We have a live-in. We have always had lovers live with us. Both me and my husband have agreed that we owe more to the men I have had sex with throughout our marriage than we can ever repay. My husband and I have talked about this at length. We have realized that it is because I have had sex with so many men that both of us are as happy as we are.
Each lover that has lived with us has been what my husband isn't and my husband has been what my lovers haven't been. This has created a balance in our relationship. My husband is like my best girlfriend, and my lovers are the MEN I have needed in my life.
At first my husband was involved every time I had sex with other men, but once we started having men live with us that changed. Because of the familiarity and the opportunities with a live-in, having an expectation of the sex only happening when my husband was present was impractical.
In the last seven months or so that our current live-in has lived with us a lot has changed for me and my husband. Our current live-in is Black, and I have been with most of the men in his family, his friends and their friends. Before our current live-in moved in with us my husband spent a lot of time on Craigslist looking for men to have sex with me. That has not been the case for the last seven months.
Since our current live-in moved in with us I have had sex every day with our live-in and at least one of his friends or family members. Before our current live-in, I had sex with mostly strangers. Since our live-in moved in with us, most of the sex I have had has been with men that our live-in is related to or has been friends with, or have been friends of friends of our live-in.
When my husband and I do have intercourse he uses a black dildo instead of having intercourse with me himself. I would prefer intercourse with my husband without the use of the dildo, but my husband prefers to use the dildo instead of his own penis. And I am okay with that because it makes him happy.
My husband has always had an issue with ejaculating. He doesn't like doing it. It isn't enjoyable for him. I, on the other hand, feel that if a man has intercourse with me, and he doesn't ejaculate, that I failed in some way. I want the man, or men, who has intercourse with me to me to enjoy me enough to want to ejaculate inside of me. And our live-in and his family and friends have been a big help in that area.
Although I have always considered my husband to be a good lover, our live-in and his family and friends have taught me that I can do a lot more than I ever thought I could, and that me and my husband have a relationship that many men not only respect but envy.
My husband has always enjoyed hearing about me and other men, sexually, and since our current live-in moved in with us, we have had a lot to talk about. My husband is an introvert and enjoys spending time alone, whereas I am very much an extrovert and enjoy being around others. Having a live-in, and the opportunity to be sexual with him and his family and friends, has helped both me and my husband in that my husband doesn't have to worry about not having alone time, and I rarely am alone.
When my husband and I had intercourse, and we didn't have men living with us, we always had to use a lot of lube because I didn't naturally lubricate. We have since found out that that issue was situational. With our live-in, and his family and friends, I am usually very aroused, which has allowed me to lubricate, naturally, unlike when me and my husband were sexually intimate with each other.
My husband and I are both happier now than we had been prior to our current live-in moving in with us. The sex, for me, has been more consistent, and the sex has been better.
My husband will not, and has never been able to, tell me when he wanted sex. I have always been the aggressor. I prefer not being the aggressor, and with our current live-in, and his family and friends, I no longer have to be.
I would say that mine and my husband's marriage has improved since our current live-in moved in with us. We both agree that it is because of our live-in and his family and his friends and their friends that we have the relationship we have. And we both love it. My husband gets his alone time more often now and my needs for quality time, physical touch and words of affirmation are fulfilled on a daily basis.