Any input would be helpful!?
Notice you've been a member here only a short time but already have a
"well written" profile of yourself & wife. Kudos for doing that!
Having read what you've posted, thus far, I'm thinking that you possibly know less about your wife's sexual desires/feelings as you should at this point in a marriage. Just from reading your bio your wife sounds hot ... hope at some point you'll feel comfortable posting a few photos of her.
• It doesn't sound like you know much about her own sexual fantasies; it might be good to explore deeper into what she thinks of, when you're not around, that makes her "wet". Sometimes its not easy to extract that info without inducements ... my wife responds well to tequila and my top shelf margaritas. But, it only makes sense to find out what SHE is interested in, and approaching her from that direction. She'll be more inclined to listen.
• You don't mention "family" or her moral standards, but often women are protective of both of these topics. By the way, just curious ...
"have you ever watched her masturbating without your involvement?"
• After all the years of marriage, she's possibly protective of her marriage as well ... she has a lot invested in you.
• She's taking all the risks ... marriage, injury, STDs, attachment, etc ...
if when these come up be ready to address them confidently.
• I wouldn't be forsing conversation on her ... once she's ready to talk & open up,
then pull out your "fishing equipment"
• Reassure her that you
expect no reciprocation from what you want her to do. Hey, this really IS your fantasy, not hers. Start by admitting THAT.
With all that said, as has been mentioned, take her to a few established "Lifestyle" clubs. Best time to go is usually their Hospitality Night when people show up to consider memberships, etc. Everyone is clothed, initially, to the few I've been to, and no one will be "hitting on her". The two of you would be there as guests to observe/survey the establishment. The owners will most definitely want to put their best appearance forward.
So, lets say you've visited a few, decided to join one. These establishments are useful in providing you prospective, private "swing partners". You're wife and you hit it off with someone, you invite them to party privately with you. He may be white, he may be black, etc ... but the idea is to "open her up" to sharing herself with other men and to confirm that what she does is not only OK with you, but turns you on. By the way, the first few times you see another man sexing your pretty wife, you'll get a big rush of adrenaline & mood swings. And the next time you have sex with her, both you and her will screw like RABBITS ... with those fresh memories in your head.
Maybe invite her prospective partners over for a cookout to allow everyone to become comfortable with each other, again, after the original meeting.
I, for one, have a little difficult time springing up an erection at a minute's notice. I need a bit of time to get relaxed, otherwise, I'm gonna need some hot lips encouraging my "noodle" to rise. LOL So, that's what these little cookouts are for ... some casual conversation with drinks & burgers to get everyone in the mood.