Help me convince my hubby!

juliete1217 said:
I could use some advice and help...so my hubby was the one that initially brought up the idea of me being with a BBC while he watched. He always told me it turned him on to see other men check me out, but especially black men (I actually never believed him and told him he was crazy-and that other men weren’t checking me out, but especially not black me). One day he finally convinced me to upload some pics and “see what happens”. Well, umm he was eighth and I was wrong! So I guess we could say it opened Pandora’s box....for years, we have talked about our mutual fantasy of me being with a BBC....but recently, he told me he isn’t sure if he could go through with it because of the “guilt” he would have from sharing me with another man. So help a lady out...should I give it some time and see if he changes his mind, or is there something I can do to help change his mind? He loves that I share my pictures and knowing that I’m having some dirty chats, so I think he’s close to going through with it. I so badly want to be devoured by a sexy man with a big black dick! I dream of it and crave it! I really want this fantasy to become a reality. Kisses!
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Just don't tell him. Enjoy yourself. You'll have the joy of knowing he doesn't know.
 
The biggest hold back that I had was, my husband witnessing my sexual awakening and how he would react. Let me tell you that after the first ten minutes I didn't care about other peoples feelings anymore it was just what I had been needing. Hubby luckily realized what I had been missing and needing, and realized sometimes I just need more. This helped our marriage greatly because he understood that sometimes I just need to get FUCKED and when I do he just can't please me and accepts a BBC needs to do me. He calls them my "Jamaica mood".
 
you could dominate him by making him associate pleasure with submission and then he will do whatever you want. I think if you want to cuck him start with a white guy wit a normal cock. You could start by going out to a club and flirting or dancing with other men and then work up to sex
 
Buttercupz said:
وهذا هو الوقت الذي ستكون فيه الأسوأ ولكن أيضًا أوضحها. مليئة بالشهوة والرغبة ، تبدو أشياء كثيرة مذهلة ، وبعد أن يلبي الجسد هذه الاحتياجات عندما نبدأ في التساؤل "ما الذي كان يدور حوله؟" في رأيي ، يجب أن تلعبوا لعبتك ونائب الرئيس بشدة (كلاكما). بعد هذا النعيم تحدث عن الثلاثي أو المبادلة مع زوجين آخرين معًا. إذا كان هذا يبدو ممتعًا ، فابحث عنه وشاهد كيف يحدث ذلك. إذا كانت هناك شكوك وتردد ، فربما تأخذ خطوة إلى الوراء وتفكر فيما إذا كان هذا يحتاج إلى البقاء لعبة ممتعة مع الألعاب.
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you mean to talk about threesome after finished having sex and not during that?
 
erika9009 said:
@juliete1217
What TMan71 said.
I have played for a number of yrs with both guys and girls. We also had fun swinging.

One thing my husband knows about me................I will always come back to him. I always wear my wedding ring when I go out and "play." It means something to me, a commitment.

One other thing I do with my husband is I talk about my boytoys in a casual "fun" manner. It indirectly signals to him that they are not as important to me as he is.

I also tell him often that I love him. Sure he's a pervo dickhead sometimes, but don't stop loving him.

Contrary to a lot of the "thinking" here, I do wifely duties. If he wants some, he gets some. Sure, it might be me pegging him, but he gets off. Other times, I just drop my underwear, lean over the vanity and ask him to make it fast.

I'm out having my fun getting fucked silly. I believe he should have his fun too. Once in a while, I will do the hotwife thing by coming home full of sperm, drop my underwear, and do the facesitting gig. He has a wonderful tongue.

Steve also can ask me not to go out that night. I will certainly listen to his reasons. Sometimes they are just a feeling and he tells me he's just not comfortable with me doing it that day. I then call and cancel with my blk man. It's very, very unusual for him to ask me to stay home. So, when he does, I do.

All of what I do continually reassure him I am still his wife and I will be home after. I actually don't recall ever spending the night with one of my boytoys. This goes back to the "I will be home with you later" feeling I convey.

For as often as I tell the guys on here to stop and really listen to their wives, I do the same for you. Listen to him, be "guy like" and try to solve his issues. He needs that confidence you'll always be back with him.

You are welcome to DM me if you are interested in more of my thoughts on this.
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Beautifully presented description of a very happy and fulfilling marriage for both the adventurous Hotwife and the submissive loving cuckold husband. We are blessed to have a mutually beneficial understanding in our marriage as well.
 
juliete1217 said:
I could use some advice and help...so my hubby was the one that initially brought up the idea of me being with a BBC while he watched. He always told me it turned him on to see other men check me out, but especially black men (I actually never believed him and told him he was crazy-and that other men weren’t checking me out, but especially not black me). One day he finally convinced me to upload some pics and “see what happens”. Well, umm he was eighth and I was wrong! So I guess we could say it opened Pandora’s box....for years, we have talked about our mutual fantasy of me being with a BBC....but recently, he told me he isn’t sure if he could go through with it because of the “guilt” he would have from sharing me with another man. So help a lady out...should I give it some time and see if he changes his mind, or is there something I can do to help change his mind? He loves that I share my pictures and knowing that I’m having some dirty chats, so I think he’s close to going through with it. I so badly want to be devoured by a sexy man with a big black dick! I dream of it and crave it! I really want this fantasy to become a reality. Kisses!
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Fantasy v Reality what a choice!
All I can say is don't mess your marriage up.
 
juliete1217 said:
He definitely won’t have to start over with his life- we are in this together, and we reassure each other all the time. We know that either one of us can immediately say “stop” and it all stops. Maybe I need to have him talk with the guy I’m interested in (if the guys is also willing lol)
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Sure, I'm willing to talk to him about it.
 
juliete1217 said:
I could use some advice and help...so my hubby was the one that initially brought up the idea of me being with a BBC while he watched. He always told me it turned him on to see other men check me out, but especially black men (I actually never believed him and told him he was crazy-and that other men weren’t checking me out, but especially not black me). One day he finally convinced me to upload some pics and “see what happens”. Well, umm he was eighth and I was wrong! So I guess we could say it opened Pandora’s box....for years, we have talked about our mutual fantasy of me being with a BBC....but recently, he told me he isn’t sure if he could go through with it because of the “guilt” he would have from sharing me with another man. So help a lady out...should I give it some time and see if he changes his mind, or is there something I can do to help change his mind? He loves that I share my pictures and knowing that I’m having some dirty chats, so I think he’s close to going through with it. I so badly want to be devoured by a sexy man with a big black dick! I dream of it and crave it! I really want this fantasy to become a reality. Kisses!
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Perhaps, begin slowly reconditioning his ideas and expectations of what his role is in making love with you?
For instance, do only things that doesn't involve him penetrating you with his penis.
Like, let him jerk off while watching you pleasure yourself with a big, black dildo. Talk dirty to him about how you want your first black man. Encourage him to spill his seed while watching you.
Or have him go down on you, talk dirty to him about how bad you want to be stretched and filled by a black man, encourage him to play with himself while he services you.
The idea is to train yourselves to see your marital love making differently
 
have you had a white guy and if not why not try that first. Men can be lead slowly. Also it helps if you dominate him and make him associate submission with pleasure so whenever you dom him make him cum and try prostrate massage . eventually if he is ready you can make him your toy
 
hotknkycpl8081 said:
Perhaps, begin slowly reconditioning his ideas and expectations of what his role is in making love with you?
For instance, do only things that doesn't involve him penetrating you with his penis.
Like, let him jerk off while watching you pleasure yourself with a big, black dildo. Talk dirty to him about how you want your first black man. Encourage him to spill his seed while watching you.
Or have him go down on you, talk dirty to him about how bad you want to be stretched and filled by a black man, encourage him to play with himself while he services you.
The idea is to train yourselves to see your marital love making differently
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Great advice. Great idea.
 
juliete1217 said:
I could use some advice and help...so my hubby was the one that initially brought up the idea of me being with a BBC while he watched. He always told me it turned him on to see other men check me out, but especially black men (I actually never believed him and told him he was crazy-and that other men weren’t checking me out, but especially not black me). One day he finally convinced me to upload some pics and “see what happens”. Well, umm he was eighth and I was wrong! So I guess we could say it opened Pandora’s box....for years, we have talked about our mutual fantasy of me being with a BBC....but recently, he told me he isn’t sure if he could go through with it because of the “guilt” he would have from sharing me with another man. So help a lady out...should I give it some time and see if he changes his mind, or is there something I can do to help change his mind? He loves that I share my pictures and knowing that I’m having some dirty chats, so I think he’s close to going through with it. I so badly want to be devoured by a sexy man with a big black dick! I dream of it and crave it! I really want this fantasy to become a reality. Kisses!
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Becareful what you wish for
 
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