Much of this depends on the definition of love. In my opinion that will vary depending on perspective. From the point of view of a white boy, love ideally means wanting the best for your wife or woman. In most cases this means wanting her to be sexually fulfilled as well as emotionally fulfilled. By far the best way for her to be sexually fulfilled is with a black man. He is going to be better. Way better. Additionally the white boy can offer chastitiy, feminization or some other method to make it clear that his wife is not only free to be with black men, she is free to be exclusively with black men. The emotional bonding with the black man elevating him to be the most important person will often follow. This is the deepest form of romantic love. The key from the perspective of a white boy is to try and devote all of his thoughts and energy into the needs of others.
White women have traditionally been conditioned to worry about others. This leads to unhappy marriages and mercy sex with white boys. Times are changing. Women are starting to accept that their needs should come before the needs of a white boy. Every time. On the other hand, in my opinion, most white women instinctively want to submit to black men. They want the needs of the black man to be met. To come first. Every time. This leads to a kind of pyramid with the white boys on the bottom supporting and looking up to those above. I have this image of the white boy always below. Always looking up. The white women are above looking up to black men. Always looking up while resting on the white boy below her. At the pinnacle is the black man. The alpha man. If this is the natural order- the normal and healthy forms of love follow. White women may love the white boy in a sense. She loves the support. She loves the fact that he may have accepted chastity or feminization and has given up pretenses of masculinity as a show of his support. She loves what he does for her. This is as opposed to the boy loving what the women does for her herself and what she does for her lover. As far as head over heels love I personally think that is more likely to be between a black man and white woman. Probably only with a black man if we are being honest. It is obvious that more marriages are happening between black men and white women. This is likely to increase. I think that black men are evolving and becoming more powerful and white boys are becoming softer, sweeter and more submissive. (I think there may be some actual physical reasons this is happening but that is my opinion. Proof of that may be around and be suppressed. I don't know but maybe others do.) So I think it is possible for the white women to love both the white boy and the black man. But it will be different. In the ideal situation the woman will put the needs of the black man first and she will love the white boy enough to accept his gift. The gift of being a beta male. To use him for lack of a better concept. To use him to support her needs to be with the alpha male. In my opinion if there is to be any future of "love" between a white woman and a white boy it has to be based on this new concept of the pyramid. Accepting that sex for the white boy should be with his hand or with other boys. Perhaps mutual masturbation. The selfless love is likely to be reserved for a black man or men. As far as any black men involved they get to decide what they need and what they want. They are on top. Women love what the white boy does for her. Women love the black man for what he is. Big difference.
I see this love thing as a pyramid. Everyone involved will be happiest if they learn to accept what part of the pyramid they are on and what their role is. If this can be remembered than white boys will not be angry or depressed if the woman is with a black man. Or even if she marries the black man. He will be happy for the couple. I apologize if I went too far off topic here. I just realized my answer was largely a rambling one. It is more or less my opinion based on observations. Thank you for raising this topic and I will be very interested to see what others think.