First of all my wife and I have the greatest relationship. We love each other deeply and are each other's best friends. Now, I've had this fantasy about seeing her banged good by another man for a long time. I don't have a particular preference on race, but typically black guys have the best chance in my situation because he would have to be bigger than me down there or else what's the point! And I am a bit larger than the average Joe. Also he would have to really know how to work it because I am the best she has ever had (and no that is not just something she said.. When you know, you know. You bulls know what I'm sayin.) I have simi talked to her about it. I have asked probing questions about her fantasies and told her I had a fantasy about tag teaming her with another guy (I didn't come out and say I want to see her and another guy.) She first made the typical "good girl" remark like "I could never cheat on you." and I explained it wouldn't be cheating in my eyes because it's my fantasy, we are being open and honest and I would be present. A few days went by and she made a comment about "the thing you want to do." and had a more friendly tone about the topic. Another month later she started exploring more with me, like for the first time asking to watch porn together. A few weeks later she pulled her toy out (10" monster life-like) during sex one day and rode it while sucking me off. So, the tell tell signs are there that she does like the idea, but she is obviously afraid of something negative happening in our relationship as a result. At the same time I do worry a little about possible negative effects. With that said I have thought of a few ideas that may help put those worries at ease for both of us so we might can go that next step. One thing is we don't get to go out much because I work so much and she has school and our two kids so.. I thought about taking her out of town somewhere to a nice hotel, taking her to a spa for a good relaxing body message, then out for drinks to loosen her on up. After that proposing the idea of doing this back at the hotel, but present her with the idea of being blindfolded. Another idea was to simply wait until my upcoming birthday when she will like always ask me what I want and tell her this and also include the blindfolded part. I keep thinking of the blindfold because I feel that will make her feel like she can pretend she don't know who is me or who is him so she can freely enjoy it without feeling so guilty. And also for my worries and her's she won't actually know the person or even see them. Anyone have any good advice? I would love to do this at least once and see where it goes from there.