If the woman wants it gentle (for real, not just playing coy), but you like things rough, what do you do? Give it to her gentle because you ultimately want to please her? Stay away, because if she doesn't want it rough, then you're not interested? Or tell her you'll go gentle and then give it to her rough anyway, because you're the boss? Interested in your feedback and opinions. . All of this is pretty new to me. Thanks.