Nicely put Carolyn. Is that really you in your profile pic?
Been together 14 months. She said they're going for coffee, then to the cinema. I'm not sure it'll end there though
I'd assume you're into the lifestyle, correct? Does she really not respect you to even ask you if she should go? Did you ever talk about cuckolding
Not at all, just says he'd asked her out and it was only right to give him a chance
I would definitely talk to her about that. You're obviously dating for a while so that's kinda weird that she'd think that's ok for no reason. I'd sit her down and ask her why she would go on dates and most likely cheat on you while you're in a relationship. Tell her she doesn't need to lie and you'll be loving, supportive and understanding to her answer. If she's being honest then just ask her if she has a thing for black guys. If it yes, and you're into it, then grats. If you don't want this, then make sure you let her know your values and you won't date a girl that's going on dates with other guys.
She works with him, I think he just kept asking. As I said, I'm torn between being turned on and jealous. I know that the reality will be much different to any fantasy
I would ask her instead of just assuming. Because if he's just harassing her that much, then that's a problem in itself. The fantasy is indeed very much different from reality. That's why there needs to be a ton more communication than just "I think". Your relationship is still very young so far I just realized. It seems too risky to let her just do what she wants. I probably wouldn't encourage it.
Let her be happy. She will love you for it.
She spoke about him a lot, but I just put it down to him being entertaining in a boring workplace, I've heard two of her friends calling him her "boyfriend". Part of me definitely likes the idea of her moaning etc for him, but I don't know how to gage the situation before it happens, if that makes sense?
Just sit her down and talk to her. tell her why she would do this without ever consulting you first. You need to communicate with her right now. This needs to be a respectful agreement when you guys have been dating a reasonable amount of time. This isn't a fantasy for people going out for a year doing it behind people's back. It's not something you should encourage because it turns you on a little. If you're not going to do it the right way you'll most likely lose your gf and it won't be fun for you.
You definitely have valid points, thanks for taking the time to explain it. As I said it's not something I've been involved in before
You are so fucking cucked, you just don't it yet. Learn to enjoy.
Cinema? Where are you from?
