While African men tend to dismiss the influence of women. They are often the driving force behind successful African communities. In politics African women have achieved extraordinary power often by being more ruthless than the men, Mugabe seems to have managed to downgrade one of the most dangerous women in Africa from her post in the Zimbabwe Government and this may help to prevent Harare descending into a wild west shoot out on his passing away. The fact that many African men can have more than one wife completely changes the dynamics of sexual relationships in the family. One of the most fascinating African women I met was the 3rd wife of an African businessman. In saying she was his 3rd wife he was still married to the other two. She seemed to a be real sexual predator who fully understood that remaining 'favourite' wife status meant delivering what her husband wanted. Her favourite 'toy' was a carved rhinoceros horn strap on dildo which she happily used on white males or females. She once told me she was not really a lesbian, but nevertheless having spent her early years as a maid in a white household, nothing give her such a thrill as having a white female grovelling on her knees in front of her between her legs. Having the power to make white women please her like that give her intense satisfaction.