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I keep my husband like this
Does he mind that?
I like the idea of controlling him....but I don't think I am mean enough to do this to him
He'll like it. It's fun then ******* but made well worth it when he does get released. Then he will want you to lock him back up
Its different, I dont know if I can either.
lol I rather put him in one lol
He is the one that isn't sexual with me so I don't want to limit myself.
If it is something he is into, it isn't being mean at all, many men enjoy the tease and denial aspects of chastity.
So, as long as you approach it as a game wherein you do everything you can think of to keep him stimulated and desiring you, he will respond by doing everything he can to try to get you to allow him to have an orgasm and even that you get to control by dictating how he can do it.
The thing you need to avoid is permitting him to whine about being released. You want him to beg appropriately without whining and to perform as you wish to earn his release. Think of the benefits: he does the housework, treats you to dinner, massages your feet, performs oral sex whenever you wish without reciprocation, etc.
You in turn, dress provocatively, allow him to see you but not touch (except when he gives you massages), touch him in sexually teasing ways, have him make love to you without using his penis, allow him to watch and/or serve you and your lover. Do whatever amuses you to keep him horny and willing to do anything to cum.
Then, when you decide he has earned an orgasm, you can be nice and allow him to fuck you, give him a blowjob or hand-job or if you would rather be nasty: tie him up so he can't move and then edge him over and over and give him a "ruined orgasm" by bringing him right to the point that he begins to cum and then immediately and completely stop all of the stimulation you were giving him.
Many women find it quite amusing to hear her man begging her to keep stroking or sucking him while watching his penis helplessly twitching and spurting out it's cum knowing that even though he is shooting his load, his orgasm has been ruined and he will still be extremely horny but unable to achieve an orgasm again for quite a while.
Of course, if you choose to not grant him an orgasm for whatever reason, you can always "milk" him by stimulating his prostate gland causing him to expel his semen which will keep his "plumbing" in good working order, but deny him the pleasure of an orgasm until you decide he may enjoy one.
Many women practice this as their normal regimen in order to keep their husbands in that highly aroused state where they are eager to please, but make sure his body avoids the "use it or lose it" syndrome by giving it the work out it needs without providing the pleasure normally associated with it.
Oddly, the men who enjoy this sort of play find themselves torn between desiring the orgasm they crave and hating it when they receive it because it ends their arousal and desire for it until they are denied for a period of time again. So keeping your husband in chastity may actually be providing him with a happier sexual life than otherwise. Beside, during the refractory period after having an orgasm, he will probably be much less submissive and somewhat lethargic until the desire for sex begins to peak his interest again.
Again, it's different strokes for different folks. The key to all is communication. Have fun.
Ok so I have some questions, how do you know if they do like it? My husband has to be one the least sexual person I have ever met and if he was, is it possible to leave it on him for long periods of time like your talking about?
Last question first: yes, it is possible to keep your husband in chastity for extended periods as long as the device is made of stainless steel or other non-allergenic material, is of a design that permits easy cleaning and is fitted properly. Proper fit is crucial.
Regarding your first question: through communication and experimentation. It is important that couples be able to communicate freely with each other about their needs and desires. They should also be willing to try different things to see if it may be something they can enjoy doing together.
If you don't have such a relationship, that is the first thing you should start working on.
When you say "My husband has to be one the least sexual person I have ever met ...", do you mean he truly has no interest in sex (not even pornography), doesn't initiate sex with you or that he waits for you to initiate it, but enjoys it then?
If it's the first, there may not be much you can do unless you find something that turns him on.
If it's either of the last two, it may be that he prefers that you take control, in which case you may already have a head start.
Try a little "tease and denial" session with him by doing things to get him excited but not letting him have an orgasm just to see how he reacts. If he begs for relief, tell him he has to give you an orgasm first and have him please you as you wish before you satisfy him. If this works, you should be able to gradually encourage his natural desire to submit to you.
If he becomes upset or angry, he probably won't be very receptive to chastity or being cuckolded.
If he shows no interest or desire, he is probably cheating on you, gay or dead.
You don't say how old he is, so you need to also be aware that as a man gets into his late forties and beyond, his testosterone level drops which lessens his desire for sex. Have his doctor check for this at his next physical. If his level is low, they can prescribe hormone replacement therapy, usually a gel that he has to apply once or twice a day, to supplement his natural testosterone. This should help restore his interest in sex.
Good luck.
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Well we really dont have a communication and experiement relationship, I have tried to explain my needs but he doesn't get it.
Right I have bought some porn and he just watches it and doesn't even get that into it. I always have to initiate it and its terrible when I do so I just stopped. I have teased him and its been a year since we have been intimate now.
He is very passive person, not sure how more to describe him other than to say that. He is not very sexual and he is very passive and lot a lover.
Right I have bought some porn and he just watches it and doesn't even get that into it. I always have to initiate it and its terrible when I do so I just stopped. I have teased him and its been a year since we have been intimate now.
He is very passive person, not sure how more to describe him other than to say that. He is not very sexual and he is very passive and lot a lover.
I dont think he is either, he was never a good lover, ever. We never even had sex on our honeymoon as we were so busy on the cruise and he was always so tired. I just think he is not a lover.
He is a nice man, just not a good lover.
I love him but we are not lovers, sounds cliche but its true.
I would never do that, I just want to date some.
