The short answer is no. Most Hotwives don't start out the gate as Hotwives. Some wives can be very inhibited or even intimidated in the beginning and may just be participating to please their hubbies. The last thing, I want to do is make the experience negative for a burgeoning hotwife by being overly aggressive. Over time, one develops a "sense" of when to go full throttle and when to pump the brakes. An experienced QoS usually has no problem telling you exactly what she wants in my humble experience.