Yeah, it's really a strange phenomenon. I try not to judge or ******* on other people's fantasies. Goodness knows not everyone is into what my wife and I are into and believe me, I think there needs to be room for everyone to be themselves unapologetically.
BUT, I am continually baffled by the, "all white bois must _______," and "all white women should ________ their husbands," types of posts. WTF? These people have a fringe fantasy so you'd think they'd be the first to champion marching to the beat of a different drummer, but everything is "my unrealistic fantasy is how it should be for EVERYONE in the whole wide world." And I think, "as it should be" is probably the most common four-word response on this site. It's fucking weird.
To each their own. Fantasize about what you like. But single cuckold wannabes who look at what my wife and I have and say, "you and I have the same fantasies," are completely mistaken. For me, the entire reason cuckoldry is exciting is because of my emotional attachment to my wife; seeing the woman I love more than anything have intense sex with other men while keeping me submissive to HER. SHE makes the the rules. It wouldn't be the same thing if she didn't, and instead subscribed to some set of bullshit preconceived rules the internet decided should apply to "all white bois." Dudes who lock themselves in chastity and/or wish they had a keyholder who would fuck other men and give them a way to lure in black men who otherwise wouldn't give them the time of day are not talking about the same fantasies in my mind. To me it seems they want their own private porn star more than they want a life partner. It's more important to find someone who will help them hide their perceived lack of any sexual self-worth behind the universal "rules" of an extreme fantasy genre than it is to find a sustainable, lasting connection that could help them build the foundation of a strong relationship.
I have sympathy for people who haven't found a good relationship with someone they love. And I have sympathy for married people who love their spouses but haven't been able to land on the same page and realize each other's fantasies, cuckold or otherwise. But it's really hard for me to identify with people who have such a specific idea of what they want EVERY aspect of sex to look like, before they've even established an emotional connection with another person.
If you want to be locked up and ****** to be "pussy free" and subservient to other men before you have even had a good sexual relationship with a woman, seeing her with another man will NOT produce the same type of naughty excitement, intentional mind fuck, and playfully jealous angst that my wife and I (and other actual cuckold couples we interact with) are chasing. For us, the excitement is in her being able to say, "don't you wish you were the one the fucking me this way? I love you, but I need THIS." For people who put the carriage this far before the horse, it seems to me that no, they absolutely don't want to be the one in the bull's position. Incel/volcel wannabes seem to want it to be assumed that they are never expected to have to try to sexually please a partner. To me, my wife's pleasure is my sole motivator. They want all their selfish fantasies to be real, with none of the responsibility or accountability.
To each their own. What my wife and I think is sexy isn't "right" and other people's fantasies aren't "wrong." We really hope everyone finds whatever it is that makes them happy. But single dudes who continually post ******* like:
...sure do make it harder for real cuckold couples to be taken seriously. How often do you real, actual cuckold couples out there find yourselves saying stuff like, "we're a cuckold couple, and yes, we're into femdom and chastity, and maybe even some humiliation play. But don't worry, we actually love and respect each other, we have a time-tested marriage that we value above all else, we respect our playmates as human beings and not human dildos, and we're totally not like the racist, closeted gay incel/volcel ******* you've probably read about on B2W?" For us, it's pretty constant.
