Seems like it’s down to the couple, what THEY want. I can’t imagine my wife being all right with something like that —she’s not really built that way — but it doesn’t really interest me either. I mean, I can’t imagine I’d want or need it. I’ve never really wanted anyone else, and frankly I’m way more interested in and excited by what she’s doing sexually.
Really, the times I’ve been with other women weren’t so much about desire or lust for them, but more a reaction and response to instances of her cheating, feeling not only justified, but that as a man I had to do that for myself. That I was supposed to.
But except for the first one, which was a mini-affair I had in reaction to her sleeping with a bunch of guys over a period of months (which included a mini affair of her own) I kept it to myself because I believed she probably wouldn’t have tolerated or accepted it.