Fascinating issue. I have fantasized about my pretty, shy little wife having her first BBC bull. She's still too scared to try, but I'm being patient with her.
Marriages falling apart
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Been married twice. Though I was cucked in both I wouldn't say that was the reason for failure.
First marriage we had ******* very young them got married, as we thought we had too. After a bit we both started cheating and it morphed into me being a cuck.
Second marriage started out good. Great sex life with some swinging. Then I did something stupid and once again it morphed into me being a cuck.
Being a cuck was fantastic, just should have got into it properly
First marriage we had ******* very young them got married, as we thought we had too. After a bit we both started cheating and it morphed into me being a cuck.
Second marriage started out good. Great sex life with some swinging. Then I did something stupid and once again it morphed into me being a cuck.
Being a cuck was fantastic, just should have got into it properly
You couldn’t have phrased it better.
Every single person has their dos and donts. In a relationship that works, both partners need to have goals that match. If one partner has a must-have that is the other partner's no-no, the relationship is going to fail as it will leave at least one partner unsatisfied and searching elsewhere for what they need but can't get in their relationship. This is a very general observation and not restricted to sex or an adult lifestyle but of course also including these aspects of life too.
If you want a healthy relationship, you need to know your own personal and relationship goals, as well as your partner's. This asks for two mature and conscious minds, open and honest communication between the partners, plus the willingness to agree, disagree and make compromises where consensus is not possible. Ideally in a respectfully loving relationship you will always value your partner and support their goals to the maximum extent possible. jm2ct's
If you want a healthy relationship, you need to know your own personal and relationship goals, as well as your partner's. This asks for two mature and conscious minds, open and honest communication between the partners, plus the willingness to agree, disagree and make compromises where consensus is not possible. Ideally in a respectfully loving relationship you will always value your partner and support their goals to the maximum extent possible. jm2ct's
That's not entirely true, ky2. For a marriage to successfully work under "open or partially open marriage" conditions, there are certain protocols to be met.
This activity could be the specific reason a marriage fails; you can't necessarily put the blame on other reasons IF the marriage fails while in the open marriage arrangement. There are a lot of various emotional issues that can flare up from either spouse ... jealousy, envy, attachment, etc ... and you simply can not predict if or when these will happen. For one thing, one spouse may go along with the other spouses suggestion simply to be cooperative instead of placing the other spouse in the situation to actually consider cheating.
I encourage couples, with ******* at home, to please consider THEIR stakes and risks when a married couple elects to try open marriages. That's one reason my wife and I discontinued swinging once our ******* reached 10+ ... simply too risky.
We have been in this life style for a little over 10 years... We use it as a stress releavier...
We have amazing sex together. Been together over 22 years. It can be a blast or it can drive you apart... We have sex... When we are with another BBC I there to fuck and get attention that it. We had a regular guy for over 3 years we did every thing together. But there was a line. We enjoyed his company a lot... He moved do to his work. Very sad day for us.
We have amazing sex together. Been together over 22 years. It can be a blast or it can drive you apart... We have sex... When we are with another BBC I there to fuck and get attention that it. We had a regular guy for over 3 years we did every thing together. But there was a line. We enjoyed his company a lot... He moved do to his work. Very sad day for us.
You need to go look at the several threads where the M or F did come back and say what happened. If the marriage was not in solid footing to begin with, this lifestyle accelerated it to fail. If one partner decided to end it and the other wanted to continue, the marriage would most probably fail.
To say this is successful for most it absurd. It’s like a lucky spin of the wheel in a casino should be enough to convince everyone that you to can win.
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I have no interest in being a cuck. Are there different kinds?
Sweet dear
Male
I'd say I feel like 1, 2 and 4. I do not think I would lose my mind. I think it'd be a huge turn-on and only help ourmarriage.
I'd want to watch or join in or maybe not even be there. whatever my wife wanted.
If there is any doubt at all then do not do this lifestyle, it will show you if there is any cracks in the foundation of your relationship and make them bigger.
If you both KNOW without a doubt you will be together forever till death do you part and communicate, be honest, and love absolutely with zero doubt and jealousy this lifestyle can be amazing. I have seen 4 relationships crumble trying this because they saw my wife and I doing it.
I know my wife will never divorce me and she I, EVER. I harbor 0 jealousy or doubt. We have no secrets and love unconditionally and without judgment.
I won't bother adding additional anecdotal evidence or personal opinion but I am compelled to add this to the conversation:
Behavioral studies attempt to guide us as to how people may act, may respond, may feel based on studying and analyzing what has been - not what will be. We are in fact impacted by societal factors, laws, mores, and our own continuing psychological maturation (on until death). The implication is that circumstances and our own feelings are very subject to change. The impact on the marriage because of those changes may be minimal or significant, "good" or "bad". Therefore, your own knowledge, sincerity and honesty (don't kid yourself - see what's real inside you, and that is sometimes scary...) can send you and your relationship with the odds or against the odds.
Last, whether the marriage survives or dies, you will have the chance to continue your life - hopefully wiser and more fulfilled. In other words, a lost marriage my hurt like ******* and for a long time, but it's not in and of itself fatal. A lot of us here can raise our hand and attest to that.
I'll crawl back into my hole now...
Behavioral studies attempt to guide us as to how people may act, may respond, may feel based on studying and analyzing what has been - not what will be. We are in fact impacted by societal factors, laws, mores, and our own continuing psychological maturation (on until death). The implication is that circumstances and our own feelings are very subject to change. The impact on the marriage because of those changes may be minimal or significant, "good" or "bad". Therefore, your own knowledge, sincerity and honesty (don't kid yourself - see what's real inside you, and that is sometimes scary...) can send you and your relationship with the odds or against the odds.
Last, whether the marriage survives or dies, you will have the chance to continue your life - hopefully wiser and more fulfilled. In other words, a lost marriage my hurt like ******* and for a long time, but it's not in and of itself fatal. A lot of us here can raise our hand and attest to that.
I'll crawl back into my hole now...
Mid40couple
Couple
Our marriage is very strong, however my wife feels that she can’t have regular sex with someone without developing some feelings toward that person. Her words. “And if sex with black men is as good as women make it out to be then I would only want that and the connection with my own husband would lessen”.
I am there to enhance a relationship not hurt it. The only love is making love and sometimes fucking. Becoming friends is great but that's where it stops. Don't confuse lust with love.
Probably best not to engage in the lifestyle then. Spend some time doing some inner searching and figure out what love is and means to you both as a couple first. It is possible to feel feelings of adoration and even love for the bull and still maintain a strong and deep rooted love for the husband. Remember sex is not love!
EXACTLY!
The OP as I saw it blamed this lifestyle, I was trying to say the lifestyle is usually not the ROOT of the separation, easy place to lay the blame; in that exact same vein, the ONLY reason a relationship survives is the decision/commitment of both parties to it. Individual kink, open or hidden, fantasy, slip, self denial....if either has one, that's the risk unless it's on the table, regardless of where you go with it.
Just some stuff I have read about, not definitive, but a caution. I've seen relationships fail on here due to the boundaries being broken. Anybody who gets into this needs to establish ground rules, and the understanding that if either wants to stop this, they both will. Is that hard to do? Sure, but if you truly love the other party, what is important to them is very important to you.
I see some threads here about cheating wives. That is the kind of thing that can ******* a relationship. I follow some things on Quora, and a question there (with 100+ answers) is from a woman asking if her husband will ever forgive her for cheating on him. The consensus is that if he is somehow able to forgive, he will not forget. Most often, the relationship ends due to the loss of trust. I've also read (and seen) what it does to women when their husbands cheat. When either party in a marriage (or long term relationship) cheats, it's devastating to the other one.
I am pleased to see a lot of the black males here say they're not wanting to damage relationships, they want to enjoy the sex, want her to enjoy the sex, and see everyone go home happy. There are a few asshole guys here who boast about how they're gonna have sex with a woman whether the guy allows it or not, and will often do so in secret. It's the male version of the old term for females like that known as "homewreckers"
I see some threads here about cheating wives. That is the kind of thing that can ******* a relationship. I follow some things on Quora, and a question there (with 100+ answers) is from a woman asking if her husband will ever forgive her for cheating on him. The consensus is that if he is somehow able to forgive, he will not forget. Most often, the relationship ends due to the loss of trust. I've also read (and seen) what it does to women when their husbands cheat. When either party in a marriage (or long term relationship) cheats, it's devastating to the other one.
I am pleased to see a lot of the black males here say they're not wanting to damage relationships, they want to enjoy the sex, want her to enjoy the sex, and see everyone go home happy. There are a few asshole guys here who boast about how they're gonna have sex with a woman whether the guy allows it or not, and will often do so in secret. It's the male version of the old term for females like that known as "homewreckers"
