after i told my wife. now what?

Vacuckofspades said:
Seems like the seed and there is a bit of curiosity. Does your wife use any sex toys? If so maybe consider getting a blank dildo
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yes, she has some toys that have gotten for her over the years. she has a couple vibrators, some butt plugs and a few other bondage type things. she also has a couple dildos that she's been reluctant to use. (she's really reluctant to any sex toy tbh but every now and then she up for it.)

one of the dildos is an 8", pink, crystal jellies dildo and the other one is a solid black, 10", liquid silicone dildo.

as far as i know, she's only used the pink one and she really seemed to enjoy it. she actually said "you better watch out with that thing. i might end up liking it too much!". of course i reassured her that i hope she does! lol but we've only used it one time.

as far as the bbc dildo that i got for her... we'll thats a little more complicated. i told her that i bought it for her but i haven't brought it out or showed it to her yet. she knows we have it tho. i actually went upstairs one day when i was at home alone to check it out and kind of fantasize about using it and i noticed that the sides of the box that it's in appeared to have oil stains or something. she may have used the damn thing.. lol idk.
 
notblackedyet said:
yes, she has some toys that have gotten for her over the years. she has a couple vibrators, some butt plugs and a few other bondage type things. she also has a couple dildos that she's been reluctant to use. (she's really reluctant to any sex toy tbh but every now and then she up for it.)

one of the dildos is an 8", pink, crystal jellies dildo and the other one is a solid black, 10", liquid silicone dildo.

as far as i know, she's only used the pink one and she really seemed to enjoy it. she actually said "you better watch out with that thing. i might end up liking it too much!". of course i reassured her that i hope she does! lol but we've only used it one time.

as far as the bbc dildo that i got for her... we'll thats a little more complicated. i told her that i bought it for her but i haven't brought it out or showed it to her yet. she knows we have it tho. i actually went upstairs one day when i was at home alone to check it out and kind of fantasize about using it and i noticed that the sides of the box that it's in appeared to have oil stains or something. she may have used the damn thing.. lol idk.
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Discovering she may have used the bbc dildo happen before or after the conversations about your fantasy? Either way I'd officially give her it so it's no longer a secret gift and she may start using it openly
 
dennyli said:
at it keeps growing...bbc i have the pleasure of fucking...came over ..dinner drinks..fun ..then we headed into my bedroom..him hubby me...ravaging each other...hubby .as usual with expert tongue got me off..while i licked sucked gagged on my black lover..then the pounding ..god he took me..after35 minutes or so..huge facial..we showered..hubby slept on couch..was late so i invite my lover to stay over!!!..slept in my bed..while hubby was on couch..morning pee i checked on him..out cold...hoped in bed..bbc morning wood..rolled on top positioned him in my gaped pussy...rode him quitely..when he was going to come..i swallowed the evidence...am i hot wife or he a cuckold!!View attachment 2645218View attachment 2645221View attachment 2645222View attachment 2645223View attachment 2645224View attachment 2645225
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Seems like U 2 r on ur way!???
Congrats & May there be many more poundings be in ur Hotwife escapades ....btw, nice technique on the morning quiet riding.....
 
notblackedyet said:
the discovery was made AFTER our conversation. I would love to officially give it to her but again, i don't want to push. I'm not completely convinced that she has used it. lol Am I being naive?
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I understand wanting to be cautious and not over push. But it seems like there have been a lot of signs to suggest she is thinking about it and curious. Plus it sounds like it has been several weeks since you first brought it up and none since so it's not like you have been pushy. Just say you got her a new toy she might like to try because of the size
 
Vacuckofspades said:
I understand wanting to be cautious and not over push. But it seems like there have been a lot of signs to suggest she is thinking about it and curious. Plus it sounds like it has been several weeks since you first brought it up and none since so it's not like you have been pushy. Just say you got her a new toy she might like to try because of the size
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lol yeahh good point. i'd still prefer it if she came to me and told me that she's be thinking about my fantasy and confess to me that it's been turning her on. i just think i need to keep being patient. i want this to be OUR fantasy and not just my fantasy.

btw, she already knows about the toy. hell, there's a chance its not new anymore..
 
notblackedyet said:
yeah well... i assure you that she's not. We're with each other all the time. She may have had time to use the bbc dildo that I got for her but that's about it.
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But you wish she was though huhh?? You would absolutely ******* if one day she said she had been thinking about what you said and she took it upon herself to do it and she sent you some pictures of her gaped pussy with cum dripping out of her and a BBC in the picture with it!!
 
Robnjenn said:
But you wish she was though huhh?? You would absolutely ******* if one day she said she had been thinking about what you said and she took it upon herself to do it and she sent you some pictures of her gaped pussy with cum dripping out of her and a BBC in the picture with it!!
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Ive been working on my wife for a few years and that's what I'm hoping for! She's not against it but not actively pursuing it either.
 
notblackedyet said:
im not completely sure about this, but it kinda seems like we're not having sex as often since i've shared my interracial fantasy with her.
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Is that because she’s not initiating it or because you’re not? Have you become a little too fixated on this fantasy that it’s completely taken over your mind. Are you regularly jerking off to IR porn imagining it’s your wife being fucked by BBC?

It took me almost 2 years from first mentioning my fantasy to J to her asking me a thousand questions about it, to her finally saying that she would do it at some point in the future. I’m not mentioning it again until she brings it up again. It’s important that they know that sex hasn’t just become about BBC (until of course they’ve experienced it!)
 
Jules4R said:
Is that because she’s not initiating it or because you’re not? Have you become a little too fixated on this fantasy that it’s completely taken over your mind. Are you regularly jerking off to IR porn imagining it’s your wife being fucked by BBC?

It took me almost 2 years from first mentioning my fantasy to J to her asking me a thousand questions about it, to her finally saying that she would do it at some point in the future. I’m not mentioning it again until she brings it up again. It’s important that they know that sex hasn’t just become about BBC (until of course they’ve experienced it!)
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It took my wife more than 4 years after watching a lot of black on white and she wound up being it on from a black guy who came into her office and he did the rest, now she not only had sex with black guys but collared, and you would never think it would be her doing this but she’s very pretty and sweet and black guys love her and her them. And yes we are still happily married and my wife is have the best sex of her life.
 
notblackedyet said:
ive completely opened up to my wife about my interracial fantasies. she is confused and reluctant to entertain the idea. after showing her a small collection of interracial pictures that i put together, she seemed to be at a loss of words and slightly disgusted with me. she said she felt sorry for some of the girls (one gif in particular of a young white girl being gangbanged). i felt so stupid afterwards for showing her the pictures. she doesn't even like porn and here i am showing her a collection of some of the most hardcore ******* on the internet! granted, not all of the pictures were hardcore gangbangs. it was a mixture of softcore images like a sexy white women receiving a massage from a glistening, well-hung black man, and multiple pictures of white girls in awe at the sight of a huge black cock. either way, she was definitely shocked, confused, a little upset, and im sure a wide range of other emotions that i couldn't make out. we talked a lot that night after her initial shock wore off. she doesn't feel like she is enough for me and is worried that my sexual appetite is something that she cant keep up with. she loves our marriage and our sex life just the way it is and doesn't want to pull this thread. she's worried that it will take us down an unhealthy path and wishes i didnt think about things like this. i have expressed to her that i dont want this in real life which i think eased her mind a litlle and i also told her that the interracial gangbang is just a small, occasional fantasy that i have and its the most extreme. i dont think of anything past that. also, i let her no that she is at the center of all of my fantasies. i dont think about other girls. i dont want any other women. i think that eases her mind as well but she's still a little uncomfortable with whole thing. its been a few weeks since i shared all this with her and since then we've moved along with our lives and everything seems to be normal but there's still the underlying reality of my confession hanging over us. we haven't really discussed it any further. i told her that im going to keep these fantasies to myself because i know it makes her uncomfortable and thats the last thing i want. she's glad that i was open and honest with her tho and she knows that i love her with all my heart. i think she just wishes that i didnt have these thoughts..

side note:
we just had our 3 year wedding anniversary an we went to St. Augustine. we had a great time. one night we went to a small burrito shack. the line was supper long and we happened to be behind a group of three young athletic black guys. one the guys was extremely fit! it looked like he had twists or dreds and his shirt was off and he had on tight underarmer looking shorts. i know my wife was checking him out. lol she whispered to me "omg look at his butt. i jus want to pinch it!" and she pretended like she was about to punch his ass. he didnt notice but his friend saw her and quietly laughed. while she was pretending to pinch his butt she whispered again, "should i do it?" i tried to play it cool and said, "go for it baby. what are you gunna do when he turns around?" she jus giggled and said "idk." and put her hand down. my heart was pounding!!! also, another thing happened that i thought was instresting. like a week after we discussed my fantasy, she brought up some of her old boyfriends and said, "since you're into that whole black thing i think you'll get into this." and she started showing me pictures of some of her old boyfriends and guys she's hooked up with and she show me a picture of a mixed guy that she fucked in college. idk i just thought these were some notable incidents that happened after our talk.

ohhh!!!!!
one more thing! she has also rekindled an old friendship with her best friend in college who started dating black guys while they were friends. she said they drifted apart once she started dating black guys. she said she starting changing and they didnt have the same interests anymore. my wife randomly texted her last week and apologized to her for not being a good friend to her when she started changing. i think they're going to meet for lunch this weekend. i told my wife that didnt mind if she talked to her about my fantasy. i kno she doesnt have anyone that she can talk to about this and i want her to have a girl friend that she can vent to and help her process everything that ive shared with her.

anyway, that's where im at.

any advice, criticism, guidance, or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

thank you everyone!
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Before I read your second paragraph, I was going to tell you that she would calm down, and that she would def think about the fantasy. The fact that you were honest now opens her honesty also. Sometimes people feel guilty about being turned on by things so they play it like they're disgusted and then later relax a bit with it. You're on the right path,as a matter of fact I wouldnt be surprised if you end up living out your fantasy in the future. I'm willing to bet on it!
 
notblackedyet said:
ive completely opened up to my wife about my interracial fantasies. she is confused and reluctant to entertain the idea. after showing her a small collection of interracial pictures that i put together, she seemed to be at a loss of words and slightly disgusted with me. she said she felt sorry for some of the girls (one gif in particular of a young white girl being gangbanged). i felt so stupid afterwards for showing her the pictures. she doesn't even like porn and here i am showing her a collection of some of the most hardcore ******* on the internet! granted, not all of the pictures were hardcore gangbangs. it was a mixture of softcore images like a sexy white women receiving a massage from a glistening, well-hung black man, and multiple pictures of white girls in awe at the sight of a huge black cock. either way, she was definitely shocked, confused, a little upset, and im sure a wide range of other emotions that i couldn't make out. we talked a lot that night after her initial shock wore off. she doesn't feel like she is enough for me and is worried that my sexual appetite is something that she cant keep up with. she loves our marriage and our sex life just the way it is and doesn't want to pull this thread. she's worried that it will take us down an unhealthy path and wishes i didnt think about things like this. i have expressed to her that i dont want this in real life which i think eased her mind a litlle and i also told her that the interracial gangbang is just a small, occasional fantasy that i have and its the most extreme. i dont think of anything past that. also, i let her no that she is at the center of all of my fantasies. i dont think about other girls. i dont want any other women. i think that eases her mind as well but she's still a little uncomfortable with whole thing. its been a few weeks since i shared all this with her and since then we've moved along with our lives and everything seems to be normal but there's still the underlying reality of my confession hanging over us. we haven't really discussed it any further. i told her that im going to keep these fantasies to myself because i know it makes her uncomfortable and thats the last thing i want. she's glad that i was open and honest with her tho and she knows that i love her with all my heart. i think she just wishes that i didnt have these thoughts..

side note:
we just had our 3 year wedding anniversary an we went to St. Augustine. we had a great time. one night we went to a small burrito shack. the line was supper long and we happened to be behind a group of three young athletic black guys. one the guys was extremely fit! it looked like he had twists or dreds and his shirt was off and he had on tight underarmer looking shorts. i know my wife was checking him out. lol she whispered to me "omg look at his butt. i jus want to pinch it!" and she pretended like she was about to punch his ass. he didnt notice but his friend saw her and quietly laughed. while she was pretending to pinch his butt she whispered again, "should i do it?" i tried to play it cool and said, "go for it baby. what are you gunna do when he turns around?" she jus giggled and said "idk." and put her hand down. my heart was pounding!!! also, another thing happened that i thought was instresting. like a week after we discussed my fantasy, she brought up some of her old boyfriends and said, "since you're into that whole black thing i think you'll get into this." and she started showing me pictures of some of her old boyfriends and guys she's hooked up with and she show me a picture of a mixed guy that she fucked in college. idk i just thought these were some notable incidents that happened after our talk.

ohhh!!!!!
one more thing! she has also rekindled an old friendship with her best friend in college who started dating black guys while they were friends. she said they drifted apart once she started dating black guys. she said she starting changing and they didnt have the same interests anymore. my wife randomly texted her last week and apologized to her for not being a good friend to her when she started changing. i think they're going to meet for lunch this weekend. i told my wife that didnt mind if she talked to her about my fantasy. i kno she doesnt have anyone that she can talk to about this and i want her to have a girl friend that she can vent to and help her process everything that ive shared with her.

anyway, that's where im at.

any advice, criticism, guidance, or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

thank you everyone!
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start talking nasty to her while ur fucking. thats how my hubby got me curious and now i want it!
 
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