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Does pegging change you?
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Joke symptoms aside, this notion that you can't enjoy having your ass played with, without suddenly becoming a cross-dressing hull of your former self, completely overcome by gender dysphoria, is extremely silly. I've been with women who truly enjoy exploring a man's ass and the pleasure that stimulation of the prostate can bring. For them it's not even a power/domination thing. It's truly about opening one's mind up to appreciating your own body and the pleasures you can experience. I've had some very intimate sexual encounters that involved having a woman play with my ass and prostate, and felt 100% straight afterward. It was about mutual pleasure and satisfaction. I loved it, but apart from daydreaming about doing it again some time, no, it didn't somehow permanently alter who I am.
I love femdom play and can certainly get down with power exchange, role reversal, even some degradation/humiliation play. I love being submissive to my wife, I am proud and grateful to be her cuck, and I don't care what labels people want to slap on me in their minds because of the things we choose to do in our own bedroom. I try to leave room for everyone's kinks and fantasies to be realized without too much judgment. But I have to say, I find it increasingly off-putting to read people talking about how no submissive, cuckold, or bisexual male could be a "real man," or some ******* about how all white hubbies should dress like little girls, stop having sex with their wives forever, and embrace being called a sissy or worse. It's cool if that's what YOU want to do, but why does this particular fantasy always have to be projected on others? Isn't it bad enough that most of society misunderstands all of this? Do we really have to perpetuate the stereotypes of sexual identity disorders, worthlessness and self-loathing?
I'm willing to wager that my wife and I are deeper into femdom and cuckold play than the vast majority of people out there, and yet I'm still a functioning member of society, and a guy who doesn't hate himself or being a man. I don't draw any judgmental attention or raised eyebrows at work, and I'm still a masculine ******* figure to my children. I haven't magically become gay, or decided I better start hormone therapy. I've had play sessions where I felt more submissive afterward, because that was the intention from the beginning, but I've also had sessions where I bellowed like a lumberjack or roared like a lion, and took some lady's hand or rubber cock in my ass like I owned it. I've put my butt up for a woman and said I was her bitch, but a couple of times I've also held another woman down and ridden her strap-on like a rodeo cowboy until I squirted on her tits. I've never thought that either approach is what everyone else should do, or worried that the things I've tried are going to be the ruin of all straight, masculine mankind.
Being submissive is a state of mind. It doesn't make you a weak or effeminate person, it just means you want someone else to be in control. It doesn't require that you're unsure of your sexuality or that you suddenly crave same-sex encounters. Similarly, being bisexual or gay doesn't automatically make you submissive. And neither of the above is caused by butt play, nor are they required in order to enjoy butt play. You can be any combination of these things, and more power to you for embracing your preferences. But no, you don't have to become someone else just because you let someone stuff a toy up your ass. You always have the option of just enjoying it and not being ashamed of yourself.
I love femdom play and can certainly get down with power exchange, role reversal, even some degradation/humiliation play. I love being submissive to my wife, I am proud and grateful to be her cuck, and I don't care what labels people want to slap on me in their minds because of the things we choose to do in our own bedroom. I try to leave room for everyone's kinks and fantasies to be realized without too much judgment. But I have to say, I find it increasingly off-putting to read people talking about how no submissive, cuckold, or bisexual male could be a "real man," or some ******* about how all white hubbies should dress like little girls, stop having sex with their wives forever, and embrace being called a sissy or worse. It's cool if that's what YOU want to do, but why does this particular fantasy always have to be projected on others? Isn't it bad enough that most of society misunderstands all of this? Do we really have to perpetuate the stereotypes of sexual identity disorders, worthlessness and self-loathing?
I'm willing to wager that my wife and I are deeper into femdom and cuckold play than the vast majority of people out there, and yet I'm still a functioning member of society, and a guy who doesn't hate himself or being a man. I don't draw any judgmental attention or raised eyebrows at work, and I'm still a masculine ******* figure to my children. I haven't magically become gay, or decided I better start hormone therapy. I've had play sessions where I felt more submissive afterward, because that was the intention from the beginning, but I've also had sessions where I bellowed like a lumberjack or roared like a lion, and took some lady's hand or rubber cock in my ass like I owned it. I've put my butt up for a woman and said I was her bitch, but a couple of times I've also held another woman down and ridden her strap-on like a rodeo cowboy until I squirted on her tits. I've never thought that either approach is what everyone else should do, or worried that the things I've tried are going to be the ruin of all straight, masculine mankind.
Being submissive is a state of mind. It doesn't make you a weak or effeminate person, it just means you want someone else to be in control. It doesn't require that you're unsure of your sexuality or that you suddenly crave same-sex encounters. Similarly, being bisexual or gay doesn't automatically make you submissive. And neither of the above is caused by butt play, nor are they required in order to enjoy butt play. You can be any combination of these things, and more power to you for embracing your preferences. But no, you don't have to become someone else just because you let someone stuff a toy up your ass. You always have the option of just enjoying it and not being ashamed of yourself.
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i know and agree i am just being provocative. people are all different and often the submissive controls
Yes. There are different kinds of men / persons. I met a woman who would never fulfill her promises re sex. She was pegging and conditioning me all the time and had me taken by surprise by one of her friends in a moresome and infront of other ladies. That was rock bottom and I broke with her.
You got a good wife that worries for you! congratulatios!
It absolutely changes you!
Bdsub70
Couple
It absolutely changes you. Being fucked by a real cock is amazing. Having a bull or some other random guy fill you with his seed is sexual pleasure.
Having your wife peg you is giving up your manhood completely. There is no going back from that. It has nothing to do with her fucking other men. It's her taking your alpha role in the marriage away and shoving it up your ass. Her girl friends that know I'm a cuck peg me on cocktail nights at our house. I'm like a toy now. I do get to service them orally though. So, that's a plus
Having your wife peg you is giving up your manhood completely. There is no going back from that. It has nothing to do with her fucking other men. It's her taking your alpha role in the marriage away and shoving it up your ass. Her girl friends that know I'm a cuck peg me on cocktail nights at our house. I'm like a toy now. I do get to service them orally though. So, that's a plus
Having gotten to the point of using toys to explore some of my thoughts, i can definitely tell it has changed my perspective a little bit on things. I feel like i'm much more capable of understanding what women are feeling, and what would feel good vs what doesn't to them, as i guess you natually would. Has it's good and bad parts. I can definitely tell when a girl isn't enjoying it in porn now, which at least before i could gloss over and not think too much about.
You had an alpha role in your marriage? If so, and this is what your life looks like now, I highly doubt pegging was the single activity you can trace it all back to.
If what you say is true, that your wife's friends come over and take turns pegging you, that's hot as fuck. Could you introduce them to my wife please? But if anything about it is degrading, that's because you're a beta. I enjoy some nice femdom, submission, subjugation, power inversions, role reversal, and humiliation play too, but that's WHY I like a rough pegging from a dominant woman. It's the affect, not the cause.
I believe there have been virtually zero cases where a strong, masculine, alpha man was like, "you know what, baby? I want to try something different tonight. Since you're done with the dishes and putting away the laundry, I want you fetch your favorite dildo, strap it to you waist, and ram that sucker up my ass," and later found himself getting gang fucked by his wife's book club, wondering why he ever decided to let her try it. That's not how it works, and I think everyone here knows it.
If you like butt play, awesome! Play with your butt! It feels great! If you're beta, cool! Get someone to take the lead and bang the hell out of you. If you're submissive, awesome! Find somebody that likes giving orders and enjoys service and worship. None of that is anything to be ashamed of. But the ******* you decide to try doesn't change who you are. It appeals to you BECAUSE of who you are.
Bdsub70
Couple
I'm always amused by the self professed experts on here and their convictions in their own definitions being the only definitions. This is not a one size fits all lifestyle. Stop judging and analyzing and just stay in your lane.
I almost couldn't tell if you were directing that at me or agreeing with me. I'm definitely not a self-professed expert on this (or anything) and when I join conversations like this one, my point is almost always that there are a million ways to do this stuff and none of them is the right or wrong way.
One thing that usually gets a response from me in disagreement is saying things like:
"All white men should be pussy free," or "all white women should be black bred," or, "no black man should ever wear a condom." Or when a woman came here recently asking for advice when she and her husband are easing into ethical non-monogamy, and was meet with 20 replies that say things like, "lock his sissy boi clitty in a cage and cuck him," like they expect everyone's idea of these things to match the over-the-top fantasy that plays out in their brains (and seldom in their own bedrooms). Their fantasy isn't ubiquitous. Maybe a couple's relationship includes domination and maybe it doesn't, and it's not wrong either way.
So I do apologize if I came off as a know-it-all. The way my wife and I do things is not assumed to be the best way for anyone else but us. But we have been doing a lot of what's talked about on this site in our everyday life, for many years now, so I feel like my opinion is at least somewhat relevant when questions like this one are asked. Take any advice or opinions I offer with a grain of salt, but the experiences that informed those opinions were actual events, so I know things work the way I describe them at least sometimes.
Here's what prompted me to reply to your response specifically:
Perhaps that is what it was like for you, but that's not what you said. You said it "absolutely changes you," and went on to describe what it means – shoving your alpha role in the marriage up your ass – and how "there's no going back," as if there's no other possible outcome. To me THAT is the kind of response that borders on "self proclaimed experts" indicating a one-size-fits-all outcome to the hypothetical scenario being discussed.
I'm not sure whether you noticed or not (I realize I can be pretty verbose), but I did say the part of your response that described your own experience was incredibly hot, and quipped that I'd love for my wife to have friends that enjoy pegging and sharing, the way you described. So I'm not telling you that anything you do in your relationship is wrong, nor do I judge you for whatever roles, ideas, interests, or kinks you might have.
The ONLY thing to which I take exception are blanket statements that assume everyone works the same way. And it's not because I'm trying to be an expert, or that I enjoy pedantic arguments online. It's because if questions like "does pegging change you," are sincere, it seems likely to me that the person asking the question might be considering trying something, but is having doubts about what it might mean for them going forward. So responses that say "it absolutely changes you," and go on to suggest that you'll magically become someone's bitch the second a dildo touches your ass, are counterproductive. If they seem like they are meant not as a personal account but as some kind of expert warning, and enough people respond that way, we perpetuate stereotypes that keep topics like these largely misunderstood. Many, many people are so worried that something they try will automatically mean they are suddenly gay, bi, beta, sissy, etc. that they don't ever feel free to be themselves. Some worry about how they'll be perceived and wind up suicidal or with gender dysphoria or other problems. Others take what they think they've learned about something and spread false information and intolerance that isn't even based on personal experience, and sexual interests that differ from "the norm" continue to be seen as flaws to be judged and misunderstood.
I don't argue with people who describe how things work for them. So I'm sorry if you think I failed to "stay in my lane," but when you tell people, "it absolutely changes you," I can say with conviction that that is not necessarily true. It doesn't "absolutely" change people, and I know that because I'm the same person I was before it ever happened to me, and I know several others for whom that is also the case. The only thing getting pegged for the first time "absolutely" changes is whether you've ever experienced getting fucked with a strap-on. What you choose to do and how you choose to live your life and what roles you and your partner take are entirely up to you, and I don't judge you for any of it. But it's not an absolute truth that trying something or even liking it and doing it repeatedly will fundamentally change what kind of person someone is. I feel very strongly that telling people they can't try something, without taking on a bunch of scary, taboo labels or assuming a whole new lifestyle could be harmful.
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Don't really have any say in this. She controls my sex life and her wish is my command.
Very true, take away a man’s penetration of a female will turn into a sissy! My wife started pegging me in a regular basis and her bull also fucks my ass. I have learned to love it as the cum just starts leaking out of my tiny dick while they hammer away at my ass. I’ve also started to wear panties with our bull…..
you are gonna love it....and it wll change u both
my girl cums like crazy while she pegs me....there is a huge power element to it which really gets her going too..and she gets all her dick from her sexy black bull, zero from me, but knowng how much i love taking her dick she makes sure to fill me full of her cock2-3 tmes a day
Is he hard while you pound him?
I’m a tall masculine football tightend looking white dude and Bi. Although only been with one guy( friend growing up he was hung 9in) early 20s hook up with him for a few years. No other guys but always wanted to. I’m a tall guy and I can take a big dick. So my new Gf for last 6 years pegs me and knows I like big dicks and love hung black cock porn the best….. she’s need buying me a little bigger and longer dildos for the strapon every so often. Well I started getting hit on by Top guys every now n then and was like ohhh ok. After the newest big jump to a 12 insertable and 7in around heavy slugger that she’s quickly and very very often started breaking me in with a vengeance and ( made sure I was pumped full of lube and tied down and couldn’t move a inch) made sure my ass perched up for the perfect Long hard hammering strokes and ****** me to take it till I was Broken in!! Once I went limp and my ass relaxed and opened up like a flower she got deeper and then my ass was fully unlocked and she knew it, so she took the long pounding strokes to full jackhammer mode and pegged me for so long I was in slut Bliss and zoned out, once I came back to earth…. She had been fucking me for so long…. She was soaked in sweat and it had been 2 hrs! When she finally pulled out my ass was Soo full of lube and felt so good after a amazing fucking, my cock had been leaking everywhere, my eye was swollen and badly bruised from getting blasted into the head board. I collapsed and asked her when we could do it again…
Her reply, ive been sending guys with big dicks that wanted to top you and nothing, so I figured by the porn you watched you just wanted to be a Slut for a Hung Black Cock…. So I have been making sure you would be a good sissy slut that a would make a bbc happy! She said, those massive 10-12 inch dicks you jerk to all the time will come back for more when they know you aren’t gonna Tap Out, they can actually go balls deep for once and they can fuck the piss outa your guts and you will drool and be happy to take that dick anytime they want and all night too.
even tho she wants to watch me get my ass stuffed with Black cock and see me go crazy when it shoots that load in my mouth for the first time. She said you go find you a few big ones and she will come watch or help keep my ass lubed one day.
so it dose start with a. Little pegging….now I’m built for deep bbc drilling and on here to admit i wanna beg for a bbc to dominate and call me a slut and make me a happy boy knowing a big swinging donkey dick just used me hard. So yeah…. It’s all Peggings fault I’m a daydreaming of bbc and here now in VA BEGGING….
…. USE ME LIKE A SLUT!!! I need my bbc cherry popped!!
Her reply, ive been sending guys with big dicks that wanted to top you and nothing, so I figured by the porn you watched you just wanted to be a Slut for a Hung Black Cock…. So I have been making sure you would be a good sissy slut that a would make a bbc happy! She said, those massive 10-12 inch dicks you jerk to all the time will come back for more when they know you aren’t gonna Tap Out, they can actually go balls deep for once and they can fuck the piss outa your guts and you will drool and be happy to take that dick anytime they want and all night too.
even tho she wants to watch me get my ass stuffed with Black cock and see me go crazy when it shoots that load in my mouth for the first time. She said you go find you a few big ones and she will come watch or help keep my ass lubed one day.
so it dose start with a. Little pegging….now I’m built for deep bbc drilling and on here to admit i wanna beg for a bbc to dominate and call me a slut and make me a happy boy knowing a big swinging donkey dick just used me hard. So yeah…. It’s all Peggings fault I’m a daydreaming of bbc and here now in VA BEGGING….
…. USE ME LIKE A SLUT!!! I need my bbc cherry popped!!
Exactly what happened to my husband
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