Mid40couple
Couple
Has anyone done a study on what percentage of marriages fall apart due to this lifestyle? My wife wanted me to ask this question, if in fact we are going to take the dive into the lifestyle and make it.
Marriages falling apart
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in my case, 100% 
Mid40couple
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%100 what? Good or bad?in my case, 100%
i don't know of a statistic about that. But i know marriages that opend communication channels between Wife and husband by/after opening the relationship sexually, which had a positive effect on them as a couple. But my advice would be to open up communication first(!) before entering a non-monogamous sexual lifestyle, or you may find yourselves in trouble. 
Personally i think if the relationship is a good one already and both partners are on the same page (are wishing for the same type of lifestyle), it won't threaten a marriage. And if the relationship is problematic in the first place, it doesn't even need an open lifestyle for the marriage to fall apart. So i would say there is no direct connection between the quality of a relationship/marriage and a particular lifestyle choice.
But also it depends on different factors. Not everyone is made for a lifestyle like this! If the wife naturally has a hard time to separate love and lust and falls in love over sex easily, this lifestyle would not be the right choice for the couple. Same if the husband has jealousy issues.
Know what both of you want! Discuss that, make up and agree to ground rules, communicate openly, always put the marriage first and accept the partner's veto without hesitation, if s/he has objections. But in the end it ain't no rocket science. It's all about the fun for all the people involved. So just enjoy a good thing together!
Personally i think if the relationship is a good one already and both partners are on the same page (are wishing for the same type of lifestyle), it won't threaten a marriage. And if the relationship is problematic in the first place, it doesn't even need an open lifestyle for the marriage to fall apart. So i would say there is no direct connection between the quality of a relationship/marriage and a particular lifestyle choice.
But also it depends on different factors. Not everyone is made for a lifestyle like this! If the wife naturally has a hard time to separate love and lust and falls in love over sex easily, this lifestyle would not be the right choice for the couple. Same if the husband has jealousy issues.
Know what both of you want! Discuss that, make up and agree to ground rules, communicate openly, always put the marriage first and accept the partner's veto without hesitation, if s/he has objections. But in the end it ain't no rocket science. It's all about the fun for all the people involved. So just enjoy a good thing together!
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Lookin really good heatherin my case, 100%
Would you please tell us about your experiences? What type of lifestyle had you been in, how did it develop, and what was it that lead to your breakup? i know these questions are quite personal but your answers can make a lot of us learn.in my case, 100%
Thank you in advance for your reply Heather.in my case, 100%
Theres several threads here about cuckoldry, hot wifing and playing around where it went bad. Sometimes real bad.
Sweet dear
Male
Well it happened to me and tell your wife it's ok and all white wives and girlfriends should go with BBC esp if it means marriage destroyed..it's ok as long as wife gets her bbc
Why do i doubt you were ever married?
Mid40couple
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what are your thoughts?
Sweet dear
Male
I was long ago sorry for offending you didn't mean to
An occasional fling? No problems. Full into the lifestyle? Very dangerous for most couples. remember that this group is an echo chamber of the lifestyle. The couples who broke up over it usually leave the group and aren't seen from again.
I wouldn't depend on "opinions" to guide you and your spouse ... here's one to start.
The Slippery Slope of Open Marriage
The dynamic is more complex than you might think.
I knew you would have something good to add to the conversation.I wouldn't depend on "opinions" to guide you and your spouse ... here's one to start.
The Slippery Slope of Open Marriage
The dynamic is more complex than you might think.www.psychologytoday.com
I don't think your question is quite appropo…..few, if any marriages fall because of the lifestyle; but it WILL escalate your relationship status, pos or neg when added to it. Communication will be the single most important part, and I will scream at every couple reading, talk about it but avoid having the conversation in bed...out for a meal, park, beach whatever...take libido out of cerebral conversation. Make a point of speaking AND asking what part of this is most difficult to talk about.
What makes me think I know anything? I entered swinging with my wife in the late 80s. I became a widower in the late 90s and since I was raising daughters alone, chose the 'lifestyle' for intimacy ever since.....so I've been involved in multiple roles for over 30 years.
How do you know that few marriages will fail? The ones that do, the spouses don’t come back to this group very often. And the ones that do come back regret their choices. A figure of around half would not be too far off the mark.
Absolute truth, NO ONE knows. I haven't seen ANY couples come in acknowledging their problems from both perspectives, so we start from skewered data.
1) I want it for her, how do I convince her? Does he respect her position/view or work to acknowledge her place?
2) She needs more...... Did she give you the right to speak for her? How much are you respecting her speaking that way?
3) Once she gets fucked..... Only men lose their minds from sex....that's why we hate women talking about us thinking with the wrong head.
4) Only a Black man can.... I personally do not like stereotyping EVERYBODY. I am unique unto myself....just like ALL of you. Did ever work treating one woman like that other woman, treating one man like that other man? Eventually that train WILL derail.
I'm NOT saying marriages don't fail. I AM saying the failure is rarely just this; it's moreso this being added to what's already there.
Interesting article. It concludes extramarital liaisons can be maintained and not damage the primary (i.e. marital) relationship as long as rules are established and both parties adhere to the rules.I wouldn't depend on "opinions" to guide you and your spouse ... here's one to start.
The Slippery Slope of Open Marriage
The dynamic is more complex than you might think.
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