husband and I are both happier now than we had been prior to our current live-in moving in with us. The sex, for me, has been more consistent, and the sex has been better.
My husband will not, and has never been able to, tell me when he wanted sex. I have always been the aggressor. I prefer not being the aggressor, and with our current live-in, and his family and friends, I no longer have to be.
I would say that mine and my husband's marriage has improved since our current live-in moved in with us. We both agree that it is because of our live-in and his family and his friends and their friends that we have the relationship we have. And we both love it. My husband gets his alone time more often now and my needs for quality time, physical touch and words of affirmation are fulfilled on a daily basis.
Each lover that has lived with us has been what my husband isn't and my husband has been what my lovers haven't been. This has created a balance in our relationship. My husband is like my best girlfriend, and my lovers are the MEN I have needed in my life.
At first my husband was involved every time I had sex with other men, but once we started having men live with us that changed. Because of the familiarity and the opportunities with a live-in, having an expectation of the sex only happening when my husband was present was impractical.
In the last seven months or so that our current live-in has lived with us a lot has changed for me and my husband. Our current live-in is Black, and I have been with most of the men in his family, his friends and their friends. Before our current live-in moved in with us my husband spent a lot of time on Craigslist looking for men to have sex with me. That has not been the case for the last seven months.
Since our current live-in moved in with us I have had sex every day with our live-in and at least one of his friends or family members. Before our current live-in, I had sex with mostly strangers. Since our live-in moved in with us, most of the sex I have had has been with men that our live-in is related to or has been friends with, or have been friends of friends of our live-in.
When my husband and I do have intercourse he uses a black dildo instead of having intercourse with me himself. I would prefer intercourse with my husband without the use of the dildo, but my husband prefers to use the dildo instead of his own penis. And I am okay with that because it makes him happy.
My husband has always had an issue with ejaculating. He doesn't like doing it. It isn't enjoyable for him. I, on the other hand, feel that if a man has intercourse with me, and he doesn't ejaculate, that I failed in some way. I want the man, or men, who has intercourse with me to me to enjoy me enough to want to ejaculate inside of me. And our live-in and his family and friends have been a big help in that area.
Although I have always considered my husband to be a good lover, our live-in and his family and friends have taught me that I can do a lot more than I ever thought I could, and that me and my husband have a relationship that many men not only respect but envy.
My husband has always enjoyed hearing about me and other men, sexually, and since our current live-in moved in with us, we have had a lot to talk about. My husband is an introvert and enjoys spending time alone, whereas I am very much an extrovert and enjoy being around others. Having a live-in, and the opportunity to be sexual with him and his family and friends, has helped both me and my husband in that my husband doesn't have to worry about not having alone time, and I rarely am alone.
When my husband and I had intercourse, and we didn't have men living with us, we always had to use a lot of lube because I didn't naturally lubricate. We have since found out that that issue was situational. With our live-in, and his family and friends, I am usually very aroused, which has allowed me to lubricate, naturally, unlike when me and my husband were sexually intimate with each other.
My husband and I are both happier now than we had been prior to our current live-in moving in with us. The sex, for me, has been more consistent, and the sex has been better.
My husband will not, and has never been able to, tell me when he wanted sex. I have always been the aggressor. I prefer not being the aggressor, and with our current live-in, and his family and friends, I no longer have to be.
I would say that mine and my husband's marriage has improved since our current live-in moved in with us. We both agree that it is because of our live-in and his family and his friends and their friends that we have the relationship we have. And we both love it. My husband gets his alone time more often now and my needs for quality time, physical touch and words of affirmation are fulfilled on a daily basis.
Me and my husband also have been in the scene about 2 yrs. I had never really thought about being with a Black man until I saw a IR porns. Then there was no hiding it. I went out and bought a Big Black Dildo To fuck my self with while I watched. Soon I was begging my man to let me have a Black Cock. He agreed If we dtd another couple from out of town visiting Reno. Youd be surprised how hard it is to find other cpl. with a Black Male. I dont know if Black women just arent interested in White guys or Black men just dont want white guys Fucking there women. The interracial cpl. the white girls really arnt into it. You could tell they were being made to do it. Our first experience. In my husbands words I lost my fucking mind. I wanted more a lot more ehan we could arrange doing cpl. There were a lot more single Black men available than couples. My husband agree to doing 3 ways but only if we traveled out of town to keep things totally discrete. Except one encounter it was great. I still wanted it more then we could afford or had time to travel. After awhile my husband agreed to let me find a local Black man. He had to be married. I could only fuck him tn 3 ways with my husband. After several months my husband was letting me hook up with him sometimes alone. Is been great we meet about 2 times a week alone or with my husband his wife knows nothing about me. Nobody in Reno knows about my obsession but my husband and him. We are planning a Trip to Vegas next month, Hopefully for my first multi Black Cock action. Our sex life has never been hotter from our first encounter my husband loved watching me used. I really get off when he roughly fucks my face telling me what a slut and whore I am while my pussy is pounded by a Black Cock it drives me crazy when he makes me beg him to be allowed to take it in my ASS .
hetebakker
Member
DeeDeeinCO this was Interesting reading, your marital relationship with your husband having been strengthened by adding a live in and his family and friends for sexual intimacy is nice to hear you mentioned you are from a religious background do your live in and his family share your faith in God , we were created in his image God is Love we were created to love Him and each other.
Do your family and friends know you are involved with other men and if so what has their reaction been.?.
Just for your own knowledge "would of" is actually "would have". Now that that is out of t he way. You seem to have made this thread about yourself. Your response has virtually nothing to do with what the poster asked. I wonder why you did that and why people do that? But, maybe you can start your own thread. That would be a better idea than hijacking hers.
Wow, that is so hot. I wish more couples allowed themselves to experience the best of life.
Dream2bcucked
Male
mail my wife and tell her this hun , it's perfect x
I am 45 and have been having sex with black men since the 9th grade. I am married to a white man who love me having sex with others. We have a great relationship and the honesty, communication and sex with my husband is wonderful. I have a bull who is 26 and my husband sends me to be with him every Friday. We keep no secrets from each other and cannot imagine it any other way
Its clear that there is no rule to this, and it depends on the individuals involved and also the situations that occur. When I first met my bf, sex was great, and neither of us ever thought about or talked about this. We went to a swingers club for a laugh with a friend, very much to observe, and although I only ended up kissing a guy, we both found it very sexy. So we went to a few more swingers nights, but my bf was never interested in other women, so it ended up with some soft swing voyeuristic experiences.
Eventually my bf decided that we should try me sleeping with another guy, and we tried it out with a guy we had met a few times at the club. It was fine, still fairly soft from a cuckolding point of view, but our one to one sex life began to deteriorate, he became more submissive, and I became more dominant. Eventually I began to push buttons to see how far we would take it - we are both Russian and I/r sex is frowned upon culturally, so when I found a new, Pakistani bull, it really moved into a strong domination/humiliation scenario that went on for 2 years. I loved it, and it was the best time for me sexually, and he found it a strange, guilty turn on - but emotionally he hated it. I ended up stopping the relationship with my bull but eventually started getting a bit resentful that I'd had to, and our relationship struggled for a long time.
Not sure why I'm sharing to this extent - I guess just to say that its an amazingly erotic experience and I wouldn't ever swap it, but it absolutely can come with complications, and can completely change the definition of your relationship. Both wives and husbands should be aware of that before switching from fantasy to reality
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Eventually my bf decided that we should try me sleeping with another guy, and we tried it out with a guy we had met a few times at the club. It was fine, still fairly soft from a cuckolding point of view, but our one to one sex life began to deteriorate, he became more submissive, and I became more dominant. Eventually I began to push buttons to see how far we would take it - we are both Russian and I/r sex is frowned upon culturally, so when I found a new, Pakistani bull, it really moved into a strong domination/humiliation scenario that went on for 2 years. I loved it, and it was the best time for me sexually, and he found it a strange, guilty turn on - but emotionally he hated it. I ended up stopping the relationship with my bull but eventually started getting a bit resentful that I'd had to, and our relationship struggled for a long time.
Not sure why I'm sharing to this extent - I guess just to say that its an amazingly erotic experience and I wouldn't ever swap it, but it absolutely can come with complications, and can completely change the definition of your relationship. Both wives and husbands should be aware of that before switching from fantasy to reality
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Sex with other people is so liberating. And having a relationship where it is allowed and encouraged is rare.
We are both in the lifestyle. I'm not exclusive to black men. I have white lovers as well. The whole idea of having uninhibited sex with whomever we want to has added a wonderful dimension to our marriage. I don't think it has necessarily made it stronger. I think a marriage has to be strong to be able to do this. Just my opinion.
One of the perks is to be able to experiment and do things that normally a couple couldnt do. Like 3sums, moresums, IR, girl/girl, etc. Or things one might not necessarily enjoy. I don't care for bondage. His girlfriend loves it.
Of course, there are the things we enjoy together as well. He loves to photograph me with other people. I love to be photographed with them.
Stronger? Possibly. Or just a hobby or pastime we both love to enjoy together and separately. We're both having the time of our life.
We are both in the lifestyle. I'm not exclusive to black men. I have white lovers as well. The whole idea of having uninhibited sex with whomever we want to has added a wonderful dimension to our marriage. I don't think it has necessarily made it stronger. I think a marriage has to be strong to be able to do this. Just my opinion.
One of the perks is to be able to experiment and do things that normally a couple couldnt do. Like 3sums, moresums, IR, girl/girl, etc. Or things one might not necessarily enjoy. I don't care for bondage. His girlfriend loves it.
Of course, there are the things we enjoy together as well. He loves to photograph me with other people. I love to be photographed with them.
Stronger? Possibly. Or just a hobby or pastime we both love to enjoy together and separately. We're both having the time of our life.
Ive been married to my husband for 21 years and 7 years ago his work friend raped me while my hubby was in the shower and I liked it and had a year long affair with this strong black gentleman!Since then Ive been Cukolding my hubby and I now have a boyfriend of 2 years and many fine black lovers!
It has made a huge difference in our sex life. She started with white guys until I suggested a black guy. Now she will only fuck black guys. I have half jokingly made comments that maybe should find a nice black stallion to sweep her off her feet and run off into the sunset. She says that although she loves black cock she would never leave me for a black guy. Not sure why.
