Rachel, there's that old '60s song by Neil Sedaka that goes
"breaking up is hard to do" ... and it really is. Men seem to not handle sudden breakups as well as women. I know when the first, real love-of- my-life broke up with me, I went into severe depression and had to go on medication for a couple months. I've followed your posts for a while now, and you'll have to admit that you're pretty blunt in how you deliver your thoughts ... as am I, but I'm a man, and callous to begin with, so says my wife. Which is a lie 'cause the women in my house have me wrapped around their fingers.
Anyways, having spent the time you did with your X, I'm sure you still have some feelings for him, particularly if you produced children by him. But, the best thing you can do for him
now (unless you desire to ******* him more) is to totally stay out of his life for a while and allow him time to
"get his ******* together" as they say. It takes guys 2-3 years sometimes. It took me 2 years and meeting my wife to get over that bitch. I don't hold any hostilities toward her now, but at one time I did. Her breaking up with me resulted in my meeting my wife, however, and I wouldn't swap her for any slut walking.
Mac