I am an Asian husband married to my beautiful Asian wife for 11 years. I love her deeply but for a long time now I also have this strong desire and fantasy of her being with her first black man and first BBC Bull. I have told her my fantasy a couple years ago and it didn't go over too well. She said no and its weird so I left it at that. Since then I have been working on her since then to open up more sexually, have more confidence in her looks, and strengthening our communication.
With that said, I have read many posts and articles on her and other forums/pages and while there is great advice none of it I find pertains to convincing very reserved traditional Asian Wives. I read that amazing thread on to get your wife to be a bbc hotwife for dummies however again it doesn't really cover advice on sexually conservative wives.
She is not americanized Asian wife and has those cultural barriers but I know theres a wild side in there cause I have seen it a few times.
I would love to see if anyone has some real solid advice on how to get your reserved Asian Wife to become a BBC Hotwife.
hello,
we are both asians and i succeeded in convincing my wife so i thought i would try and help you out, fulfilling your dreams of cuckolding.
first, the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.
i think what you have going for you is the fact that you mentioned about your wife,
having 'lots of kink ideas of her own when we’re making out'.
this is a very good sign. this means the thoughts are there and you must slowly nurture them. you need patience, persistence and always non-pushy. 3 very important elements.
1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.
2. never push her. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.
this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you.
3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).
this was one of the methods i used on my wife......
my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).
so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friends. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won.
about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.
about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!
with this i knew i was doing the right things.
10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.
after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.
she enjoyed herself at the party. and it was enjoyable to watch her too.
so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.
we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.
additionally, compliment her dressing, her beauty, her sexiness. and do it truthfully. women can tell if you are bull-shitting or theres something behind the compliments.
send her flowers, chocolates at her workplace. let her feel proud in front of her friends, family.
this is an entire package of things you need to do. men are different. we only want 1 thing. with women it takes many things. and your heart.
i honestly did all these things to convince, cajole and encourage my wife. it took me more than a year before she agreed to join me in a swing party. happiest moment of my life.
dan
