Anyone else simply let their wife cheat on you without her knowing that you know it all?

[Jacktone]

It is best to keep an eye on your wife sexually and financially.

 

[Serveaqueen]

Find out the best way for you both, that is one option if you both are subtle.

I agree, I gave my girlfriend an open invitation to fuck anyone she wanted just come home and tell me about it while I'm eating her pussy

 

[RedheadedWife]

What’s going on is deceit , it does not belong in a marriage. I say call her on it, tell her your feelings if she does not accommodate your needs then you have a lot to consider. While this may be the first time ( unlikely ) it definitely won’t be the last. If you are not honest about it your in for quite a ride for the life of your marriage.
Just sayin’

 

[cuckboat]

Long time anonymous reader here and I have literally no one to share my situation with.

My story:

I (38M) met my wife (36F) at work 10 years ago at work and we have been married for 7 years with a 6 year old kid. We are both your regular upper middle class, gym going successful New Yorkers. She is tall skinny blonde - does yoga type. I am a alpha in the boardroom and a cuck in the bedroom type. She had only 3-4 douchebag white guys before me and was pretty straight A girl before we met. I always had cuckold desires but she would always say no to swinger resorts or sex clubs or any notion of involving anyone else. But, over the years - our sex life went from once a day to once a month (stress, *******, jobs, finances) etc.

Around 3.5 years ago - she started being suspicious. Hiding her phone, spending lots of time with her phone in the bathroom (she would always leave her phone charging when showering before but now she would take it to the bathroom with her), working super late, traveling to "conferences", going out "with the girls" etc. I became suspicious. We share the same family cellphone plan and I could see she was spending hours on the phone (the times matched to when she went to the bathroom or when she was commuting but not during work) and thousands of texts to a single number from our cellphone bills online. It was easy to find the number belonged to a coworker of her's. But, strangely, on her phone - I found no evidence of calls or texts to the number at all - not even a contact! It only showed up in our detailed bill online in T-Mobile!

Turns out, she has been very good about deleting all her call history and texts (it was hard but not impossible to distract her and grab her phone when she went to pick up the mail or was in a conference call on her computer). I then ****** her to switch to an Android (she hated it but I convinced her saying its easier since I also have an Android) and thankfully, in Android, deleting your text from Google Messages makes it go to a deleted folder which she never clears.

Reading through her texts from her trash folder made my head explode. She has been fucking this coworker for a while it seems. She would fly to him during conferences or meet him in "day hotels" all over the town to fuck. This guy was an older (early 60s) fat black guy at her company who made less money than me - he was a lowly IT guy and my wife is an executive at her company. Why the hell would she pick this guy to fuck???

Turns out - this guy became friends with her at her company - helping her with IT problems. Then, when we had some dumb arguments, he was a shoulder to cry on. At some point shortly, they hooked up after work. Since then he is doing things with my wife I never knew she was into. Things slowly escalated between them from vanilla to a S&M type relationship. He would whip her, fuck her ass (she told me she did not like anal), give her "tasks" to do (like take off her panties at work or flash someone in public), invite his friends to the hotel room while she was tied up. I knew all this from deleted texts from her phone (they text and send pics a lot and discuss what they are going to do next). She would book hotels and pay for his flights to fuck him! And this guy has the largest horse cock I have ever seen from the dickpics he has sent her and she loves it!

I came to know about this about 6 months after she hooked up with the guy. Since I almost always knew when she was coming back from being fucked and dominated, it made me more horny and I would try to initiate sex when she would come home. Initially, she would deny me sex after she would come back from her hookups because she was afraid that I would discover her secret but she slowly let up. She would initially try to "freshen up" after coming home before having sex with me but I would just lie that "hey you smell horny; I want you; lets fuck" and she would slowly loosen up. Ofcourse her pussy would smell like sex or rubber (she fucks her guy bareback but when he invites other men she uses rubbers) but I would pretend I don't notice when I go down on her. Nowadays its almost a Pavlov's dog response - she comes home and I go down on her and find cum in her pussy and I pretend I did not notice and she thinks I don't know lol. She is even more hornier now when she comes home from her affairs. She has no clue I know!

But, strangely when I bring up cuck porn or BBC porn - she says she is not into it! She says she likes our usual "lesbian porn" that we sometime watch (hard to watch now with a kid in a tiny 2 bedroom NYC apartment). But, I know its not true - she raves about her lover's BBC in her texts! Whenever I suggest anything close to a cuck type thing, she shuts off...

So I let it be and just enjoy being the secret cuck that I am ... kinda hotter that way in some respects.

I loved meeting the guy once at her company's holiday parties. At the 2017 and 2018 holiday parties she would pretend that she does not know him at the party even though her company is small (around 90 people so almost everyone knows everyone). But, last year (2019 not 2020 since no covid holiday party) - she introduced me to him at the 2019 holiday party and I shook his hand lol - knowing very well that 2 days before he was fucking her in a day hotel.

The hard parts:

1. It is hard to straddle the fine line between "good guy" and "bad guy". When I am good to her like do chores around the house, or get her gifts or take care of the ******* or give her massages - she feels guilty and cancels on her lover (which I don't want lol). When I am "bad" - like we argue about stuff or when I ignore her or when I am selfish, she becomes more emotional than sexual with her lover - they just talk about her problems then (I just want them to fuck lol). I have slowly learned to be just the "right amount of good" where she still loves me and has sex with me but still goes to her lover for extra spice in her sex life. The secret formula here is to be generally nice but aloof and keep the sex vanilla with her. Ideally, I really want to be the good guy and still have her just cheat on me sexually but not emotionally.

2. I have also struggled myself simply not confessing to her that I know. I really want to tell her "its okay, I know and I approve". I am afraid that this whole arrangement would fall off and she would simply leave the guy and the hot part of this situation would no longer be hot for me if she cucks me because I want it and not because she wants it. Since its been 2+ years she may even take it completely wrong way that I knew it for so long and kinda kindled it all along.

3. I would love to be in the room or next room when she is getting fucked. But this is incredibly hard as even though I know what hotel they are going to meet at from her texts, I have no clue what the room number she is in as they only tell you when she checks in! Sometimes I follow her to the hotel and then she gets in elevator and I know the floor number if she is alone based on where elevator went. Then I take the stairs to the floor and wait for her lover to show up on the floor and figure out the room. Then I scramble downstairs and try to book the room next door. All this requires a lot of luck - me being free at the time, winters are easier (everyone wears a parka with face cover so easy to hide from her), she taking the elevator alone, her guy being late and room being available next to her. But, I have managed it twice in the last two years and jacked off while listening to her getting fucked the next door.


Anyone else in the same boat as me? Or am I just fucked?

My last live in g/f took off after she found out I was serious about her fucking and me not after women. She did not work which was fine by me. She did not use any discretion at all. It didn't help that one of the guys we know started fucking her and bragging about it at a bar we all hang out at. So basically everyone knew. Of course he wasn't the only one she started fucking. I know she loved the attention of the men and from the women because she fucked who and whenever she wanted and no lip from me so it was like a show of power other women seemed amused by it. During the last 2 months before she left I got no pussy and she just kept having herself a great time flaunting in my face. So yes you may be screwed but sometimes you do the best you can.......mabe a small recording device in a purse may give you listening pleasure if you could time it right...Good luck.

 

[FondOfSex]

Long time anonymous reader here and I have literally no one to share my situation with.

My story:

I (38M) met my wife (36F) at work 10 years ago at work and we have been married for 7 years with a 6 year old kid. We are both your regular upper middle class, gym going successful New Yorkers. She is tall skinny blonde - does yoga type. I am a alpha in the boardroom and a cuck in the bedroom type. She had only 3-4 douchebag white guys before me and was pretty straight A girl before we met. I always had cuckold desires but she would always say no to swinger resorts or sex clubs or any notion of involving anyone else. But, over the years - our sex life went from once a day to once a month (stress, *******, jobs, finances) etc.

Around 3.5 years ago - she started being suspicious. Hiding her phone, spending lots of time with her phone in the bathroom (she would always leave her phone charging when showering before but now she would take it to the bathroom with her), working super late, traveling to "conferences", going out "with the girls" etc. I became suspicious. We share the same family cellphone plan and I could see she was spending hours on the phone (the times matched to when she went to the bathroom or when she was commuting but not during work) and thousands of texts to a single number from our cellphone bills online. It was easy to find the number belonged to a coworker of her's. But, strangely, on her phone - I found no evidence of calls or texts to the number at all - not even a contact! It only showed up in our detailed bill online in T-Mobile!

Turns out, she has been very good about deleting all her call history and texts (it was hard but not impossible to distract her and grab her phone when she went to pick up the mail or was in a conference call on her computer). I then ****** her to switch to an Android (she hated it but I convinced her saying its easier since I also have an Android) and thankfully, in Android, deleting your text from Google Messages makes it go to a deleted folder which she never clears.

Reading through her texts from her trash folder made my head explode. She has been fucking this coworker for a while it seems. She would fly to him during conferences or meet him in "day hotels" all over the town to fuck. This guy was an older (early 60s) fat black guy at her company who made less money than me - he was a lowly IT guy and my wife is an executive at her company. Why the hell would she pick this guy to fuck???

Turns out - this guy became friends with her at her company - helping her with IT problems. Then, when we had some dumb arguments, he was a shoulder to cry on. At some point shortly, they hooked up after work. Since then he is doing things with my wife I never knew she was into. Things slowly escalated between them from vanilla to a S&M type relationship. He would whip her, fuck her ass (she told me she did not like anal), give her "tasks" to do (like take off her panties at work or flash someone in public), invite his friends to the hotel room while she was tied up. I knew all this from deleted texts from her phone (they text and send pics a lot and discuss what they are going to do next). She would book hotels and pay for his flights to fuck him! And this guy has the largest horse cock I have ever seen from the dickpics he has sent her and she loves it!

I came to know about this about 6 months after she hooked up with the guy. Since I almost always knew when she was coming back from being fucked and dominated, it made me more horny and I would try to initiate sex when she would come home. Initially, she would deny me sex after she would come back from her hookups because she was afraid that I would discover her secret but she slowly let up. She would initially try to "freshen up" after coming home before having sex with me but I would just lie that "hey you smell horny; I want you; lets fuck" and she would slowly loosen up. Ofcourse her pussy would smell like sex or rubber (she fucks her guy bareback but when he invites other men she uses rubbers) but I would pretend I don't notice when I go down on her. Nowadays its almost a Pavlov's dog response - she comes home and I go down on her and find cum in her pussy and I pretend I did not notice and she thinks I don't know lol. She is even more hornier now when she comes home from her affairs. She has no clue I know!

But, strangely when I bring up cuck porn or BBC porn - she says she is not into it! She says she likes our usual "lesbian porn" that we sometime watch (hard to watch now with a kid in a tiny 2 bedroom NYC apartment). But, I know its not true - she raves about her lover's BBC in her texts! Whenever I suggest anything close to a cuck type thing, she shuts off...

So I let it be and just enjoy being the secret cuck that I am ... kinda hotter that way in some respects.

I loved meeting the guy once at her company's holiday parties. At the 2017 and 2018 holiday parties she would pretend that she does not know him at the party even though her company is small (around 90 people so almost everyone knows everyone). But, last year (2019 not 2020 since no covid holiday party) - she introduced me to him at the 2019 holiday party and I shook his hand lol - knowing very well that 2 days before he was fucking her in a day hotel.

The hard parts:

1. It is hard to straddle the fine line between "good guy" and "bad guy". When I am good to her like do chores around the house, or get her gifts or take care of the ******* or give her massages - she feels guilty and cancels on her lover (which I don't want lol). When I am "bad" - like we argue about stuff or when I ignore her or when I am selfish, she becomes more emotional than sexual with her lover - they just talk about her problems then (I just want them to fuck lol). I have slowly learned to be just the "right amount of good" where she still loves me and has sex with me but still goes to her lover for extra spice in her sex life. The secret formula here is to be generally nice but aloof and keep the sex vanilla with her. Ideally, I really want to be the good guy and still have her just cheat on me sexually but not emotionally.

2. I have also struggled myself simply not confessing to her that I know. I really want to tell her "its okay, I know and I approve". I am afraid that this whole arrangement would fall off and she would simply leave the guy and the hot part of this situation would no longer be hot for me if she cucks me because I want it and not because she wants it. Since its been 2+ years she may even take it completely wrong way that I knew it for so long and kinda kindled it all along.

3. I would love to be in the room or next room when she is getting fucked. But this is incredibly hard as even though I know what hotel they are going to meet at from her texts, I have no clue what the room number she is in as they only tell you when she checks in! Sometimes I follow her to the hotel and then she gets in elevator and I know the floor number if she is alone based on where elevator went. Then I take the stairs to the floor and wait for her lover to show up on the floor and figure out the room. Then I scramble downstairs and try to book the room next door. All this requires a lot of luck - me being free at the time, winters are easier (everyone wears a parka with face cover so easy to hide from her), she taking the elevator alone, her guy being late and room being available next to her. But, I have managed it twice in the last two years and jacked off while listening to her getting fucked the next door.


Anyone else in the same boat as me? Or am I just fucked?

You need to meet up with the dude fucking your girl and tell him you like being cucked, and tell him to secretly continue fucking your woman but let you know about it or take risks by doing it around you. If you can keep it between you two without her knowing then you can have some crazy hot experiences.

 

[Mickey Grey]

Long time anonymous reader here and I have literally no one to share my situation with.

My story:

I (38M) met my wife (36F) at work 10 years ago at work and we have been married for 7 years with a 6 year old kid. We are both your regular upper middle class, gym going successful New Yorkers. She is tall skinny blonde - does yoga type. I am a alpha in the boardroom and a cuck in the bedroom type. She had only 3-4 douchebag white guys before me and was pretty straight A girl before we met. I always had cuckold desires but she would always say no to swinger resorts or sex clubs or any notion of involving anyone else. But, over the years - our sex life went from once a day to once a month (stress, *******, jobs, finances) etc.

Around 3.5 years ago - she started being suspicious. Hiding her phone, spending lots of time with her phone in the bathroom (she would always leave her phone charging when showering before but now she would take it to the bathroom with her), working super late, traveling to "conferences", going out "with the girls" etc. I became suspicious. We share the same family cellphone plan and I could see she was spending hours on the phone (the times matched to when she went to the bathroom or when she was commuting but not during work) and thousands of texts to a single number from our cellphone bills online. It was easy to find the number belonged to a coworker of her's. But, strangely, on her phone - I found no evidence of calls or texts to the number at all - not even a contact! It only showed up in our detailed bill online in T-Mobile!

Turns out, she has been very good about deleting all her call history and texts (it was hard but not impossible to distract her and grab her phone when she went to pick up the mail or was in a conference call on her computer). I then ****** her to switch to an Android (she hated it but I convinced her saying its easier since I also have an Android) and thankfully, in Android, deleting your text from Google Messages makes it go to a deleted folder which she never clears.

Reading through her texts from her trash folder made my head explode. She has been fucking this coworker for a while it seems. She would fly to him during conferences or meet him in "day hotels" all over the town to fuck. This guy was an older (early 60s) fat black guy at her company who made less money than me - he was a lowly IT guy and my wife is an executive at her company. Why the hell would she pick this guy to fuck???

Turns out - this guy became friends with her at her company - helping her with IT problems. Then, when we had some dumb arguments, he was a shoulder to cry on. At some point shortly, they hooked up after work. Since then he is doing things with my wife I never knew she was into. Things slowly escalated between them from vanilla to a S&M type relationship. He would whip her, fuck her ass (she told me she did not like anal), give her "tasks" to do (like take off her panties at work or flash someone in public), invite his friends to the hotel room while she was tied up. I knew all this from deleted texts from her phone (they text and send pics a lot and discuss what they are going to do next). She would book hotels and pay for his flights to fuck him! And this guy has the largest horse cock I have ever seen from the dickpics he has sent her and she loves it!

I came to know about this about 6 months after she hooked up with the guy. Since I almost always knew when she was coming back from being fucked and dominated, it made me more horny and I would try to initiate sex when she would come home. Initially, she would deny me sex after she would come back from her hookups because she was afraid that I would discover her secret but she slowly let up. She would initially try to "freshen up" after coming home before having sex with me but I would just lie that "hey you smell horny; I want you; lets fuck" and she would slowly loosen up. Ofcourse her pussy would smell like sex or rubber (she fucks her guy bareback but when he invites other men she uses rubbers) but I would pretend I don't notice when I go down on her. Nowadays its almost a Pavlov's dog response - she comes home and I go down on her and find cum in her pussy and I pretend I did not notice and she thinks I don't know lol. She is even more hornier now when she comes home from her affairs. She has no clue I know!

But, strangely when I bring up cuck porn or BBC porn - she says she is not into it! She says she likes our usual "lesbian porn" that we sometime watch (hard to watch now with a kid in a tiny 2 bedroom NYC apartment). But, I know its not true - she raves about her lover's BBC in her texts! Whenever I suggest anything close to a cuck type thing, she shuts off...

So I let it be and just enjoy being the secret cuck that I am ... kinda hotter that way in some respects.

I loved meeting the guy once at her company's holiday parties. At the 2017 and 2018 holiday parties she would pretend that she does not know him at the party even though her company is small (around 90 people so almost everyone knows everyone). But, last year (2019 not 2020 since no covid holiday party) - she introduced me to him at the 2019 holiday party and I shook his hand lol - knowing very well that 2 days before he was fucking her in a day hotel.

The hard parts:

1. It is hard to straddle the fine line between "good guy" and "bad guy". When I am good to her like do chores around the house, or get her gifts or take care of the ******* or give her massages - she feels guilty and cancels on her lover (which I don't want lol). When I am "bad" - like we argue about stuff or when I ignore her or when I am selfish, she becomes more emotional than sexual with her lover - they just talk about her problems then (I just want them to fuck lol). I have slowly learned to be just the "right amount of good" where she still loves me and has sex with me but still goes to her lover for extra spice in her sex life. The secret formula here is to be generally nice but aloof and keep the sex vanilla with her. Ideally, I really want to be the good guy and still have her just cheat on me sexually but not emotionally.

2. I have also struggled myself simply not confessing to her that I know. I really want to tell her "its okay, I know and I approve". I am afraid that this whole arrangement would fall off and she would simply leave the guy and the hot part of this situation would no longer be hot for me if she cucks me because I want it and not because she wants it. Since its been 2+ years she may even take it completely wrong way that I knew it for so long and kinda kindled it all along.

3. I would love to be in the room or next room when she is getting fucked. But this is incredibly hard as even though I know what hotel they are going to meet at from her texts, I have no clue what the room number she is in as they only tell you when she checks in! Sometimes I follow her to the hotel and then she gets in elevator and I know the floor number if she is alone based on where elevator went. Then I take the stairs to the floor and wait for her lover to show up on the floor and figure out the room. Then I scramble downstairs and try to book the room next door. All this requires a lot of luck - me being free at the time, winters are easier (everyone wears a parka with face cover so easy to hide from her), she taking the elevator alone, her guy being late and room being available next to her. But, I have managed it twice in the last two years and jacked off while listening to her getting fucked the next door.


Anyone else in the same boat as me? Or am I just fucked?

I was in much the same situation. Two years into our marriage my wife started cheating with a much older man. I found out two years after they started their secret affair. Although, like most husbands would, I had suspicions at least a year before I found out. She had met him through one of her girlfriends. Apparently they hit it off right away. Her friend would let them use her apartment during the day while she was at work. My wife did not work and he was retired. They had plenty of time for each other. When I found out directly from her lover, yes he told me about the two of them, I of course confronted my wife. I told her I had suspected something for a while and after thinking about it, I was not only ok with it, but I was actually turned on by it and would love to watch her with another man. She absolutely refused and said she would be far too self conscious with me present. She did agree to let me know when she had a lover and tell me of her experiences with him, so I could masturbate to her stories. That was twenty years ago. Ten years ago my wife cut me off completely from having sex with her. It was what her lover at the time insisted on and she said there was no way she was going to disappoint him. He just meant too much to her. I know this will sound strange to a lot of men and women, but that turned me on more than I can explain. The idea that my slutty little wife would want sex with another man so badly, she was willing to deprive her husband of sex with her, was just over the top with lust.

 

[Tinyteddy]

Did she say why? What was your reaction?

Cause she's a slut and it helped sales

 

[dickhurtz472]

Long time anonymous reader here and I have literally no one to share my situation with.

My story:

I (38M) met my wife (36F) at work 10 years ago at work and we have been married for 7 years with a 6 year old kid. We are both your regular upper middle class, gym going successful New Yorkers. She is tall skinny blonde - does yoga type. I am a alpha in the boardroom and a cuck in the bedroom type. She had only 3-4 douchebag white guys before me and was pretty straight A girl before we met. I always had cuckold desires but she would always say no to swinger resorts or sex clubs or any notion of involving anyone else. But, over the years - our sex life went from once a day to once a month (stress, *******, jobs, finances) etc.

Around 3.5 years ago - she started being suspicious. Hiding her phone, spending lots of time with her phone in the bathroom (she would always leave her phone charging when showering before but now she would take it to the bathroom with her), working super late, traveling to "conferences", going out "with the girls" etc. I became suspicious. We share the same family cellphone plan and I could see she was spending hours on the phone (the times matched to when she went to the bathroom or when she was commuting but not during work) and thousands of texts to a single number from our cellphone bills online. It was easy to find the number belonged to a coworker of her's. But, strangely, on her phone - I found no evidence of calls or texts to the number at all - not even a contact! It only showed up in our detailed bill online in T-Mobile!

Turns out, she has been very good about deleting all her call history and texts (it was hard but not impossible to distract her and grab her phone when she went to pick up the mail or was in a conference call on her computer). I then ****** her to switch to an Android (she hated it but I convinced her saying its easier since I also have an Android) and thankfully, in Android, deleting your text from Google Messages makes it go to a deleted folder which she never clears.

Reading through her texts from her trash folder made my head explode. She has been fucking this coworker for a while it seems. She would fly to him during conferences or meet him in "day hotels" all over the town to fuck. This guy was an older (early 60s) fat black guy at her company who made less money than me - he was a lowly IT guy and my wife is an executive at her company. Why the hell would she pick this guy to fuck???

Turns out - this guy became friends with her at her company - helping her with IT problems. Then, when we had some dumb arguments, he was a shoulder to cry on. At some point shortly, they hooked up after work. Since then he is doing things with my wife I never knew she was into. Things slowly escalated between them from vanilla to a S&M type relationship. He would whip her, fuck her ass (she told me she did not like anal), give her "tasks" to do (like take off her panties at work or flash someone in public), invite his friends to the hotel room while she was tied up. I knew all this from deleted texts from her phone (they text and send pics a lot and discuss what they are going to do next). She would book hotels and pay for his flights to fuck him! And this guy has the largest horse cock I have ever seen from the dickpics he has sent her and she loves it!

I came to know about this about 6 months after she hooked up with the guy. Since I almost always knew when she was coming back from being fucked and dominated, it made me more horny and I would try to initiate sex when she would come home. Initially, she would deny me sex after she would come back from her hookups because she was afraid that I would discover her secret but she slowly let up. She would initially try to "freshen up" after coming home before having sex with me but I would just lie that "hey you smell horny; I want you; lets fuck" and she would slowly loosen up. Ofcourse her pussy would smell like sex or rubber (she fucks her guy bareback but when he invites other men she uses rubbers) but I would pretend I don't notice when I go down on her. Nowadays its almost a Pavlov's dog response - she comes home and I go down on her and find cum in her pussy and I pretend I did not notice and she thinks I don't know lol. She is even more hornier now when she comes home from her affairs. She has no clue I know!

But, strangely when I bring up cuck porn or BBC porn - she says she is not into it! She says she likes our usual "lesbian porn" that we sometime watch (hard to watch now with a kid in a tiny 2 bedroom NYC apartment). But, I know its not true - she raves about her lover's BBC in her texts! Whenever I suggest anything close to a cuck type thing, she shuts off...

So I let it be and just enjoy being the secret cuck that I am ... kinda hotter that way in some respects.

I loved meeting the guy once at her company's holiday parties. At the 2017 and 2018 holiday parties she would pretend that she does not know him at the party even though her company is small (around 90 people so almost everyone knows everyone). But, last year (2019 not 2020 since no covid holiday party) - she introduced me to him at the 2019 holiday party and I shook his hand lol - knowing very well that 2 days before he was fucking her in a day hotel.

The hard parts:

1. It is hard to straddle the fine line between "good guy" and "bad guy". When I am good to her like do chores around the house, or get her gifts or take care of the ******* or give her massages - she feels guilty and cancels on her lover (which I don't want lol). When I am "bad" - like we argue about stuff or when I ignore her or when I am selfish, she becomes more emotional than sexual with her lover - they just talk about her problems then (I just want them to fuck lol). I have slowly learned to be just the "right amount of good" where she still loves me and has sex with me but still goes to her lover for extra spice in her sex life. The secret formula here is to be generally nice but aloof and keep the sex vanilla with her. Ideally, I really want to be the good guy and still have her just cheat on me sexually but not emotionally.

2. I have also struggled myself simply not confessing to her that I know. I really want to tell her "its okay, I know and I approve". I am afraid that this whole arrangement would fall off and she would simply leave the guy and the hot part of this situation would no longer be hot for me if she cucks me because I want it and not because she wants it. Since its been 2+ years she may even take it completely wrong way that I knew it for so long and kinda kindled it all along.

3. I would love to be in the room or next room when she is getting fucked. But this is incredibly hard as even though I know what hotel they are going to meet at from her texts, I have no clue what the room number she is in as they only tell you when she checks in! Sometimes I follow her to the hotel and then she gets in elevator and I know the floor number if she is alone based on where elevator went. Then I take the stairs to the floor and wait for her lover to show up on the floor and figure out the room. Then I scramble downstairs and try to book the room next door. All this requires a lot of luck - me being free at the time, winters are easier (everyone wears a parka with face cover so easy to hide from her), she taking the elevator alone, her guy being late and room being available next to her. But, I have managed it twice in the last two years and jacked off while listening to her getting fucked the next door.


Anyone else in the same boat as me? Or am I just fucked?

there is something else to consider. as long as she thinks you don't know, she will try to not get caught. there are some personal boundaries she won't cross in an attempt to remain secretive.

once you admit you are aware, that could remove all her boundaries. she no longer has to be careful.

she is, now, free to proceed as she wishes, without restraint.

this may be, or not be, a positive development, depending on one's perspective.

 

[dickhurtz472]

My wife works nights at a restaurant-lounge. Normally she gets off work around midnight, so since I go to work early in the morning I'm usually in bed when she gets home. One night around midnight our phone rang. When I picked up, and said hello, there was no reply. I was about to hang up, but then I heard my wife's voice, "Why are you looking at me like that?" There was a reply, a male voice that I couldn't make out, and whatever the guys said made her laugh, and she said, "We better not. What if someone comes in." Again I couldn't make out the reply, but she giggled again, and I then heard a guy say, "Here, let me help you with that." It was quiet for a minute, and then I heard her moaning, followed by her usual, "Oh yeah, oh yeah," which she does when she's getting oral. That went on for a while and then it was, "Let me suck that big cock." Then it was him, "Suck it good if you want me to fuck you, that's right. It wasn't long before I heard her getting fucked, and whoever it was, he was giving it to her good. She was going oh oh oh when the phone went dead.
About 45 minutes later, she got home, went in the bathroom briefly and then came to bed. I started to touch her, and she was still turned on. I tried to go down on her, but she stopped me and got on top, doing her cowgirl thing. It was pretty intense, and i didn't last very long.
We've never talked about it, but at the staff Christmas party I was able to figure out who it was. A young black guy who was a new assistant manager. It was pretty obvious the way they interacted with each other.

 

[Craig Rudd]

Yes, THat is exactly what you should do. That empowers her. Just love her, let her explore IF and ONLY IF she loves you.

 

[hmimi47]

A friend of mine, his wife cheating on him for 4 years he never told her about it, I think he was okay with it and like it before assuming that he's a cuck

 

[Greg84]

Long time anonymous reader here and I have literally no one to share my situation with.

My story:

I (38M) met my wife (36F) at work 10 years ago at work and we have been married for 7 years with a 6 year old kid. We are both your regular upper middle class, gym going successful New Yorkers. She is tall skinny blonde - does yoga type. I am a alpha in the boardroom and a cuck in the bedroom type. She had only 3-4 douchebag white guys before me and was pretty straight A girl before we met. I always had cuckold desires but she would always say no to swinger resorts or sex clubs or any notion of involving anyone else. But, over the years - our sex life went from once a day to once a month (stress, *******, jobs, finances) etc.

Around 3.5 years ago - she started being suspicious. Hiding her phone, spending lots of time with her phone in the bathroom (she would always leave her phone charging when showering before but now she would take it to the bathroom with her), working super late, traveling to "conferences", going out "with the girls" etc. I became suspicious. We share the same family cellphone plan and I could see she was spending hours on the phone (the times matched to when she went to the bathroom or when she was commuting but not during work) and thousands of texts to a single number from our cellphone bills online. It was easy to find the number belonged to a coworker of her's. But, strangely, on her phone - I found no evidence of calls or texts to the number at all - not even a contact! It only showed up in our detailed bill online in T-Mobile!

Turns out, she has been very good about deleting all her call history and texts (it was hard but not impossible to distract her and grab her phone when she went to pick up the mail or was in a conference call on her computer). I then ****** her to switch to an Android (she hated it but I convinced her saying its easier since I also have an Android) and thankfully, in Android, deleting your text from Google Messages makes it go to a deleted folder which she never clears.

Reading through her texts from her trash folder made my head explode. She has been fucking this coworker for a while it seems. She would fly to him during conferences or meet him in "day hotels" all over the town to fuck. This guy was an older (early 60s) fat black guy at her company who made less money than me - he was a lowly IT guy and my wife is an executive at her company. Why the hell would she pick this guy to fuck???

Turns out - this guy became friends with her at her company - helping her with IT problems. Then, when we had some dumb arguments, he was a shoulder to cry on. At some point shortly, they hooked up after work. Since then he is doing things with my wife I never knew she was into. Things slowly escalated between them from vanilla to a S&M type relationship. He would whip her, fuck her ass (she told me she did not like anal), give her "tasks" to do (like take off her panties at work or flash someone in public), invite his friends to the hotel room while she was tied up. I knew all this from deleted texts from her phone (they text and send pics a lot and discuss what they are going to do next). She would book hotels and pay for his flights to fuck him! And this guy has the largest horse cock I have ever seen from the dickpics he has sent her and she loves it!

I came to know about this about 6 months after she hooked up with the guy. Since I almost always knew when she was coming back from being fucked and dominated, it made me more horny and I would try to initiate sex when she would come home. Initially, she would deny me sex after she would come back from her hookups because she was afraid that I would discover her secret but she slowly let up. She would initially try to "freshen up" after coming home before having sex with me but I would just lie that "hey you smell horny; I want you; lets fuck" and she would slowly loosen up. Ofcourse her pussy would smell like sex or rubber (she fucks her guy bareback but when he invites other men she uses rubbers) but I would pretend I don't notice when I go down on her. Nowadays its almost a Pavlov's dog response - she comes home and I go down on her and find cum in her pussy and I pretend I did not notice and she thinks I don't know lol. She is even more hornier now when she comes home from her affairs. She has no clue I know!

But, strangely when I bring up cuck porn or BBC porn - she says she is not into it! She says she likes our usual "lesbian porn" that we sometime watch (hard to watch now with a kid in a tiny 2 bedroom NYC apartment). But, I know its not true - she raves about her lover's BBC in her texts! Whenever I suggest anything close to a cuck type thing, she shuts off...

So I let it be and just enjoy being the secret cuck that I am ... kinda hotter that way in some respects.

I loved meeting the guy once at her company's holiday parties. At the 2017 and 2018 holiday parties she would pretend that she does not know him at the party even though her company is small (around 90 people so almost everyone knows everyone). But, last year (2019 not 2020 since no covid holiday party) - she introduced me to him at the 2019 holiday party and I shook his hand lol - knowing very well that 2 days before he was fucking her in a day hotel.

The hard parts:

1. It is hard to straddle the fine line between "good guy" and "bad guy". When I am good to her like do chores around the house, or get her gifts or take care of the ******* or give her massages - she feels guilty and cancels on her lover (which I don't want lol). When I am "bad" - like we argue about stuff or when I ignore her or when I am selfish, she becomes more emotional than sexual with her lover - they just talk about her problems then (I just want them to fuck lol). I have slowly learned to be just the "right amount of good" where she still loves me and has sex with me but still goes to her lover for extra spice in her sex life. The secret formula here is to be generally nice but aloof and keep the sex vanilla with her. Ideally, I really want to be the good guy and still have her just cheat on me sexually but not emotionally.

2. I have also struggled myself simply not confessing to her that I know. I really want to tell her "its okay, I know and I approve". I am afraid that this whole arrangement would fall off and she would simply leave the guy and the hot part of this situation would no longer be hot for me if she cucks me because I want it and not because she wants it. Since its been 2+ years she may even take it completely wrong way that I knew it for so long and kinda kindled it all along.

3. I would love to be in the room or next room when she is getting fucked. But this is incredibly hard as even though I know what hotel they are going to meet at from her texts, I have no clue what the room number she is in as they only tell you when she checks in! Sometimes I follow her to the hotel and then she gets in elevator and I know the floor number if she is alone based on where elevator went. Then I take the stairs to the floor and wait for her lover to show up on the floor and figure out the room. Then I scramble downstairs and try to book the room next door. All this requires a lot of luck - me being free at the time, winters are easier (everyone wears a parka with face cover so easy to hide from her), she taking the elevator alone, her guy being late and room being available next to her. But, I have managed it twice in the last two years and jacked off while listening to her getting fucked the next door.


Anyone else in the same boat as me? Or am I just fucked?

Your story sounds very similar to mine. She takes her phone with her all the time now and I know she has had a variety of other men. I find I get quite excited when I can see a guy is getting interested and some men seem to know she is available before even talking to her. It can happen so quickly at times. It's what she needs so I am happy she gets as much as she can. I give my tacit encouragement and leave her alone with a man sometimes to let her do what she has to. Normally it only takes about forty minutes for her to achieve satisfaction.

 

[andyv]

La sensación constante de saber y no poder decirle debe ser un muy fuerte para poder controlarlo, aún sintes celos o todo es placer nada más