Angelyn’s Article: The difference between male and female fantasies

[baldkate]

baldkate, don't you have submission fantasies at times? Men do have their uses, you know. And why do you call yourself a special lesbian?

I like that Erin Gilbert character so much because she is so much like me. I so totally appreciated the part where Erin Gilbert was really embarrassed by her past associations. I haven't gone so far as to publish a book, but yes I have had some eccentric associations with people who later turned out to be nuts. On both sides of the political spectrum.

I think what most men can't accept, is that women often have fluid gender needs. Most women can have sex with other women without feeling guilt. And we're a lot better at stimulating each other. But it doesn't make us lesbians.

The funny thing is, I can't imagine myself being Lesbian. I mean, at significant times in my life, I feel I really need a man. I need a man to do certain things, to lean on, to carry my stuff. I've joked with my friends that I basically think of men as tools- ranging from the dildo part to the shopping cart and credit card part. But as silly as it sounds, my need is there. I don't know which part of my hetero brain is demanding for it, but I still crave men for their strength.

I can accept a lesbian pair where one is butch with the stereotypical short hair, deep voice, firm tone and the other is more feminine. But I still can't understand lesbian pairs where both are about the same. Without dominance and submission, without a leader or decision maker, I don't know how a pairing could work in the long run.

I think there are quite a lot of people like me who are tolerant of LGBs, but still unable to handle the social dynamic if they are equals. I have no problem calling the dominant lesbian a 'husband' and addressing her as Mr, but when both are wives who want equal quality time with their babies, I don't know how to react.

You can accept lesbians where one is a butch and the other is a femme. The butch dominates and the femme is submissive. That is great. You would accept my Mistress and me. She is a butch without a low voice or short hair. But she dominates me. She made rules for me and I follow all her rules. Among other things, she spanks me to keep me in my place.

I don't call her Mistress but I know she is my Mistress. With her rules, she made my life complete.

 

[bmwf]

Lack of female POV.

Female POV is...

I consider it one of the HUGE failings of porn that blowbangs and bukkakes and forceful blowjobs are never offered from the female POV. Please, we girls need it. Where’s the female POV? Why is it always offered from men’s viewpoints?

Have you ever considered that many women really love being degraded and humiliated and the subject of male sexual aggression? We’re primed to receive your power and sperm and urine. Just do it right, damnit!

I want to see lots of dicks aimed at me. Just like men are turned on by the sight of women’s holes (vaginas), I’m very turned on by the sight of men’s holes – dickholes/ urinary meatus. I want to suck and lick on it. More importantly, I love seeing these explode on my face. It’s a bit nasty and uncomfortable if it hits my eye, but the very act of ejaculation (or pissing) is intensely arousing to women in general. But why if there is a 100 man bukkake, do we girls not get to see 100 dicks spurting on our faces? Everything is taking place from a 3rd person perspective. Which men might identify with. But which women don’t!

Male pornographers tend to be the ones wielding the cameras, which is probably why they don’t like getting their precious cameras covered with sperm. But all women who are getting facialled will see the sperm emerge and hit our faces and maybe slide off our fields of vision! Cum on camera is very important for the purposes of producing porn suitable for women!


I do find it quite exciting to see third person POV of BBC next to or pointing at white faces. Lots of interracial porn features black cock bigger than white faces, and it is so terrifying yet exciting. But that would be nothing compared with a first person POV.

 

[curious28]

Angelyn’s Article: The difference between male and female fantasies

Hello everyone

I have been lurking for a while, with minimum posting. But now I feel like posting some of my thoughts.


Brief intro of myself:

female, slim-mish without being outright skinny, small breasts and butt, holding both white and Asian identities, more than 40 years old, never married, professional academic and real-life nerd. Sexually adventurous but having only a fairly mediocre sex life. Currently I live in a country where I can’t really find an outlet for my fantasies. I am an avid consumer of interracial porn, but also not really that satisfied with most of the porn. My best friends are sex toys, because I’m not really sexually fulfilled by most men I meet. I am not a lesbian at all, yet I really enjoy sexual contact with women.


Why am I posting?

I need a sexual outlet. I fantasize a lot, but my nerd-side tells me to be careful. I can’t just abandon myself and run risks. Women’s sexual fantasies are difficult to fulfill safely. So I yearn for stuff that is often extreme, and which I frankly admit I dare not do in practice.

OK, to the meat of my story. I’m just gonna post my views, maybe not in completely organized format, and maybe in future I will correct or alter or rewrite my post until I’m satisfied. Some of my fantasies have taken place in real life, and others are imagined.

What I want:

I have intense fantasies about interracial sex. Big black men. The biggest black cocks. Muscles. Athletic dominance. Totally jet black skin that contrasts with mine. These are not real life black men/ African-American men but fantasy characters.

I want to be dominated, conquered, mastered and taken. I want to feel feminine, submissive, small. I want my master and I want to obey.

Hardcore porn is so close to what women want, yet it is subtly different because of male biases. The porn establishment aka biggest porn providers of interracial porn always fail in small but important ways to give white / Asian women what they want and need.

hot..........

 

[baldkate]

You can accept lesbians where one is a butch and the other is a femme. The butch dominates and the femme is submissive. That is great. You would accept my Mistress and me. She is a butch without a low voice or short hair. But she dominates me. She made rules for me and I follow all her rules. Among other things, she spanks me to keep me in my place.

I don't call her Mistress but I know she is my Mistress. With her rules, she made my life complete.

I don't want a man or need a man. My Mistress does me with her strap-on and that is enough for me. OK. I have a fantasy. I have never been with one. But a shemale excites me.

 

[baldkate]

hot..........

You know exactly what you want. Pity. You did not find it yet. Although. You love having sex with a woman. Maybe a butch type of woman is the right one for you. I'm sure you can find a lot of them.